Comments on: Have you ever gave your baby up for adoption?

By: Nicole

Nicole — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 19:25:33 +0000

I have never given my child up for adoption, but my husband and I looked into it because of infertility.
I cannot imagine how hard it must be, but I do truly admire you for being strong enough to make this decision. You realize you cannot raise a baby so you’re willing to allow someone else to raise him/her for you.
As far as knowing if he/she is ok, why not have an open adoption? That way, the adoptive parents will keep in touch with you, send pictures, updates, etc. In some situations the adoptive parents even agree to allow you to be a part of the childs life as a friend or family member.
You call the shots on the adoption. If you want an open or closed, how much or how little you want to be in the childs life, etc. So make the “rules” in a way that will make you comfortable about the adoption. Do not worry about upsetting anyone, or honestly about anyone else’s feelings. Put the childs interests first, and yours second. The adoptive parents can either choose to agree with the terms or find another child to adopt. Don’t settle for parents, make sure you feel right with them and they’re willing to include you in this process.

By: ♥34wks w/ #2♥Baby Boy!♥1/10/09♥

♥34wks w/ #2♥Baby Boy!♥1/10/09♥ — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 14:18:37 +0000

I was 17 when I had my daughter…found out 2 days after my 17th birthday I was pregnant.
The thought crossed my mind…for a second…
though,unplanned she is the best thing that ever happened to me!!

your mother shouldn’t be trying to influence your decision at all…that’s wrong. I know that she wants the best for you….but that’s really for you to decide.

By: Terry,JackofHearts

Terry,JackofHearts — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 14:44:46 +0000

Don’t do it no matter what the circumstance Your mother will change her mind when she sees her grandchild. I have experienced this firsthand.

By: Trey Scott coming soon!!!!!

Trey Scott coming soon!!!!! — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 03:03:57 +0000

If you feel you can raise your child, DONT GIVE IT AWAY. I couldnt imagine having to give up my child. Good luck.

By: princess peach

princess peach — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 07:46:11 +0000

Im not going to lie to you and say that it is a good idea. but I (personally) couldnt fathom giving away a baby. Then again - raising a child isnt a cakewalk either.
I have been in this situatuion myself, and sad to say - I had an abortion once. and it still haunts me to this day and that was 16 years ago. so when I became pregnant with my last daughter which was under horrible circumstances (pending divorce. bad timing ) I called agencies and even went to talk to them about it, and I broke down. I cried like a baby. I couldnt think about what she would think of me, and how would she feel - having other siblings. I didnt want her to feel like she was worthless. she was a ’suprise’ but she wasnt trash.
this is a decision that you will have to make. your mother cannot make it for you. My mom told me that I should have gotten an abortion - but I will never do that again. she told me that i should have done it the first time - and it still sticks.
you have to live with you - not her. This is not a decision that anyone else can make for you. I just wanted to share my experience.

By: Mishk33

Mishk33 — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 06:59:38 +0000

The fact that you can’t deal with not knowing if he/she is okay, means you’re already a mother. What your mom wants you to do makes no difference, it’s your baby. You will figure out a way to cope when the time comes.

By: Laura P

Laura P — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 00:51:02 +0000

my daughter gave her son up for adoption she already had a son that is four there was many reasons behind her decision first she was no longer with the father of the baby also the baby father was black and she got back with her the father of her son and she really couldn’t afford to raise another child she can barely make ends meet now she seen the benefits of giving the baby up for adoption she seen the big picture and not just the here and now it takes a selfless person to do this she wanted what was best for the baby and not herself she got to meet the adoptive parents the baby will know all about my daughter as he grows up they will be sending her pictures of him as he grows the parents are rich she knows for sure that her son will go to college the parents are well rounded people i think if you decide to do this you should get a really good adoption agency and have what requirements you want in place and also do what your heart tells you to do maybe it won’t always be hard for you to raise a child maybe it will i just know that it should be your decision and not your moms because if you do it because of your mom you will later resent her good luck

By: ~11 WeEkS pReGgErS wItH No 1~

*~11 WeEkS pReGgErS wItH No 1~* — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 06:38:32 +0000

DONT GIVE YOUR BABY AWAY!
It sounds to me like you want to keep it, thats your child not your Mums and if you do it with not being a 100% sure then not only will you hate your self for what you did your end up hating your Mum.
Good Luck - Please think carefully can you realy give your own baby away. xx

By: Butterfairy

***Butterfairy*** — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 19:25:24 +0000

Keep your baby, it will thank you when its older. It will be blessed!

By: LEDIA

LEDIA — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 11:12:27 +0000

You should not give your child up for adoption, if you are 100% sure about it being right

Adoption works, if you are 100% sure about it

I would say, not harm into looking in to adoption with your mother
Let your mother know from the start, if you are not 100% sure, you will not be signing any papers. That you need to be. If you are not, you will regret it for the rest of your life

In the end, you mom might agree with you, or you may become 100% sure.

Do not do this if you are not 100% sure
Your mother will not have to live with the regret