Comments on: Has anyone gotten an abortion or gave there baby up for adoption? How do you feel after?

By: HeatherCHRH

HeatherCHRH — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 05:41:02 +0000

I, like yourself, became pregnant at an early age (15 in my case). In the beginning of my pregnancy I was dead set against abortion, as my pregnancy progressed and I came to the full realization that I was going to have a baby-I became terrified. One night I began bleeding and hoped I was having a miscarriage-I was actually relieved. The bleeding stopped and I knew I was still pregnant, it was at that time I knew abortion was my only option-I did not want to become a teenage mother. My only regret is that I was irresponsible enough to become pregnant. I DO NOT for one moment regret my abortion. I know that having the abortion is the reason why I was able to continue a normal teenage life. I finished high school, went to college, got married,have a successful career. I made a mistake by getting pregnant and I saved my own life my having an abortion. I cannot tell you what to do, but you will have to make this decision on your own.

Best Wishes

By: pjnut08

pjnut08 — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 19:29:00 +0000

You must be scared. Best to talk to your parents and a counselor about this one. And do some soul searching. Either choice you make, your stuck with it for life. Personally, I couldn’t do either. And no matter what, Don’t let anyone shame you for this. By accepting this child, that in itself takes a lot of responsibility, and you can do it. Good Luck hun

By: danner

danner — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 23:59:14 +0000

regret?? decide though..adoption gives your child a better life. abortion kills it. sooooo id say regret will happen regardless. why were you having sex at 14 anyway? youre old enough to know this could happen…and dont let peope tell you its not a babt. i work in OB, i assure you it IS alive in there..

By: R

Sun, 30 Aug 2009 06:28:32 +0000

From the discussions I’ve had with my female peers who’ve gone through these choices, the ones who gave up children to adoptions have had many more issues with regret, depression, etc. There have even been a few suicide attempts. But this is a personal decision, one that you have to make on your own. You could regret either way; you could not have regret at all. As long as you know that you’re making the best choice for all involved, you’ll be fine.

You may want to try talking to someone; perhaps you can find a counselor through Planned Parenthood.

By: One more biocomputer

One more biocomputer — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 10:02:01 +0000

I think you should make this decision sooner rather than later. You might feel worse about it if you decide to get an abortion later on, just because humans have some dumb attachment to things that have any resemblance to the human form. Personally I wouldn’t find issue with it unless the creature can do math and read The Origin of Species, but not everyone feels this way. Good luck, and don’t fret your decision too much, whatever it may be. Take care.

By: GothicLady

GothicLady — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 02:06:49 +0000

There can be regret if a woman aborts OR chooses adoption. Only you know which choice is the better one. Do you want to remain pregnant? If not, then your ONLY alternative would be abortion. Do you want to be a mother? If not, then you can either abort OR choose adoption. Would you be able to give the resulting child away after carrying it in your body for 40 weeks? Would you be able to go through with an abortion? These are the questions you need to ask yourself.

By: openheaven

openheaven — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 18:51:17 +0000

Many women regret abortion, but not one woman ever regrets birthing her baby.

Adoption may be a good choice, but keeping the baby may also be a good choice for you. Go to a crisis pregnancy center and talk to a counselor about what will work best for you. Here is a link so you can find one:

I don’t know your situation, but statistically speaking, most girls age 14 and younger get pregnant because of men over the age of 18. As the age of the girl goes down, the age of the man goes up, according to statistics. If you had sex with a man that is an adult, that man committed “statutory rape,” which is a crime, even if you agreed to have sex with him. It is wrong for an adult to use a teenager as a sexual object, instead of seeking a relationship with another adult. If this happened, you can report it to the police.

By: audge41

audge41 — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 14:57:51 +0000

Honestly, I am not for abortion, but all people are different. I was talking to my baby daddy about adoption when we first found out I was pregnant. I decided to keep my baby. It is 17 months later now, and I am enjoying every second with my son. I was 17 years old when I got pregnant. Now I think back to when we were considering adoption, and I am so glad I did not put him up for adoption. My feelings changed alot during my pregnancy. (Due to hormones and knowing that my son was there no matter where I went.) I feelings grew for him as time progressed. but keeping my son was the one thing that made me feel right. You have to find out what is right for you, and what makes YOU feel right. Weather it is abortion, adoption, or raising him, you have to make sure that it is the right decision for you. You also have time to think things through. You can also talk to a counselor at school or at a planned parenthood, so you can discuss your options, and how you feel about. the options. They can help you make your decision, and possibly help you make the one decision that you feel comfortable with.

By: None

None — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 08:08:29 +0000

One of my best friends in the world had an abortion. I was there with her at the clinic and afterward. She was fine with it, until about 5 weeks after. Another one of our friends had a baby and she realized that she could have had one of them… I can’t imagine what she was thinking or feeling. All she would say is that she really, really regretted the abortion. She went to counseling and is doing better now.
I am 22 with a 4 1/2 old daughter. I did not have the money, maturity, or know how to raise a baby, but I did. You have to grow up fast and work really hard but it is do-able.
Adoption is not as bad as you hear it is. I have a sister who works with the system and they do everything they can to make it easy for you and the baby. Babies usually get adopted quickly. At your first doctor appointment they should ask you if you would like to speak to a social services counselor. She/He can explain things much better than any of us.
Bluntly this is how it is.
1) The baby stays with you. You and your family may have struggles and hardships, but, you know where he/she is and the he/she is taken care of.
2) Adoption- You can do open or closed. He/She at least gets a chance at life. You may wonder and worry at times but you have the choice to keep the adoption open.
3)Abortion- The “issue” is taken care of, but do to the fact that at point the baby did exist you have to deal with yourself.
Talk to experts. your family, and your friends but in the end the decision is yours. So make the best one for you.

By: emmy

emmy — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 21:45:02 +0000

ok well i had an abortion 4 years ago and i am currently pregnant now. since i had the abortion i was at first numb and blocked it out and then about a 3 years after something triggered back the memory of it and i remembered everything about it. since then i have gone through all emotions after it i have nearly overdosed because of what i have done. i think about my child every day and wonder what he or she would have looked like. reading up on babies made me feel even worse because i knew alll i was told by the doctor was wrong and he said the heart only beated at 3 months and i found out it was at about 28 days it starts to beat. every child i see is a reminder of what i dont have here with me and of course i have a story behind this as well and its not just straight forward.

being pregnant now is hard and im now coming up to the 34 week mark and i am so guilty now for the life i chose to end. but what you have to remember is that its your decision at the end of the day but i have known a lot of people now who have also been through it including friends and others who have also regretted their decision. its a life changing decision and nothing will be the same again either way but i would if i could turn back the time and re make that fateful decision and keep my baby. my reasons why you might ask?

well i thought i could never cope and somebody was going to kill me but at a time like this all you are doing is running on auto pilot and you are unsure of everything and what to do.]

but a human is a marvelous thing and we are very resiliant and can actually get through anything if we put our minds to it. If you want to ask me anything feel free to do so. take care and i hope you make the best decision abortion isn’t a simple option as it’s made out to be. abortion is actually a dangerous procedure.