Can you be happy after giving your baby up for adoption?


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Monique F asked:


I am 9 weeks pregnant and I am seriously considering giving this little one up for adoption. Not because I wouldn’t love the baby but because I am poor, I have three other children and my husband has just left me. But I have no reference for what it’s like for the birth mother after the process or if most children are okay with being adopted. Anyone please share.

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7 Responses to “Can you be happy after giving your baby up for adoption?”

  1. Bella'sMommy Says:
    January 21st, 2009 at 9:11 am

    I totally respect you that you would do that by doing the adoption verses abortion. Abortion is just so cruel!!. I understand your situation and it must be hard, be strong and ask god for guidance.

  2. Krazythugzsta Says:
    January 22nd, 2009 at 10:50 pm

    If you are giving your baby to the right parent then yes, you can be happy.

  3. Jessica M Says:
    January 23rd, 2009 at 8:19 pm

    totally as an adopted child i know that my birthmother did this because it was best for me. she was in the same position you are in…you can opt for an open adoption where you can still stay in contact with the family….its great i have the best like i can have because my mom loved me enough to give me up….if you think it is the right decision …you can rest easy knowing what you did was right and for the best…

  4. hmv_84 Says:
    January 26th, 2009 at 11:04 am

    My mother was put up for adoption since her birth mother was on drugs bad. My mom is so thankful for the the family she had growing up. Honestly though, I’m not sure if your situation necessarily calls for adoption. You may have to struggle for awhile but eventually you can put your life back in order. I think it would be hard to give a baby up for adoption especially after having 3 children already. It’s a tough place your in right now. Good Luck with whatever you decide.

  5. masonsmomm08 Says:
    January 27th, 2009 at 11:29 pm

    i give you a thumbs up! for doing this if you know you can’t give your child a good life not that you wouldn’t try then i totally suport you in your decision. but on the down side it is not going to be easy you can look up adoption agencies to go to that will help you out with picking a fmaily and you can also have an open adoption meaning you will be able to have little or alot of contact with your child google it!

    good luck!

    i will give you some websites!

  6. nikkibaby. Says:
    January 30th, 2009 at 3:46 am

    Of course. Or maybe, if you would like to keep the baby, see if relatives will help you out.

    I know adoption is a hard thing to go through for both the parent and the child.

    My mom gave a child up for adoption 21 years ago and still feels horrible about it, and the girl hunted my mom down and is a total NUT. It’s complicated but the girl was not raised properly. She does love my mom for doing what was best(my mom was broke as hell)

    My sister’s boyfriend and his brother were adopted and they have no desire to even know who their real parents are.

    But in some cases (like in my moms) they will hunt you down, and love you for doing what was best for them.

    good luck.

  7. A.Sholan Says:
    January 31st, 2009 at 9:36 pm

    Absolutley not! I would never in my wildest dreams give up a child!

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