Did you regret giving your baby up for adoption?
◦ƒεṃαlε◦ asked:
Once you gave birth, did you hold or look at the baby?
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Once you gave birth, did you hold or look at the baby?
August 31st, 2009 at 11:05 am
if you are asking this because you gave yours up then you may like to hear what i have to say. i am an adopted child. and i know my biological parents. and after growing up and seeing the life i had without them. and looked at the life it would have ben with them. i take my adoption as the best thing that ever happend to me. i would not be who i am had i staed with my real parents. if you are in a position ware you put up a child for adoption than the chances are they will end up with a better life and better future than the one you could provide for them. just try to look at it that way. and regret and guilt shouldnt be an issue anymore
September 1st, 2009 at 11:12 am
I do regret relinquishment with every ounce of my being. I do not regret my son for being the person he is though and the life he has had. But the grief and regret has changed me and the relationships I have with all around me.
I held my son for maybe a minute before he was passed to his adoptive parents. I held him twice more after that, but each time was terribly interfered with by hospital staff.
September 3rd, 2009 at 4:38 pm
Tough luck for them. Don’t get pregnant if you’re going to hand the baby to strangers.
September 4th, 2009 at 4:34 pm
Always but then I didn’t just “give my baby up for adoption” I was bullied and lied into surrendering. I didn’t ever agree to my son being adopted so the only way for it to go through was to lie to me. I was then expected to get on with my life and never talk about him. It 23 years and being reunited with him for me me to finally deal with what happened to me.
I did get to hold my son after he was born and I told him how much I loved him and always would do. He knows the truth now why he was adopted and hates my parents for what they did to me.
September 5th, 2009 at 6:52 pm
Yes I did. I worried for 3 decades about her. She did in fact get a decent upbringing but that doesn’t stop the life time of grief it provided for me.
No I didn’t get to hold her. Look through the glass was all I got. They wanted to make sure I didn’t change my mind.
NICE, I see by some answers that were all just still toss-able trash who’s feelings are not acceptable. Hope none of your kids ends up in this position, you may just have to grow some empathy and think about all the mean spirited things you have said to others over the course of your life time.