Comments on: I have a newborn baby and I feel that I’m not ready is adoption an option? http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/ Mon, 13 Feb 2012 06:30:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: ◄☻RN☻► http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/comment-page-1/#comment-5236 ◄☻RN☻► Thu, 08 Oct 2009 01:15:20 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/#comment-5236 adoption is an option, but i am afraid you would miss her once she's gone; sometimes a strong bond takes time, esp if it was unplanned; she is now a part of your fam; maybe have fam take her a few days to see how bad you miss her before going for adoption...how does your hub feel? adoption is an option, but i am afraid you would miss her once she’s gone; sometimes a strong bond takes time, esp if it was unplanned; she is now a part of your fam; maybe have fam take her a few days to see how bad you miss her before going for adoption…how does your hub feel?

]]> By: Jazlynn is 10 months!! http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/comment-page-1/#comment-5235 Jazlynn is 10 months!! Wed, 07 Oct 2009 08:36:47 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/#comment-5235 Go on and give her up, because she doesn't need to grow up with a mother that obviously doesn't love her. Adoption is still an option, and seeing that you are so selfish, it's probably the best option for you. And to think you're married! You already started your life and your settled down...how much more ready do you think you need to be? I can't understand how you don't have any maternal instincts. After having a baby for 5 weeks, i just can't understand how anyone could give them up. Go on and give her up, because she doesn’t need to grow up with a mother that obviously doesn’t love her. Adoption is still an option, and seeing that you are so selfish, it’s probably the best option for you.

And to think you’re married! You already started your life and your settled down…how much more ready do you think you need to be?

I can’t understand how you don’t have any maternal instincts. After having a baby for 5 weeks, i just can’t understand how anyone could give them up.

]]> By: Baby Colton is home! 7-02-09 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/comment-page-1/#comment-5234 Baby Colton is home! 7-02-09 Sun, 04 Oct 2009 12:31:25 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/#comment-5234 its never too late for adoption however the older the child is the harder it is to find them a family its never too late for adoption however the older the child is the harder it is to find them a family

]]> By: stephanieisred87 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/comment-page-1/#comment-5233 stephanieisred87 Sat, 03 Oct 2009 06:15:59 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/#comment-5233 Adoption is still an option, and I think it's wonderful that you're thinking about what's best for your daughter, but I think you should consider keeping her! Being postpartum myself, I understand when you don't feel that connection with your new baby, and can still clearly remember life, pre-baby. I would recommend that you give it some time. Work daily to show your daughter how much you love her, talk to her, play with her (even though she's still so little,) do you best to demonstrate your love to her. I think eventually you will realize how much you love her. Giving her up could still work, but she is your child. You are her mommy. She loves you and her Daddy and we only live this mortal life once. The most important thing is family, and NOTHING else. Sometimes it takes time to realize this. You could always seek counseling to help you bond with the baby. Do not go through this alone. Use your family, church, professional counseling or otherwise, to help you through this. For many mothers, mothering is NOT first nature. But you deserve your daughter and she deserves you. Please consider hanging on to her. Adoption is still an option, and I think it’s wonderful that you’re thinking about what’s best for your daughter, but I think you should consider keeping her!

Being postpartum myself, I understand when you don’t feel that connection with your new baby, and can still clearly remember life, pre-baby. I would recommend that you give it some time. Work daily to show your daughter how much you love her, talk to her, play with her (even though she’s still so little,) do you best to demonstrate your love to her. I think eventually you will realize how much you love her.

Giving her up could still work, but she is your child. You are her mommy. She loves you and her Daddy and we only live this mortal life once. The most important thing is family, and NOTHING else. Sometimes it takes time to realize this.

You could always seek counseling to help you bond with the baby. Do not go through this alone. Use your family, church, professional counseling or otherwise, to help you through this. For many mothers, mothering is NOT first nature. But you deserve your daughter and she deserves you. Please consider hanging on to her.

