Can you give baby for adoption.what if he dosnt want to sign over his rights?
BabyLove asked:
he dosnt want to sign nothing , but im not giving this baby to him because he dosnt have a home and no job and cant take care of our girl . i would rather have her live better than that , and im in a worse situation myself lost my job and im about to loose my apartment !
We have been dating for 4 years never has he acted like this until i got pregnant ! if i knew he was like this do uthink i would want to sleep with him?
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he dosnt want to sign nothing , but im not giving this baby to him because he dosnt have a home and no job and cant take care of our girl . i would rather have her live better than that , and im in a worse situation myself lost my job and im about to loose my apartment !
We have been dating for 4 years never has he acted like this until i got pregnant ! if i knew he was like this do uthink i would want to sleep with him?
April 16th, 2009 at 11:18 am
you would probably have to seek sole custody first in a court.
April 17th, 2009 at 7:27 am
either you get your job back, get another job find somewhere else to live and keep her. You’ll never forgive yourself by giving up ur baby.
Or get custody and just say u went to mexico and had sex with a guy you meet and you tried asking his parents where he was and no matter where u go u cant find him. So you’ll get full costudy, then u can sign her over to another family. Thats if u really really dont want ur bby’s daddy to have any rights to her.
April 17th, 2009 at 9:22 am
He has as much claim to the child as you do. The only difference right now is that you have custody however if you choose to give that up he has the right to have the child unless you or someone else can prove that he is unfit. If you want to place the child for adoption and he refuses to consent then he either has the child himself or it will be placed into foster care where it will at least be cared for.
April 17th, 2009 at 9:59 am
There are many programs designed to help women keep their children. No one will be better for your girl other than her mother.
Yes, he will have to sign over his rights if you ultimately decide to give your child away, but you do not have to do that.
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April 18th, 2009 at 2:19 pm
This baby is a life now and not a possession for you to say who it goes to and who it doesn’t.
You are BOTH parents to the child and have equal responsibility. If this was such a horrible guy, why did you choose to not only have sex with him but also have a child by him? Now that you made the choice, he deserves access to his lil girl. If you don’t want custody and he wants to step up, let him.
April 21st, 2009 at 2:44 pm
This is a 50 50 deal. The child is his too. If he doesn’t want to sign his rights away….then no adoption.
ETA:
Good gosh!! To the posters below…..you cannot take your unwanted baby to the state social services and tell them the baby daddy doesn’t have a job and you don’t want him to parent and say “here you go”…….You PPL haven’t got a fliipin’ clue. If the baby daddy wants to parent his child……..then let him parent his child. You dated himn for four years and he was apaprently good enough then……….so hope like he!! he gets it together. If you don’t want to parent the baby…..then let the baby have his/her daddy. IF the mom did take the baby to foster care….then that is abandonment on the mom’s part and they would call the dad and tell him to come get his kid and MAKE sure the mom has a record and SHE would have to work a treatment plan.
And to the other poster……..why would you suggest this woman keep the baby for six months and then HOPe he abandons the BABY and then file TPR on him. Don’t you think that baby has already attached to the mom?? Pathetic!!
April 24th, 2009 at 2:23 pm
There are no infants who would willingly sign up for a life without mom and dad.
April 26th, 2009 at 11:13 pm
I am sure you love your child but why giving it for adoption if you can ask your parent or any family member who can help you out till you get a new job and settle your life once again. Asking for help is not a big thing if you wanted too and for me I will do everything to race my own child with or without a dad. Think carefully and make sure you wont regret on your decision. You are a better person and a mom for your child so keep it and nothing is impossible as long you keep trying.
April 30th, 2009 at 2:54 am
Both parents need to consent to the adoption for the adoption to be legal and finalized. If the father doesn’t want to give up his rights, then the woman can’t give the baby up for adoption.
May 2nd, 2009 at 3:40 am
You have no choice in this matter. If you do not want to parent and he does, then that is his right. There are load of support programs through government and charity services out there for parents of all genders and if you won’t seek them out then he can.
The only way you can prevent him from “getting” your daughter is to parent her yourself. Adoption can not go through legally without his consent.
May 3rd, 2009 at 12:34 am
OK i THOUGHT YOU SAID YOU HAD A 1 NIGHT STAND WHAT IS GOING ON? NOW YOUR DATING FOR 4 YEARS AND FOR THE 4 YEARS YOU NEVER ASKED HIM IF HE HAD A JOB OR A HOME?
You can go to a woman’s shelter and did you even tell your parents or grandparents?
God Bless
May 4th, 2009 at 4:56 am
Seek sole custody with a lawyer or hope that he abandons the child that means no contact for 6 months ( a phone call counts as contact, this is how some children can’t get adopted their birth mom or dad call every 6 months sad i know) or you can simply tell him that when he gets job and an apartment then maybe you’ll reconsider it but explain to him that you’ll try to go for an open adoption to make him feel less bitter about him giving up your baby girl
May 6th, 2009 at 4:30 am
You can give her over to the state and explain the situation to them. She’ll stay in foster care until his rights are terminated. He’ll have 30 days (I think) to show up and try to “claim” her. He’ll have to prove he can provide for her as any parent would. If he’s as bad off as you say, then he’ll have his rights terminated by a judge and the baby will be adopted into a good/stable/loving home.
May 6th, 2009 at 5:33 pm
the only way to sign over your child for adoption without his signing too is to put unknown on the birth certificate however if you do and the father is known one word to a lawyer family services the police or anyone along those lines and the case will be opened up on the adoption as well as you going to jail you cant keep him from getting custody it is his right to fight for his child if he shows the court he has the means there is nothing you can do
May 8th, 2009 at 7:11 am
depending on what state you are in and if he is on the birth certificate, he may have no rights to her anyways. For my son’s adoption, I didn’t put the guy on the birth certificate and we were not married so in the state of TX he had no rights. Adoption went very well.