Comments on: How do you get your baby back after you give it up for adoption? http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/ Thu, 17 May 2012 20:04:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: cricketlady http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-4772 cricketlady Sun, 30 Aug 2009 07:10:15 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-4772 No you can't get the baby back. The baby is legally theirs now. Once an adoption is completed they make the rules. No you can’t get the baby back. The baby is legally theirs now. Once an adoption is completed they make the rules.

]]> By: Jason http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-4771 Jason Fri, 28 Aug 2009 14:39:19 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-4771 contact the lawyer or agency who handled your adoption case. See what they can do. But since you did sign away your parental rights and finalization has been completed. No, you cannot get your baby back. contact the lawyer or agency who handled your adoption case. See what they can do. But since you did sign away your parental rights and finalization has been completed. No, you cannot get your baby back.

]]> By: Jules2u http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-4770 Jules2u Tue, 25 Aug 2009 16:40:29 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-4770 There had to be an agency or attorney involved. I would contact them and talk to them of your concerns and tell them that you still desire contact with the family. Maybe start by establishing just some open communication and then go from there. There had to be an agency or attorney involved. I would contact them and talk to them of your concerns and tell them that you still desire contact with the family. Maybe start by establishing just some open communication and then go from there.

]]> By: SLY http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-4769 SLY Tue, 25 Aug 2009 11:10:32 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-4769 Candy and All, This is EXACTLY what the people who made off with Stephanie Bennett's baby girl, Evelyn did. They moved out of state, in defiance of a court order, to avoid returning Evelyn to her mother, until there was so much time passed that they had the best interest of the child. It took a while since Evelyn was 8 mos. old when they took her, so they had to have her for longer than that. You know, Candy, if this is indeed true, and I have no reason at all to assume it is not, then I am just sorry. There is not much you can do, unless you have it in your agreement. Otherwise, it is just a "gentlemen's agreement". Since they clearly are not gentlemen, you are up a creek. One thing that you have to remember, they wanted your baby and when someone lusts after something that you have, they are not your friends. They wanted your child, and this is altogether too common an event. They take the baby and they run. Stephanie's baby's PAPs did it ON THE ADVICE OF THE AGENCY!! So, the agency isn't your friend, either, as we have seen evidence of here a lot lately. If you had an open adoption, where are they representing your interests? Why are they not encouraging the APs to contact you? What are THEY doing for you? If nothing, why not? They were on you like ugly on ape BEFORE you signed the papers, were they not? Contact them now and see what they will do for you now, and don't take NO for an answer. Make them earn that Money Bundle they got from the sale of your baby! There is only one thing else that I will say on this...I wish you had spoken to mothers who had surrendered years ago and asked them how they felt and if they were reunited, how their children felt. That would have stopped you in your tracks. Candy and All,
This is EXACTLY what the people who made off with Stephanie Bennett’s baby girl, Evelyn did. They moved out of state, in defiance of a court order, to avoid returning Evelyn to her mother, until there was so much time passed that they had the best interest of the child. It took a while since Evelyn was 8 mos. old when they took her, so they had to have her for longer than that.

You know, Candy, if this is indeed true, and I have no reason at all to assume it is not, then I am just sorry. There is not much you can do, unless you have it in your agreement. Otherwise, it is just a “gentlemen’s agreement”. Since they clearly are not gentlemen, you are up a creek.

One thing that you have to remember, they wanted your baby and when someone lusts after something that you have, they are not your friends. They wanted your child, and this is altogether too common an event. They take the baby and they run. Stephanie’s baby’s PAPs did it ON THE ADVICE OF THE AGENCY!! So, the agency isn’t your friend, either, as we have seen evidence of here a lot lately. If you had an open adoption, where are they representing your interests? Why are they not encouraging the APs to contact you? What are THEY doing for you? If nothing, why not? They were on you like ugly on ape BEFORE you signed the papers, were they not? Contact them now and see what they will do for you now, and don’t take NO for an answer. Make them earn that Money Bundle they got from the sale of your baby!

There is only one thing else that I will say on this…I wish you had spoken to mothers who had surrendered years ago and asked them how they felt and if they were reunited, how their children felt. That would have stopped you in your tracks.

