honestly would you be able to give your baby up for adoption?
mommy & wife due w/ #2 March 27 asked:
this is not one of those anti-abortion things. i will not say how i feel about it! but all the people that say “adoption is always an option” do you really believe that? would you be able to give your baby up for adoption?
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this is not one of those anti-abortion things. i will not say how i feel about it! but all the people that say “adoption is always an option” do you really believe that? would you be able to give your baby up for adoption?
a lot will disagree but i would never be able to have my baby and then give him/her away. ever. i do not believe it is always an option.
so thoughts anyone?
i would never have an abortion either
January 30th, 2009 at 11:52 pm
Me, personally, I would never be able to get my baby up for adoption. But I would also never be able to get an abortion.
Abortion is acceptable to most of society, and therefore people feel it’s “easier” to murder their child then to place their child for adoption. To me this is incredibly selfish because it’s not about them, it’s about the child, it shouldn’t be about what is easier for them to deal with, it should be about the fact that everyone deserves a chance at life, and even if it’s hard, it’s better then killing it.
February 3rd, 2009 at 4:45 am
no…but i would not kill it either!
February 3rd, 2009 at 9:45 pm
I was adopted. Yes it is always an option, especially if you were in the situation my biological mother was in. She was single, and financially unstable…and only 16. She wanted to finish school, get a good job…you know life to it’s fullest. And my parents were unable to conceive on their own. So for women who are in those sorts of situations, yes it is a very good option. And the reason it is always an option is, what if you were unable to care for a baby…what are you going to do hire someone to come in and take care of him/her for you? What if you couldn’t afford it…would you make your baby suffer? No, you would give him or her up to a very stable, caring and loving family who are just dying to have their own but can’t.
February 4th, 2009 at 6:32 am
dont think i would be able to do either.
February 7th, 2009 at 3:49 pm
i think it’s a nice thought, and easier said than done, but I know for me to carry a life inside me for 41 weeks, feel her move, kick, squirm, etc and even respond to my voice and touch, and then to hold her when she was born and feel her soft baby skin and innocent infant eyes, I was attached and in love. There would be no way for me to give her up at that point. i think it’s the same for any woman.
and I 100 percent agree with you, Amanda
February 8th, 2009 at 11:49 pm
I would have an abortion more likely than give a child away. For example, IF I were raped (heaven forbid) I would not carry the baby and give it up for adoption, because it is still MY baby, but I won’t want it as a constant reminder of what happened to me but I wont want to give it away as I would feel guilty and sad and always wondering. Under normal circumstances of consensual sex I would not have an abortion or give away the baby, but I wont judge people who would.
February 10th, 2009 at 8:25 am
oh god no
i love him way to much
and i havnt even met him yet
i love how he responds to my voice
i love how he kicks when his daddy says something
i love to see him push my belly into waves
i could never give up something i made
i still cant even throw away a plaster snowman i made in 4th grade lol
February 11th, 2009 at 4:52 am
It is better than abortion in my opinion.
It is probably the hardest yet most unselfish thing a person can do.
If I were in a situation where I couldn’t provide for a baby I would rather sleep knowing my baby was somewhere out there and not terminated.
It would be a very hard decision to make… but I would never be able to have an abortion.
I love my son and I know that bringing a child into this world is the greatest thing. I don’t see how anyone can end a baby’s life.
February 13th, 2009 at 2:28 pm
well if you think about it…adoption is a good choice…think about it…you are pregnant ….what are your choices? adoption or abortion….don’t kill the baby …give it a chance…with or with out you….
February 13th, 2009 at 11:48 pm
I wouldn’t be able to give my baby up for adption just like I wouldn’t be able to abort my baby. I got pregnant at 17 so I have been in that situation and now I have a beautiful 1 year old son! Wouldn’t have done it any other way.
February 14th, 2009 at 4:34 pm
Then it is not an option for you. My husband and I are working to try to adopt through our state now. However, lots of women have been down this road. THey don’t believe in abortion, yet they find themselves not knowing what to do with a child for the next 60 years. I’m not saying they don’t regret it, but many know they can’t do it.
February 16th, 2009 at 2:42 am
I don’t think I could put my baby up for adoption unless I absolutely couldn’t care for her, and then giving her up would break my heart.
February 16th, 2009 at 8:43 am
Well why is it easier to kill your baby then to give it a chance at having a good life with a loving family? Trust me, adoption is not easy. My brother and his then gf have their son up for adoption. They were 19, had no plans of staying together, and were smart enough to realize they could not raise a child. I think was an incredibly mature and selfless decision. They chose to have an open adoption. While it broke their hearts to give their son up, they chose to do what was best for the baby, not what was easiest for them. They were able to choose who he went to, so they KNOW he is being given a wonderful life. Adoption is difficult, but it is giving your child the gift of life. That is what being a parent is all about, doing what is best for your child. Even if you are that childs parent for only a short time. Believe me, the hardest thing I have ever had to do was kiss my nephew goodbye, knowing I would probably never see him again. But I am happy for him. I am happy that he is happy and loved. Adoption is always a better option over abortion. It’s the difference between being selfish and selfless.
February 16th, 2009 at 10:57 am
I would never give my baby up for adoption, BUT…… I also had a planned pregnancy so I wanted my baby and I was ready to support him emotionally and financially.
February 18th, 2009 at 11:15 am
I don’t believe in abortion so I would give my baby up for adoption if I could not raise her. I would rather give her a chance at life than to kill her because I didn’t want anyone else to have her.
February 20th, 2009 at 5:03 am
Personally if i had to i would put up my baby for adoption before i would abort it for the simple fact there are many people in this world who are struggling to conceive and would love a baby.
February 20th, 2009 at 6:21 pm
Probably not, no. But I’d much rather do that than kill my baby!! I would never have an abortion, and if I wasn’t able for some reason to be a mother, I would have to make that tough choice to give my child a chance at a better life!!
February 24th, 2009 at 12:08 am
I believe if you truly want the best for the child, and you are thinking about the child’s best interest and their interest alone then YES adoption is always an option.
Dealing with infertility for so long, it would be hard for me to give a child up. However, if I could not feed the child, if I was living on the street, was alone and not able to care for the baby, etc. I would absolutely give it up for adoption. No, it would not be easy. And yes, it would probably be something I would think about every single second for the rest of my life, however I would never allow a child to suffer, or not be taken care of correctly.
If there is no other way for a woman to take care of that child, then adoption is the most loving and unselfish act a mother can do — she truly cares for the child’s well being if she is strong enough to give it to a family who can take care of it.