Comments on: How can I convince my girlfriend to give our baby up for adoption? http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/ Thu, 17 May 2012 19:50:27 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: how to get your ex boyfriend back fast http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-2076 how to get your ex boyfriend back fast Tue, 10 Feb 2009 17:40:41 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-2076 'If you judge people, you have no time to love them." ‘If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”

]]> By: joslin http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1098 joslin Sun, 08 Feb 2009 11:43:38 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-1098 Sounds like you really want to do what you think is best for the baby. You are to be commended for that. Often females think in more emotional terms, and maybe she is thinking of her own feelings rather what may be best for the baby. Maybe you can, in a quiet, positive moment ask her to truly consider what is best for the baby, not for her heart. And keep in mind that the harder you push for adoption, the more she may pull back. Then again, maybe she thinks it is a way for the two of you to stay together (a misconception, statistically). Maybe make a list -- take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. Put in big letters "BABY" on the top, then list the pros FOR THE BABY of you two parenting (or her parenting along), and then the pros FOR THE BABY of placing the baby with an adoptive family. Maybe that will spark some thinking. Sounds like you really want to do what you think is best for the baby. You are to be commended for that. Often females think in more emotional terms, and maybe she is thinking of her own feelings rather what may be best for the baby. Maybe you can, in a quiet, positive moment ask her to truly consider what is best for the baby, not for her heart. And keep in mind that the harder you push for adoption, the more she may pull back. Then again, maybe she thinks it is a way for the two of you to stay together (a misconception, statistically). Maybe make a list — take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. Put in big letters “BABY” on the top, then list the pros FOR THE BABY of you two parenting (or her parenting along), and then the pros FOR THE BABY of placing the baby with an adoptive family. Maybe that will spark some thinking.

]]> By: melanie p http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1097 melanie p Sat, 07 Feb 2009 08:02:04 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-1097 i think that you are right, and if your money and wife and beating you is really that bad then you should get some help i think that you are right, and if your money and wife and beating you is really that bad then you should get some help

]]> By: duckygrl21 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1096 duckygrl21 Wed, 04 Feb 2009 14:17:34 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-1096 Why would you stay in an abusive relationship? That is not a good place for a baby either. File a report so its on record. Then, when the baby comes, make every effort to get the baby away from her (legally of course). The baby does not need an abusive mother. But, you cannot force someone to give up their baby. Don't abandon the baby, it may need you. Best of luck. Why would you stay in an abusive relationship? That is not a good place for a baby either. File a report so its on record. Then, when the baby comes, make every effort to get the baby away from her (legally of course). The baby does not need an abusive mother. But, you cannot force someone to give up their baby. Don’t abandon the baby, it may need you. Best of luck.

]]> By: bailie28 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1095 bailie28 Sun, 01 Feb 2009 17:16:51 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-1095 What you can suggest is that you get together with your families and talk about what is best at this point. It seems to be a maturity on your part to realize you dont have a good relationship and its not healthy for the baby to bring it into it as it is now, its too bad you didn't use precautions to prevent the pregnancy before hand. She may be thinking that she can hold on to you if she has the child...a child is not a solution to a bad relationship. Having a child in a great relationship can cause stress so in a bad one it only makes things worse. You can suggest if you feel you need to that you can sign away your parental rights and she will be the one responsible for the child once you do this in court and its legal...there is no child support. What you can suggest is that you get together with your families and talk about what is best at this point. It seems to be a maturity on your part to realize you dont have a good relationship and its not healthy for the baby to bring it into it as it is now, its too bad you didn’t use precautions to prevent the pregnancy before hand. She may be thinking that she can hold on to you if she has the child…a child is not a solution to a bad relationship. Having a child in a great relationship can cause stress so in a bad one it only makes things worse. You can suggest if you feel you need to that you can sign away your parental rights and she will be the one responsible for the child once you do this in court and its legal…there is no child support.

]]> By: e_imommy http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1094 e_imommy Thu, 29 Jan 2009 22:40:34 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-1094 First of all, if your relationship is so bad, why are you staying with her? Is it for the baby? If so, I think you have your answer right there. Once she realizes that she is very likely to be raising this baby alone, she may reconsider the adoption option. If that is not the reason, you need to rethink your plans. While adoption is a wonderful option, it is a very difficult decision to make, and really one that needs to be prepared for at an early point in the pregnancy. You do not have the bond with the baby she does, because you don't feel it growing inside of you everyday. You don't feel the kicks and the hiccups, and all the little things that she feels that make it real to her. She already feels like a mother. don't get me wrong, your reasons and intentions for the baby are noble and selfless, but the decision will be 100 times harder for her to make than you. So I would suggest that you figure out where you see the two of you in the future. If you strongly believe you will stay together, then you really need to try to work things out with her. First of all, if your relationship is so bad, why are you staying with her? Is it for the baby? If so, I think you have your answer right there. Once she realizes that she is very likely to be raising this baby alone, she may reconsider the adoption option.

If that is not the reason, you need to rethink your plans. While adoption is a wonderful option, it is a very difficult decision to make, and really one that needs to be prepared for at an early point in the pregnancy. You do not have the bond with the baby she does, because you don’t feel it growing inside of you everyday. You don’t feel the kicks and the hiccups, and all the little things that she feels that make it real to her. She already feels like a mother. don’t get me wrong, your reasons and intentions for the baby are noble and selfless, but the decision will be 100 times harder for her to make than you.

So I would suggest that you figure out where you see the two of you in the future. If you strongly believe you will stay together, then you really need to try to work things out with her.

]]> By: bluegrass http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1093 bluegrass Tue, 27 Jan 2009 00:48:45 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-1093 I'm sorry she treats you like that. However, there's no way you can talk a woman into giving up her baby. The best thing for you to do is to get out of the relationship and be the best father to that baby you can be when he/she gets here. She will have to let you have visitation as long as you pay child support. It's not the end of the world. I’m sorry she treats you like that. However, there’s no way you can talk a woman into giving up her baby. The best thing for you to do is to get out of the relationship and be the best father to that baby you can be when he/she gets here. She will have to let you have visitation as long as you pay child support. It’s not the end of the world.

]]> By: Jessica T http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1092 Jessica T Sun, 25 Jan 2009 17:23:40 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-1092 Sounds like you need to get out of the relationship. Don't feel you need to stay together for the baby. Get out but support the baby financially, emotionally, and any other way possible. You can't force the mother to give the baby up and your odds in the legal system is not good. Sounds like you need to get out of the relationship. Don’t feel you need to stay together for the baby. Get out but support the baby financially, emotionally, and any other way possible. You can’t force the mother to give the baby up and your odds in the legal system is not good.

]]> By: kel_be http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1091 kel_be Sat, 24 Jan 2009 08:36:29 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-1091 I suggest that you two have a one on one conversation. Honestly, you can't force anyone to do anything, but you can give your say, especially as the father. I suggest that you two have a one on one conversation.

Honestly, you can’t force anyone to do anything, but you can give your say, especially as the father.

]]> By: Know it all! http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-1090 Know it all! Fri, 23 Jan 2009 10:32:07 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-can-i-convince-my-girlfriend-to-give-our-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-1090 No, you can't force her to terminate her parental rights. If she is that bad, leave her but PAY HER CHILD SUPPORT. Just be there for the child, not for her. No, you can’t force her to terminate her parental rights. If she is that bad, leave her but PAY HER CHILD SUPPORT. Just be there for the child, not for her.

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