Comments on: Can i get my baby back after placing him for adoption?

By: Chikitabby

Chikitabby — Tue, 19 May 2009 07:14:59 +0000

i don’t think so.
you gave up your child, you lost it.
what were you thinking?? ahhh

By: michyme

michyme — Sat, 16 May 2009 06:53:01 +0000

NO!!!!!!!!!!! Selfish much!!!!!

By: Veronica

Veronica — Thu, 14 May 2009 05:47:08 +0000

Noooo. LOL. You can’t.

By: amftgb

amftgb — Wed, 13 May 2009 16:45:38 +0000

Think about what you are doing to the parents who adopted your baby. They wanted a baby very badly, jumped through 1,000,000 hoops, and now you are going to just take it back? I think you are being selfish at this point.

By: myst1998

myst1998 — Wed, 13 May 2009 06:23:58 +0000

I am so sorry people have been nasty to you. Those who say this is wrong have no clue what they are talking about and have a very sick sense of morality!

Unfortunately, once the adoption is finalised, there is likely very little, if any chance of reclaiming your child. I would suggest locating an attorney - and don’t go with the first one, look around and locate someone who is sympathetic to your cause.

So many people criticise mothers for wanting to parent their own children after placing due to pressure but they think it is okay for PAP’s and agencies to prey on, pressure, coerce and scare young women into placing. What a sick, revolting world we live in!

Again, I am very sorry for your loss of your son. Don’t listen to those who do not have any idea what you are talking about and want to put you down. You do not deserve that and you have already been through enough.

Take care.

By: Crucio

Crucio — Sun, 10 May 2009 14:27:36 +0000

No you can’t adoption is not a temporary situation. If the adoption of your natural child was done completely legal then no you can’t get the child back. Even if you had a reclaim period if it’s been nearly a year it will long have expired. The rare situation where an adoption is able to be overturned after the reclaim period has expired are cases in which the adoption was not legally done or in many cases where the biological father did not give up his rights. Even in that there are some ways the father’s rights can be automatically terminated with out him signing his rights away. If you feel you were coerced you could try to use that but you’d have to have proof and evidence plus they would ask why you waited nearly a year.

You can consult an attorney but most likely you will just have to live with the decision that you made and maybe in 17 + years your natural child will attempt to locate you.

By: icehockeymom7

icehockeymom7 — Sat, 09 May 2009 06:53:15 +0000

I’m sorry, but I don’t think it will be possible. Legally, this baby is no longer your baby. You could always check with an attorney, I am pretty sure you could find one who would not charge you for a consultation. But I would not get your hopes up, as it is very unlikely that you could get the baby back. This is why pre-birth matching really makes me sad…..there is just no way a woman in such a vulnerable position can make an objective decision. I’m so sorry for your pain. There are so many other women in your position who could provide you with emotional support and who would understand how you are feeling, some are even on this list. Hopefully you will be able to find some support. Wishing you the best.

By: Felicita1

Felicita1 — Thu, 07 May 2009 18:07:51 +0000

I got my son back, but I had to wait 20 years in order to do it. Most people who get their children back at younger ages do so because the adoption was proven illegal at some point, or they asked for the child back in a state where there was a revokation period and that period had not elapsed yet .

If you were coerced (i.e. pressured or forced) to surrender your baby, you may be able to sue the agency. Especially if you have documentation. If someone put you into the untenable position of having been hooked up with prospective adopters and not able to recover from birth first before making any decision about adoption (a common agency tactic to prevent you from changing your mind), then you should speak out about this form of abuse and exploitation, as you were used. But you still likely won’t be able to get your baby back as the laws were crafted to serve the adoption industry and its clients, and under the law you are now considered to have been an “unfit” mother for having ‘abandoned’ your baby. Sorry, but that’s the legal reality of adoption. Good luck — maybe you can get the adoption opened.

By: Real Moms Raise Their Children

Real Moms Raise Their Children — Mon, 04 May 2009 14:51:05 +0000

No you can’t. You made a choice. Legally, the baby is no longer yours (especially since it’s been a year). Don’t blame others for a choice you made. You can not ‘win’ your child back. Sorry.

Gotta live with the consequences of your actions, just like everyone else.

By: monkeykitty83

monkeykitty83 — Sun, 03 May 2009 16:45:29 +0000

After a year, it is highly, highly unlikely. Many states allow a revocation period during which you could have changed your mind, but it is nowhere near that long. At this point, the adoption is likely finalized, making the adoptive parents the legal parents to the child.

If you feel you were the victim of fraud or illegality, you should contact a lawyer about contesting the adoption. Those are the adoptions that sometimes get overturned– if actual laws were broken.

In your own case, unless you have a legal reason to challenge the adoption, it is too late to reclaim your child. There are time limits on how long you can change your mind. I’m sorry for your situation, and your regrets, but there’s not much to be done at this point.

I suggest you contact the adoptive parents or agency and see if an open adoption is a possibility. Then you would at least have visits and communication with your child, even though you can’t get custody back.