The only wonderful thing your kid either wants or needs over the next few years is YOU.

DO NOT ABANDON YOUR CHILD TO ADOPTION! 7rin

BUT

I excepted the responsibility that i made a mistake.
The stories I read and see on tv how the child come looking for us and are so bitter.
It changed my view on adoption. Especially since i found out parents would adopt kids and sell them into slavery! And Hurt these babies for life. Sexually abuse them and physically.
Do you want your child to go through that.?

I think you should really keep the baby.
No one will take care your unborn like you.
And you want the baby.?
Keep it.

Everything might not be where you want them, but work hard to get there.
Your baby will bring you so much joy. Honesty

All your child needs is you. Sunny

You will be doing a huge disservice to your child, yourself and your mother if you surrender your child.

Of all the things you didn’t get as a child, that you want to be able ot provide as a mother, which one would have been worth trading “your” mother for?

Every first time parents is scared, even the older ones. It is treading into new unknown territory and it’s a bit frightening.

A different life for your child is guaranteed, a better one is not.

I lost my job 3 years ago and haven’t really worked since. My two youngest children were 14 and 15. Should I have considered adoption for them at that time, so they could have a different life with parents who could afford more than I?

I’m not trying to be mean, I just have very little time and space her on y/a to tell you that if you are already having the second thoughts that you are having, most likely your not going to turn out to be one of the happy to surrender mothers. To be honest, most of the women I talk to who “are” happy with their decision, are in the first few years of making that decision. I was okay with it too for the first few years. Then reality set in.

Money for things will come. You wil find a way. Babies do not need that much until school starts and they don’t’ need much then. You have a job, you have a supportive mother who will no doubt love her grandchild, and you have a steady roof over your head. Do you expect to have the same job at the same rate of pay 5 years from now? It’s temporary, all of it, your housing, education and work situation, being an infant, all temporary. What isn’t temporary is adoption. It is a permanent solution to a temporary situation.

Which toy do you think your child would be willing to trade you for?

and I didn’t even get into the abandonment and trust issues that your child may experience. The attachment disorders, lack of genetic mirroring, lack of hereditary and ancestry due to sealed records, and no medical information EVER depending on where you live. I didn’t say anything about passport denials, drivers license issues, and voting privileges or the wondering of why they weren’t worth keeping.

It’s a long road, its hard, and it gets ugly, re-thing this plan. smarmy

You will be told it is, that it is selfless, noble and all that crap but it isn’t; its unnatural and abnormal.

Life is hard…regardless of what point in time you have a child. Adoption is not a sure thing for your baby to have a great life. They might, but they might have a crap life. You can’t know. And buying beautiful things for your baby… that is SO unimportant. Babies don’t care about the gliding chair, the fancy quilt cover that costs $100 or more when they will be just as warm with an old blanket in their Mama’s arms. They don’t care about the cute little clothes, the hats, the toys etc. What THEY care about is the sound of their Mama’s voice… the gentle rhythm of their Mama’s heartbeat; sounds they knew while growing inside you. She wants to hear you, feel you and know she is loved. Babies only cost as much as their mother wants them to cost in the choices she makes. What your baby has or doesn’t have is in no way a reflection on you how much you love her so please don’t be concerned. I always wanted things for my kids that I didn’t get as well. That’s normal. You will… in different ways.

Yes, its scary being pregnant unplanned. And it gets scarier the more people push and shove you and make you feel that the only way to show your love to your baby is to give him/her away. Please don’t believe that.

At the end of the day, it is YOUR choice. If you decide to place, please do some research first; read books about adoption from the perspective of adopted persons; blogs written by mothers who have placed, felt pressured to place or had their children taken for adoption. Arm yourself with knowledge so you can make the choice. Personally, I say keep your child, you will find a way. Your troubles are temporary, situations can change at any time but adoption is permanent.

All the best to you and your wee girl.

Congratulations myst1998