Any women out there who thought about adoption but chose to keep their baby in the end?
Krista asked:
I am due in June and am a teen. I thought about adoption a lot, but I am pretty sure I am going to keep my baby. But some days I feel so confident about keeping her, and other days I feel like I should do adoption because I am so young and feel like I will not be strong enough at this point to raise a child. Just looking for your personal experiences, and whether you regret anything. Thanks!
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I am due in June and am a teen. I thought about adoption a lot, but I am pretty sure I am going to keep my baby. But some days I feel so confident about keeping her, and other days I feel like I should do adoption because I am so young and feel like I will not be strong enough at this point to raise a child. Just looking for your personal experiences, and whether you regret anything. Thanks!
April 18th, 2010 at 1:53 pm
you may regret it .. thats all im sayin .. my friend had a baby at 15 got her GED and i lost touch with her but i know she is living alone now with her baby and happy ( shes 20 now ) Claire
April 19th, 2010 at 6:30 am
I have two friends who were in your situation. One was 16 when it happened, the other was 19. They both ended up placing their daughters for adoption. They both have open adoptions and have some level of contact with the children they placed. They were both able to live full lives and have gotten married and had more children when they were ready and mature enough to raise them. I also have a friend who had a baby at 16, was planning on placing and at the last minute didn’t. She had another baby before she was 18. They live in squalor and depend on her parents to take care of them. I’m not saying that either of these situations will necessarily happen to you, this is just what I’ve seen. Seriously sit down and think about what is best for the child. Not how you’ll feel or what you’ll have to go through. Once you became pregnant it all became about the baby. Be honest with yourself and you’ll figure out what’s best. HighC
April 19th, 2010 at 10:59 am
you need to look at all aspects of the adoption issue. read the praise and criticism. people like to say that the people on the adoption forum are bitter. but their feelings have merit too. you should think about your baby. that means thinking about how the baby will feel years later when the reality of the situation sets in. it probably won’t be a happy time.
also, there is no law that enforces open adoption. you will most likely not see your baby ever again at some point, until the baby is old enough to find you. that is something to think about. drasticbarbie