Have you gaven your baby for adoption and why?what stage in your pregnancy did u decide?
Bloom B asked:
Were u young in your 20s? did u think u could not afford a baby and wasn’t the right time ? and u didn’t wanna go through abortion so u choice adoption? are u glad u made that decision?
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Were u young in your 20s? did u think u could not afford a baby and wasn’t the right time ? and u didn’t wanna go through abortion so u choice adoption? are u glad u made that decision?
January 28th, 2009 at 12:53 am
I was adopted. I miss my mother every second of my life, I still do. My mother regrets giving me up, she has suffered every day since then.
Your baby deserves to be raised and loved by his or her real mother.
I have 3 children, and had them all by the time I was 22. I am a wonderful mother. Age means nothing- your baby loves you.
Please read up on how adoption will affect you and your baby. Do everything you can to keep your baby. He or she loves YOU.
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Books:
The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier
Lost and Found: the Adoption Experience AND
Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness both by Betty Jean Lifton
The Adopted break Silence by Jean Paton
The Girls Who Went Away by Ann Fessler
January 28th, 2009 at 6:05 pm
When I was younger I gave a child up for adoption. It wasn’t my choice in fact I didn’t even have time to consider my options before the choice was made for me. I went to an home for unwed mothers, I was the youngest there, there were girls in their 20s, housewives, college students, all had their own reasons. Afterward I held a grudge against my parents for a long while til one day I matured and realized my parents only did what they believed to be best for me at the time so that I might go on to further my education and continue to be a child myself. Years later, just 4 yrs ago I met that baby now a 27 yrs old woman and I’m happy that she was fortunate enough to be adopted by a loving kind family who were able to raise her as if she were their true blood. To second guess oneself is not always good but in hindsight I can see that she would have had a much different life had I been the one to raise her, even with the love and support of my parents I would have still been an immature child playing Mama with many trials and tribulations that I probally wouldn’t have been able to handle. During pregnancy and long afterward you will doubt what ever decision you make, but you pray and ask God to lead you and believe in your heart that he will. Good Luck, I know that it’s not easy, simple or without pain making a lifelong decision about your life as well as another.
January 29th, 2009 at 2:35 am
Nope, never placed a child.
Had abortion around 19yrs. old….many reasons for choice but number 1 was that I didn’t want to be pregnant.
If I had gone through with the pregnancy I would have parented and would never had considered placing child up for adoption.
Am I glad?……lets just say I don’t regret it one bit and if I were 19 again and in the same circumstance…I would make the same choice.
February 1st, 2009 at 3:24 am
I was in that situation almost 18 years ago. I decided on adoption when I was extremely ill, could not get help with health care,( I was almost 3 months when the pregnancy was discovered, I had no symptoms until then) the Bio-Father was unreliable( the act of becoming pregnate was the result of to much booze & blacking out) a bad choice compounded by youthful stupidity. I my self had been raised by my Grandmother, she, never let me forget it either. My mother was not able to help & I truly wanted that little girl to live & have a better life then I could imagine that I was able to give her. I myself was struggling to overcome many of my scars from growing up & was not ready to be the Mother she needed. ( yes my heart broke, it was the hardest thing I have ever done)
I do think about her, If I could have seen any way of keeping her that would not have damaged her for life I would have taken it.
She has 2 siblings now ( from me) & some from her fathers side, I hope that some day if she finds me, that she will at least try to understand I was trying to protect her & give her a good life. ( at the cost of my broken heart)
February 4th, 2009 at 6:43 am
Young people in their 20’s are at the best age to have children. Nature designed them to have children then.
eta:you aren’t required to fulfill anyone else’s plan when to have a child..but nature does seem to have a limit on fertililty and it wanes after the mid-twenties. As far as having babies in the teen years, sometimes in the early teens, the mother herself has not fully finished growing, so there can be physical problems for her, but I have known some wonderful mothers who were very very young teens.
Children are not meant to be given away to older strangers. Don’t be fooled into thinking they are better than you, for your baby.
I lost my son to adoption over 40 years ago. His father abandoned us and my parents forced an adoption, along with a crooked agency that lied. such civil rights violations happened a lot to women then.
I never wanted the adoption. It hurt me and it hurt my son.
It destroyed my son.
February 7th, 2009 at 4:56 pm
Yes I did.
I was 18
abortion was illegal, I really don’t know if i could have had an abortion.
I’m sorry I put myself in that situation where I had to make that decision. If our families had given us some kind of emotional support our lives would have been better.