Comments on: Can my mom make me give my baby up for adoption?

By: 1craftymomma

1craftymomma — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 05:45:35 +0000

there are alot of things that she can do to you, Kick you out, refuse to help, call cps etc..
But forcing you to place your baby for adoption absolutely not it is illegal.

Good luck with your new family 1craftymomma

By: Pip

Pip — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 17:55:12 +0000

What your mother is doing is coercive and she has no right to be. It is a form of bullying as well as lying so stand your ground and insist that as you’re the legal mother of your child and it’s your choice to be a parent. Pip

By: nelawala

nelawala — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 13:37:42 +0000

lol, people say idiotic things when they are mad.

NOBODY can legally make you give your child up for adoption or get an abortion for that matter unless you are neglegent.If that’s the case it will be a long drown out process but I doubt you have to worry about that.Only the mother and father of the child have any rights to that child.

She can make your life a living hell as long as you live in her house though.Once that baby comes, she’ll change her mind. nelawala

By: Lexi's Mommy

Lexi's Mommy — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 02:49:40 +0000

Your mom is just trying to do that to scare you.As far i know your mom has NO parental rights to the baby which means that she can not MAKE you give the baby up.She should be supporting you in whatever decision that you make! Lexi’s Mommy

By: sizesmith

sizesmith — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 16:50:18 +0000

I don’t know your mom, so I can’t say for sure that she’s lying (she might think she can and just not know). No one can make you place the baby for adoption. She can place you into foster care, but chances are, as you said, she’s mad right now, and probably just as much at herself as she is you.

A mother knows that having a child at 17 is very hard. On top of that, your mother will be financially responsible for you, and having another child added can be extremely difficult. She also knows that it’s important for you to get your education, and at the same time, she’s almost got you raised, and then there’s another life to add to it. She’s not only overwhelmed, but at the same time, she’s scared with you, for you, and for the baby.

Give your mom a chance to calm down. Try to be positive in the morning, and I’d suggest to not bring the subject up until she’s calmed down more. Be confident in knowing that she cannot make you place the baby. She also cannot legally throw you out of the house. Quite frankly, she cannot make you keep or give up the baby legally. Once a woman is pregnant, the legal system treats her decisions more as an adult.

To help ease her mind, and to help you out, there’s some things you need to be aware of. You can qualify for medicaid under many programs, unless she’s upper middle class income or higher. There’s special programs for women in your situation. There’s some great internet resources out there about pregnancy, and to show her the laws about adoption, just in case she brings up the subject again, go to, where it will tell who can and can’t sign for adoptions.

Unless your mom has a history of temper tantrums, neglect, or abuse, chances are she’s mostly just disappointed, and quite frankly, she’ll probably make a terrific grandmother because she cares that much. If things continue to be this stressed, I’d urge some counseling, and you can ask your school counselor for this, and for other resources to help with the pregnancy, and for daycare for the baby once he/she is here, because you’ll really need to get your education to support him/her. Good luck! sizesmith

By: Kiki2007

Kiki2007 — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 11:43:04 +0000

no she cant make you give your child up Kiki2007

By: grapesgum

grapesgum — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 06:19:30 +0000

No she cannot make you give your child (btw her grandchild) up for adoption. There is no court anywhere in the US (not even Utah - the uber “violate natural birth parents rights” state) that will allow her to do that.

I recommend these two WEB sites:

For your mom:

and for you:

Both expose the lies about adoption. Your baby needs you - no one else. grapesgum

By: Ferbs

Ferbs — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 00:23:29 +0000

You have to consent and so does the baby’s father.

Unless there is some legal loophole about your state of mind, I think she is bluffing and trying to scare you.

She might be scared for you too. But she still shouldn’t be coercing you like this. Ferbs

By: Lucky

Lucky — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 18:41:58 +0000

Yes she is lying, you have full parental rights(and responsibilities) to the child as well as full medical control over your care during pregnancy. Your mother retains full parental rights(And responsibilities) over you, but has very little say in how you parent your child. She could make a false abuse report against you(I hope she wouldn’t as this takes time from truly abused children who need help), in witch case, the report should be found unsubstantiated(unless of course their is abuse) and then closed Lucky

By: jesuschild2712@yahoo.com

jesuschild2712@yahoo.com — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 15:09:12 +0000

No, You Laid down and had that Baby and you should have the Chance to make the choice to as whether you want to keep it or not! jesuschild2712@yahoo.com