Comments on: How much does it cost to PLACE your baby for adoption?

By: Starfire

*Starfire* — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 04:06:01 +0000

It doesn’t cost you any money. *Starfire*

By: myst1998

myst1998 — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 14:11:20 +0000

Hi there…

It will cost you a piece of yourself that you can never get back regardless of how often you see him or if you reunite with him if you place him for adoption. To me that is priceless, and not for sale… so it costs the earth. In a paper monetary sense, it costs nothing…but it depends on what you consider more important in life I guess. Agencies are good at promising you the world but they lie and do not keep their promises.

I hope you end up parenting your son. All the best through what must be a difficult time… (I assume as you are looking into adoption). Always know that difficult times come and go whatever stage of life you are in… but the pain of losing one’s child will stay forever.

Good luck and email me if you want more info. myst1998

By: hiryuu_hime

hiryuu_hime — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 15:47:40 +0000

It doesn’t cost anything financially.

However…. my brother and I are adopted, and even with all this “open” adoption stuff, we still have no idea where we come from. I have no real sense of family even though my adoptive parents love us, and always feel awkward filling out family medical history stuff because I honestly have no idea.

The reason my mom adopted us is because she had a baby at 19 and put him up for adoption. 40 years later she still hasn’t found him, and it hurts her a lot. She was never able to get pregnant with my father, so the loss of her only natural child has been haunting her for 40 years. It really affected our whole family.

As an adoptee, I plan on adopting a child once I’m married. But if I get pregnant, I’m definitely keeping my baby. It’s really hard to not know your real mother. If you haven’t been through it, you don’t know. hiryuu_hime

By: Pip

Pip — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 09:11:01 +0000

In money terms nothing but in emotional terms it is priceless. It’s your choice at the end of the day but I would encourage you to parent over surrendering. Pip

By: ballerinakiki

ballerinakiki — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 12:14:46 +0000

Try not to be scared by all the people “answering your question” on here…about how it costs you your soul if you give your baby up. Not true! If you have to give him up, that’s not costing you your soul, you are being loving and giving your baby a better life than you could maybe give him. Think about your options, see a therapist, but don’t let ANYONE put you down for YOUR decision. ballerinakiki

By: Camilleta

Camilleta — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 10:28:09 +0000

Last time I checked, it was free for the birth mother. I think it’s rude for everyone to tell you you’re selfish if you don’t keep the baby. Giving it to what you think will be a better parent/s is just as brave and deciding to keep it. Just definitely meet the prospective parents and make sure it feels right. Good luck, whatever you choose!! I was 20 when I got pregnant and didn’t think I could do it but I grew into a person that could by the time I had the baby. =) Camilleta

By: Aislin

Aislin — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 09:14:11 +0000

your soul is all it costs. If you think now that you will not get over it then you won’t. Your son won’t either. You already have shown you want to parent him so stop with the adoption nonsense. Do not contact any agencies. Once you talk to them they will not take no for an answer. Just enjoy your pregnancy and when April comes around enjoy your son. Aislin

By: Andraya searchin for Jay11/29/94

Andraya searchin for Jay11/29/94 — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 12:26:06 +0000

All it will cost you is what it cost me. Years of pain, sorrow, grief and longing. Today marked my son’s 15th birthday… Do you want to be me in 15 years, celebrating your child’s birthday alone, longing for that “open” adoption you were promised? I baked a cake… a huge, beautiful cake, then I threw it away because I can’t eat his cake without him but I can’t not bake a cake for him any more than I could not bake a cake for his “kept” sisters.

ETA

I always love how people feel they can talk for me.

YES losing my son cost me my soul. Unless you have walked in these shoes you have NO clue what it cost me to lose my firstborn child. Go give away your child and tell me it cost you nothing. Ignorant, just ignorant.

So no, it won’t cost you money, it will only cost you your soul. Good luck with that. Andraya searchin for Jay11/29/94

By: grapesgum

grapesgum — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 06:21:41 +0000

Infertile adoptive couples will fall on their knees and prostrate themselves at your feet with cash in hand to beg for your baby. It will cost you zero dollars. The real cost will be a lifetime of grief over the loss of your child.

Please read this wonderful brochure written by a mother who lost her child to adoption and grieves every day for her loss:

Heather Lowe’s “What you should KNOW if you’re considering adoption for your baby”

Your son has one and only one true mother - you. grapesgum

By: Proud Mommy

Proud Mommy — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 00:55:26 +0000

Its completely free thats how we protect inocent children from being neglected if someones not ready they simply give away this way the child is tooken care of if thy charged for adoptions then our children being killed would be so much higher because of parents not able to pay Proud Mommy