Comments on: Can a soon to be mother put her baby up for adoption without father’s consent?

By: California berries

California berries — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 17:39:19 +0000

Get a lawyer. Contact the hospital (any hospital) for information, keep going until you find something useful.Contact adoption agency in your town or in your state, ask questions. She can not give the baby up for adoption without you signing over your rights. And if she does, you can obtain a DNA to prove you are the father. Don’t just sit, start moving before it’s too late. California berries

By: Chelsey

Chelsey — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 15:35:56 +0000

Truthfully the father has no right to the BABY until its born, because if he did then why is it a woman can get an abortion with or without the mans permission? Its because its her body, she can do what she wants. And if she really doesn’t want him to have rights to the baby, then she should but father unknown on the baby’s birth certificate!! Chelsey

By: LindseyTaylor

LindseyTaylor — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 13:58:09 +0000

She can put him up for adoption and have the baby with an adoptive family usually within 48 hours, depending on the state laws they can usually have the baby across state lines within 2 weeks. All without the fathers permission. Sometimes the mother claims she doesn’t know who the father is and sometimes the agency is so set on placing the baby they’ll tell the mother not to claim anyone as the father. They’ll put a public notice in the paper where they think no one will look and find ways to declare the father as legally abandoning his child.

They can not say he is not allowed to be at the hospital technically but if the family is making such a big fuss over him being there they will ask him to leave to keep the peace. Officially he probably won’t be able to stay since at the time he wouldn’t be able to prove 100% he’s the father but it would be in his best interest to go up there at least to show he is putting effort towards taking responsibility for his child…have him talk to everyone he can and insist that a DNA test be done. Also look into the registry in your state.

The adoption can be overturned if there is foul play and the father still has legal rights but do you really want to take a chance with them pulling one over on everyone?? I would do everything you could to make sure that he is going through EVERY channel he can to show he wants to take responsibility…

Do not let anyone tell you (him) that he doesn’t have rights! LindseyTaylor

By: sizesmith

sizesmith — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 11:39:10 +0000

By law, he needs to go to the county clerk’s office and sign on the putative father registry. This is a registry where a man says that he believes he is the father to a baby born or to be born to (mother’s name), on (approximate due date or birth date). The more information he can put down to identify the child, the better.

By signing on this registry, it will assert his rights as a father. Since he believes that she’s trying to place the baby for adoption, he needs to put that information, and also, when he goes to court on the protective order, he needs to show up, and he needs to state that he wishes to parent the child.

By enrolling in parenting courses, and anger management courses, it will be an extreme measure to show that he’s making an effort to be a better person and to be a fantastic father. Also, he can ask for a hearing to get custody of the child.

The other thing he needs to do is to provide for the child financially. If he takes a group of diapers, onesies, coupons for diapers and formula, and an assortment of bath items and a few little toys that are age appropriate for a newborn, it will show that he’s really trying, and that he is trying to work with the mother, despite any issues she has with him. I really urge him to get an attorney, even if it’s a public defender or legal aid. Department of Human Services might also help him since she’s trying to place the baby for adoption.

Once he gets a certified copy of the putative father registry, I’d urge him to personally take a copy to every hospital in the area, and explain the situation, and that the police are to be notified before anyone can pick up the child and dismiss it from the hospital.
Good luck. sizesmith

By: Elecia

Elecia — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 11:21:30 +0000

THAT IS REALLY SAD TO HEAR BUT ACTUALLY YES SHE CAN BECAUSE I JUST RECENTLY DID THE SAME THING…..HOWEVER IF YOU ARE THE FATHER AND WANT THE BABY YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO THE BABY……..THE BABY WILL BE IN THE ADOPTION REGISTRY AND AT ANYTIME WITHIN 30 DAYS OF HER SIGNING THE BABY YOU CAN FIND THE BABY IN THE REGISTRY AND FILE FOR CUSTODY…….FYI YOU CAN ALSO PREVENT THIS BEFORE SHE GOES THROUGH WITH IT BECAUSE A BABY CAN ONLY BE PUT UP FOR ADOPTION IF THE MOTHER AND FATHER SIGN OFF AND SINCE YOU ARE AROUND YOU CAN FILE FOR HER PAPERS TO BE CONSIDERED VOID…….GET A LAWYER Elecia

By: MC Eee

MC Eee — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 14:34:11 +0000

Get him on the putative father’s registry, if there is one in his state, and make sure he appears at any court hearings. What state is he in? I can help get him/you more resources. MC Eee

By: joey09231973

joey09231973 — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 05:28:55 +0000

I THINK YOU NEED THE FATHER’S CONSENT FOR ANYTHING CONCERNING THE CHILD. IF THE FATHER HAS PASSED ON THEN MAYBE YOU HAVE A CHANCE TO GET A JUDGE’S APPROVAL ON THE ADOPTION. BUT BE PREPARED FOR A FIGHT FROM THE PATERNAL GRANDPARENTS. joey09231973

By: Christy

Christy — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 00:34:26 +0000

he is the father he is allowed unless court ordered contact a lawyer asap Christy