]]> By: Raven http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-4768 Raven Sun, 23 Aug 2009 12:47:57 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-4768 I’m sorry to say that there is nothing you can do if that is what happened. Even if you had had an ‘open adoption contract’ there is no binding law forcing the adopting couple to honor it. Such contracts DO NOT have any legal standing. Once you sign away your rights to the adoptive parents there is nothing you can do if they choose to not allow you to see your child. That baby is their child legally, it is as if it were their biological child and they have the rights to go where they wish to with the baby. Once you signed the papers you gave all of your rights to its adoptive parents, you don’t have any say anymore. I’m sorry to say that there is nothing you can do if that is what happened. Even if you had had an ‘open adoption contract’ there is no binding law forcing the adopting couple to honor it. Such contracts DO NOT have any legal standing. Once you sign away your rights to the adoptive parents there is nothing you can do if they choose to not allow you to see your child. That baby is their child legally, it is as if it were their biological child and they have the rights to go where they wish to with the baby. Once you signed the papers you gave all of your rights to its adoptive parents, you don’t have any say anymore.

]]> By: monkeykitty83 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-4767 monkeykitty83 Sat, 22 Aug 2009 04:36:35 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-4767 Eight months after finalization? Sorry, no. Even in states where open adoption is enforceable to some degree (and it's never to a very great degree, even in those places,) there would need some kind of legal document to enforce, not your word about a verbal agreement that was made to you. Insisting you are right may very well be the truth, but it's not legal grounds for anything. Finalized adoptions can be overturned in cases where there was fraud or illegal coercion, but again, the authorities can't just take someone's word with no evidence to back it up, because the other party is considered innocent until proven guilty in our legal system. You would need to have some kind of proof of what the adoptive parents actually said to make a coercion case, and you don't have that. I'm sorry for your loss, and that you were mistreated. But the time when you could have legally changed your mind about the adoption is long past. I suggest you find a good counselor as soon as possible, to help you through your feelings of anger and grief. Other than that... not anything to be done this late in the game, I'm afraid. Eight months after finalization? Sorry, no.

Even in states where open adoption is enforceable to some degree (and it’s never to a very great degree, even in those places,) there would need some kind of legal document to enforce, not your word about a verbal agreement that was made to you. Insisting you are right may very well be the truth, but it’s not legal grounds for anything.

Finalized adoptions can be overturned in cases where there was fraud or illegal coercion, but again, the authorities can’t just take someone’s word with no evidence to back it up, because the other party is considered innocent until proven guilty in our legal system. You would need to have some kind of proof of what the adoptive parents actually said to make a coercion case, and you don’t have that.

I’m sorry for your loss, and that you were mistreated. But the time when you could have legally changed your mind about the adoption is long past. I suggest you find a good counselor as soon as possible, to help you through your feelings of anger and grief. Other than that… not anything to be done this late in the game, I’m afraid.

]]> By: dontknow86 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-4766 dontknow86 Tue, 18 Aug 2009 17:49:13 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-4766 Nope it is to late. Something is wrong with this story. Nope it is to late. Something is wrong with this story.

]]> By: *Nikki* http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-4765 *Nikki* Sat, 15 Aug 2009 15:13:19 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-4765 i think its only 6weeks i think its only 6weeks

]]> By: kateiskate http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-4764 kateiskate Fri, 14 Aug 2009 03:42:41 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-4764 Unfortunately, open adoption is not at all legally enforceable. Anyone who told you so before the adoption lied to you. There are no "open adoption contracts" that will hold up in a court of law. I'm sorry you were tricked by people you thought were your friends, but eight months is probably too late. I'd contact a lawyer for legal advice, or if you can't afford one, google "Legal aid" and your area to find your closest Legal Aid. They will provide you with free/low cost legal services. Unfortunately, open adoption is not at all legally enforceable. Anyone who told you so before the adoption lied to you. There are no “open adoption contracts” that will hold up in a court of law.

I’m sorry you were tricked by people you thought were your friends, but eight months is probably too late. I’d contact a lawyer for legal advice, or if you can’t afford one, google “Legal aid” and your area to find your closest Legal Aid. They will provide you with free/low cost legal services.

]]> By: Mom to Foster Children http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-4763 Mom to Foster Children Thu, 13 Aug 2009 12:35:50 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/how-do-you-get-your-baby-back-after-you-give-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-4763 I don't think this is for real. They moved and changed their names? Also there is no such thing as an open adoption contract. Much less a legally enforceable open adoption. I don’t think this is for real. They moved and changed their names? Also there is no such thing as an open adoption contract. Much less a legally enforceable open adoption.

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