How to Give Baby up for Adoption without Father’s Permission?
Hello, anybody know how I can give up my baby for adoption without the father’s permission?
My reason is I know I cannot take care of the baby and want to put him in a good home. I am not married. The father is my exboyfriend who is physically and mentally abusive. The last thing I want to do is for my child to grow up with a monster. My ex claims he found Jesus and changed…but I found out he told that to his last girlfriend too and beat her too. His family is obsessively Catholic so they have some crazy Christian guilt/violence issues. His mom is really nuts and abused him too so I don’t want to give my baby to the grandparents.
Would doing the adoption in Canada be better than the USA?
The reason I cannot go to court is I do not have money for a long legal custody fight. I am not financially able to take care of my baby so that is why adoption is the answer.
November 2nd, 2009 at 7:22 am
No. He has just as much rights to the baby as you do. If you could prove the abuse, it is possible to have his parental rights terminated, but you would have to do that through the courts prior to any adoption proceedings. Enigmatic
November 3rd, 2009 at 8:41 am
Just don’t put him on the birth certificate. Put “unknown”.
I can help you find a good family if you like… jammin7000
November 5th, 2009 at 9:50 am
why cant you just keep your baby and take his father to court? you may be doing the right thing but im a mother and i could never give up my child just because his father and his fathers family is crazy talk to a councilor make sure your making the right decision for you and your baby tannadunlap
November 8th, 2009 at 7:47 am
They wont try to adopt the child, just do the legal and correct thing. Your being very smart on the one hand, and very immature on the other hand sorry, truth be told here.
Being so deceptive could wind you up with fraud charges and in jail. So weigh out just putting the baby up with no father listed, or dealing with asking him for his signature. He may be ok with not paying child support on this. I doubt hed call his entire family and ask if he keeps the baby will someone raise it, hed have to pay them child support that way too. loves christmas lights
November 10th, 2009 at 5:41 pm
You can say you don’t know who the father is. Nicole J
November 11th, 2009 at 4:13 pm
no you can’t. The child is not able to be adopted, at least legally, unless both parents sign off their rights to the child. Either you sign your rights away and he keeps the child, or you keep that baby and fight as hard as you can to get full custody. I vote for the second scenario! Glam Mommy
November 14th, 2009 at 10:39 pm
You can give it up without his consent. If the baby is already born try to do an open adoption so you know who the baby is going to. You don’t have to keep in touch but you will be able to get to know the future parents a bit. I would adopt in the USA. Canada is ok but their health care is not so great. It takes forever to get anything done. Since your boyfriend has an abusive past and so does his mother the baby cannot legally be raised by them so its all yours. That means you can give it up for adoption. Binka
November 16th, 2009 at 2:03 pm
he has just the same rights as you do..
if you put up the child for adoption, how is that fair to the father?
i think that would be completly selfish.. Soph
November 18th, 2009 at 11:08 pm
I had talked to a birthmom who knew the dad but he hadn’t had anything to due with them since she was pregnant and the baby was 1. The legal way to go about it is checking the father on some list, a lawyer would know what it’s called (you can ask a lawyer and they won’t charge). If they are not on the list the courts will terminate his rights because it is the same situation as an orphan. I know this wasn’t too specific but I hope it helps.
Also , I would love to help give your child a great home. My husband and I are looking to add on to our family with a child. We have a 3 yr old little boy. If interested please send me an email:
God bless and good luck manda_jns