]]> By: Ruth http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/comment-page-1/#comment-5232 Ruth Wed, 30 Sep 2009 09:51:15 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/#comment-5232 grow up you didnt care while having sex you will raise your baby dont be a jerk grow up you didnt care while having sex you will raise your baby dont be a jerk

]]> By: lily http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/comment-page-1/#comment-5231 lily Tue, 29 Sep 2009 04:00:59 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/#comment-5231 I wouldn't give her up straight away, you might regret it and want to see her but never be able to. It could be post natal depression so look into that first. Juggling careers with children must be really hard but some people do manage it, maybe working part time at first and things like that. I wouldn’t give her up straight away, you might regret it and want to see her but never be able to. It could be post natal depression so look into that first. Juggling careers with children must be really hard but some people do manage it, maybe working part time at first and things like that.

]]> By: Sophie http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/comment-page-1/#comment-5230 Sophie Fri, 25 Sep 2009 20:28:55 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/#comment-5230 It sounds as though you may be suffering from post natal depression, which can be a problem for many new mothers. However, it is quite uncommon for you to feel no connection to her at all, and if you're sure that you don't really love her then it may be a good idea to put her up for adoption so she can have parents who really truly love and care for her. Adoption is never 'too late', and it would be so much easier for her to let her go now than maybe in a few years when she's attatched to you. However, you have to think about this VERY carefully. There are so many people out there who give up children for adoption and then regret it for the rest of their lives. It sounds as though you may be suffering from post natal depression, which can be a problem for many new mothers. However, it is quite uncommon for you to feel no connection to her at all, and if you’re sure that you don’t really love her then it may be a good idea to put her up for adoption so she can have parents who really truly love and care for her. Adoption is never ‘too late’, and it would be so much easier for her to let her go now than maybe in a few years when she’s attatched to you.

However, you have to think about this VERY carefully. There are so many people out there who give up children for adoption and then regret it for the rest of their lives.

]]> By: Sungirl http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/comment-page-1/#comment-5229 Sungirl Thu, 24 Sep 2009 02:14:57 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/#comment-5229 Adoption is a good idea if you are not ready...it's probably the best thing you can do for your child. No, I don't think it is too late, but you should definitely confirm that. Whatever direction you are leaning toward, you should contact someone who knows about adoption who you can talk to to look into the options. Talking to a professional will help you sort everything out. Adoption can be a painful process, but if you can't take care of your child than it may be the best. Good luck! Adoption is a good idea if you are not ready…it’s probably the best thing you can do for your child. No, I don’t think it is too late, but you should definitely confirm that. Whatever direction you are leaning toward, you should contact someone who knows about adoption who you can talk to to look into the options. Talking to a professional will help you sort everything out. Adoption can be a painful process, but if you can’t take care of your child than it may be the best. Good luck!

]]> By: It is only my opinion http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/comment-page-1/#comment-5228 It is only my opinion Mon, 21 Sep 2009 13:26:02 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/#comment-5228 I didn't feel any connection to my son until he was about 1-2 months old. You COULD be suffering from depression. You should talk to your doctor first about your feelings. After being medicated, if you still feel the same way, consider adoption. How does your husband feel about this? I think you will regret it later. But it is never too late for adoption. I didn’t feel any connection to my son until he was about 1-2 months old. You COULD be suffering from depression. You should talk to your doctor first about your feelings. After being medicated, if you still feel the same way, consider adoption. How does your husband feel about this? I think you will regret it later. But it is never too late for adoption.

]]> By: Chauncey Q. Buttercup http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/comment-page-1/#comment-5227 Chauncey Q. Buttercup Mon, 21 Sep 2009 11:04:54 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/i-have-a-newborn-baby-and-i-feel-that-im-not-ready-is-adoption-an-option/#comment-5227 The word is spelled "career" and I'm glad that I don't know you. The word is spelled “career” and I’m glad that I don’t know you.

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