If you are capable of taking care of your baby, and want your baby, it will be hard as hell for him to get custody in the first place. He would have to prove you unfit. This usually means you live in such a way that puts the baby in danger or don’t want the baby or abuse the baby. Additionally, even if he puts his name on the birth certificate, he is not the LEGAL father until he either says he is so in front of a judge or submits to a paternity test and puts that evidence before a judge. He has no rights otherwise. You could have gotten pregnant by anyone yet only you can be the mother because hospital records prove the baby came out of you. You can tell anyone you want that they are the father and the only way to prove it is in court.

On top of all this, custody usually does not mean sole custody without visitation rights. It would mean that one person is the custodial parent and the other is the non-custodial parent. Then there are 50-50 split arrangements. It depends on your situation and what you agree to and what the judge says.

OK second point - if he does manage to get custody and then tries to put the baby up for adoption, child protective services would get involved. If they really can’t put the family back together, they would try to find the nearest relative available to take care of the baby first, such as a grandparent or you. That’s right, you. Unless your parental rights were revoked completely, which only happens in cases of extreme abuse or neglect, the baby would be returned to you.

He’s bluffing and being a drama queen. Get all the child support you can out of him.

IF (and only if) you are shown unfit, law in most states require that CPS give you at least one year to work the service plan and get your child returned to you. Occasionally CPS will ask for early termination if the mother is not trying.

As for CPS taking children over allegations that are unfounded, that is complete crap. I was a CPS investigator, to remove a child due to drugs, we had to have a positive UA and if it was a newborn, the baby must have tested positive also.

Also, in some states, he could tell the hospital that you are a drug user or child abuser and CPS may take your baby into custody at birth, as it only takes unproven allegations for a child to be apprehended, as they place the safety of a child above the rights of the parent. The child is removed UNTIL the situation is proven safe to return the child.

Good luck. I think that you need your own lawyer on this, but ensure they do not belong to the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys or you may be right out of luck, as these are baby brokers who make money from every adoption. If they can sell your baby for $25,000 (what a healthy white newborn can go for these days), they will.

Keep in mind that children cannot be legally adopted unless:
1) both parents sign papers to relinquish custody
2) courts have legally removed child from parental custody due to drug use, or other crimes.
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You might check out the link above, just to see what your ex might be “thinking.”..forewarned is forearmed.

- paternity showing that he is the biological father;
- that you are unfit to parent the baby and that the baby would be in danger with you; and
- that IF you are unfit, you are not able to reform your ways and parent the child safely and appropriately.

Since you say that you are not unfit and that the child is not going to be in any danger or unfit circumstance I suspect he is just posturing to either try to get out of child support or just because he’s a control freak.