Love,
MIchelle

Also, you seem to realize this, but an “unborn” baby can’t be placed for adoption. The mother can’t terminate her rights until after the birth. Just making sure you’re aware of that.

The facts are though, many are kept in the dark about the pregnancy, not named by the mother on adoption paperwork, and/or don’t know the putative father registry laws in their state so are all but ignored in the process.

I have even heard of mothers being encouraged to go to different states to give birth, and purposefully not put his name on anything, to prevent “interference”.

anyway, from that point, my family (my brother, my mother and I) had to hire an attorney (huge waste of money btw because we eventually found out that their attorney had to place several ads in the newspaper announcing the adoption and “searching” for a potential father to come forward).

anyway, after about a month of nothing but worry on everyone involved, our attorney finally told us that a paternity test would be provided (we offered to pay for it from the beginning just to get to the truth). so finally the paternity test was done, and thankfully for us, she wasn’t his and that was the end of the story.

had the results come back that she had been his, a custody battle would have been inevitable and more than likely would have taken years of fighting in court.

so you can go forward with the adoption, but if the guy knows there is a chance the baby could be his, he has the opportunity to come forward and request a paternity test and be granted custody.

hope that helps!

There are many fathers who are right now fighting to get custody of the children who they fathered, whose mothers put them up for adoption without their consent. Adoption agencies will do unethical things such as convince the mother to place the child in another state to try to get around obtaining the father’s consent. Some states have a pathetic thing called a “putative father’s registry” that the father must sign if he wants to parent his child, but how can he sign it if he doesn’t know about it? These things aren’t widely advertised or known about, and if the mother didn’t even TELL him she’s pregnant in the FIRST place, then why would a man go signing these registries if he isn’t even aware he is a father?

No, it’s a sad fact that men’s rights, as fathers, are just ignored and trampled on so that babies can be given up for adoption. This needs to be changed.