Can my mom make me give my baby up for adoption?
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I’ll be seventeen when my baby’s born.. and my mom got mad at me and is telling me she can get a court order anywhere in the United States to make me give my baby up for adoption.. Is she lying?
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I’ll be seventeen when my baby’s born.. and my mom got mad at me and is telling me she can get a court order anywhere in the United States to make me give my baby up for adoption.. Is she lying?
December 21st, 2009 at 4:29 pm
no…she can’t make you. FlyingMonkeySwatter
December 23rd, 2009 at 4:59 pm
yes, you are the legal parent. she can’t legally make you do anything Tit for Tat
December 24th, 2009 at 10:09 am
No, You Laid down and had that Baby and you should have the Chance to make the choice to as whether you want to keep it or not! jesuschild2712@yahoo.com
December 25th, 2009 at 1:41 pm
Yes she is lying, you have full parental rights(and responsibilities) to the child as well as full medical control over your care during pregnancy. Your mother retains full parental rights(And responsibilities) over you, but has very little say in how you parent your child. She could make a false abuse report against you(I hope she wouldn’t as this takes time from truly abused children who need help), in witch case, the report should be found unsubstantiated(unless of course their is abuse) and then closed Lucky
December 25th, 2009 at 7:23 pm
You have to consent and so does the baby’s father.
Unless there is some legal loophole about your state of mind, I think she is bluffing and trying to scare you.
She might be scared for you too. But she still shouldn’t be coercing you like this. Ferbs
December 28th, 2009 at 1:19 am
No she cannot make you give your child (btw her grandchild) up for adoption. There is no court anywhere in the US (not even Utah - the uber “violate natural birth parents rights” state) that will allow her to do that.
I recommend these two WEB sites:
For your mom:
and for you:
Both expose the lies about adoption. Your baby needs you - no one else. grapesgum
December 29th, 2009 at 6:43 am
no she cant make you give your child up Kiki2007
December 29th, 2009 at 11:50 am
I don’t know your mom, so I can’t say for sure that she’s lying (she might think she can and just not know). No one can make you place the baby for adoption. She can place you into foster care, but chances are, as you said, she’s mad right now, and probably just as much at herself as she is you.
A mother knows that having a child at 17 is very hard. On top of that, your mother will be financially responsible for you, and having another child added can be extremely difficult. She also knows that it’s important for you to get your education, and at the same time, she’s almost got you raised, and then there’s another life to add to it. She’s not only overwhelmed, but at the same time, she’s scared with you, for you, and for the baby.
Give your mom a chance to calm down. Try to be positive in the morning, and I’d suggest to not bring the subject up until she’s calmed down more. Be confident in knowing that she cannot make you place the baby. She also cannot legally throw you out of the house. Quite frankly, she cannot make you keep or give up the baby legally. Once a woman is pregnant, the legal system treats her decisions more as an adult.
To help ease her mind, and to help you out, there’s some things you need to be aware of. You can qualify for medicaid under many programs, unless she’s upper middle class income or higher. There’s special programs for women in your situation. There’s some great internet resources out there about pregnancy, and to show her the laws about adoption, just in case she brings up the subject again, go to, where it will tell who can and can’t sign for adoptions.
Unless your mom has a history of temper tantrums, neglect, or abuse, chances are she’s mostly just disappointed, and quite frankly, she’ll probably make a terrific grandmother because she cares that much. If things continue to be this stressed, I’d urge some counseling, and you can ask your school counselor for this, and for other resources to help with the pregnancy, and for daycare for the baby once he/she is here, because you’ll really need to get your education to support him/her. Good luck! sizesmith
December 29th, 2009 at 9:49 pm
Your mom is just trying to do that to scare you.As far i know your mom has NO parental rights to the baby which means that she can not MAKE you give the baby up.She should be supporting you in whatever decision that you make! Lexi’s Mommy
January 1st, 2010 at 8:37 am
lol, people say idiotic things when they are mad.
NOBODY can legally make you give your child up for adoption or get an abortion for that matter unless you are neglegent.If that’s the case it will be a long drown out process but I doubt you have to worry about that.Only the mother and father of the child have any rights to that child.
She can make your life a living hell as long as you live in her house though.Once that baby comes, she’ll change her mind. nelawala
January 4th, 2010 at 12:55 pm
What your mother is doing is coercive and she has no right to be. It is a form of bullying as well as lying so stand your ground and insist that as you’re the legal mother of your child and it’s your choice to be a parent. Pip
January 8th, 2010 at 12:45 am
there are alot of things that she can do to you, Kick you out, refuse to help, call cps etc..
But forcing you to place your baby for adoption absolutely not it is illegal.
Good luck with your new family 1craftymomma