I need some help with placing my baby for adoption?
Ok so the situation is that I live in Western Australia, and I want to give my baby up for adoption after it’s born. But over here we don’t have any adoption agencies or anything like that, you have to use the foster care people who put the baby into an adoption home. But basically doing that you don’t get to pick out the parents that you want the baby to have.
I definitely want to do adoption, no doubts there, but I really want to be able to pick out the parents. I mean I’m entitled to that right? Plus here it has to be an open adoption, even if you don’t want that. I want a closed adoption.
So my question is, can I go to the USA and put my baby up for adoption there? They have actual adoption agencies and I like the idea of meeting the parents and getting to know them, plus an agency just seems so much nicer than the government doing it. Is is possible as an Australian citizen to give birth in America and have the baby adopted there?
And if that is possible, can anyone recommend a good agency? Thanks so much!
Thanks to the first person who answered, I’ve been able to start doing some research.
For Heather B, I don’t know what your problem is but you don’t know what you’re talking about. Yes, we’re presented with files of the parents and details of their lifestyles, etc on paper, but you don’t actually meet them until the baby is born. I prefer to meet face to face with the people I am giving a baby to, just because a peice of paper says one thing the people themselves can be entirely different!
And yes, in WA every adoption is open to some degree. Whether you see the child or not the adoption is open and the parents have all your details and vice versa.
So maybe you should do your research before you insult people you don’t know and make a hard situation even harder for them?
Ok, don’t worry about it if none of you can help just say so there’s no need to insult people. You have NO idea what my reasons or situation is and neither do you have a right to I have begun my own research and am finding out for myself.
November 21st, 2009 at 5:36 pm
As long as you have the baby in the USA you can select the parents. As for having the baby in Australia and having it adopted by a USA couple may be possible. You need to contact the health department in America or an adoption agency. hopeless
November 21st, 2009 at 7:02 pm
Hi Cathy! I see you have a brand new account!
I don’t believe you’ve researched the Australian system very thoroughly, because in Western Australia:-
When a birth parent or parents of a child decide to place their child for adoption, the birth parents will be asked their preference for the upbringing of the child and attributes of the adoptive family. This would include cultural concerns.
The birth parents are given details of appropriate families who have registered to adopt, and the birth parent/s will choose a family. An adoption plan is then negotiated between the birth parents and adoptive family, detailing things such as:
* The ongoing provision of medical information
* Reporting on developmental and important events in the child’s life
* Whether the birth parents will have contact with the child, and, if so, the details of that contact.
I don’t believe you are genuine. Not for one second.
Good luck getting rid of your imaginary baby!
ETA: Yeah, ummm, right
BTW The Convention on the Rights of the Child stipulate that every child has the right to know their parentage, to know who and where they came from.
Good luck stripping your child of those civil and human rights too. Heather B
November 23rd, 2009 at 9:45 pm
Cathy-
You do get to chose the parents for adoption. Your mixing up fostering and adoption depts. I would suggest you contact WA social services and find out your rights relating to adoption in your home country.
I am an adoptive parent, We were chosen through profiles by our childrens first parents. We had 18months of assesments to be in the adoption pool. They’d know if a potential adoptive parent lied in a profile or didn’t represent themselves correctly. You need time after your child is born to truly know this is what you want. If its done the right way everyones rights are protected.
I’m just sticking to the facts. Your better off doing the research and deciding from there yourself.
Edit; if you chose not to have an open relationship you don’t have to. I know of situations where the adoptive families send in updates but they don’t have visits. The good thing is its open so you can request it later on if you decide to want to see your child.
To be honest form an adoptive parents POV(mine anyway) I wouldn’t want to do it the pre-birth matching way because your too attached and then to have a girl change her mind a few days or weeks after the baby came home would to painful to put into words. Thats being honest. I’d rather be chosen through a profile after you’ve had counselling, know its what you want to do and then we meet…
All the best! Serenity71
November 25th, 2009 at 5:53 am
“Mommy, where did I come from?”
“Your mother was so eager to dump you with no strings attached that she crossed an ocean, Sweetheart. That’s what makes you so special!”
You’re right, we can’t help ya have it both ways. You want to both pick the parents and avoid having details about them? Usually you are not “entitled to that.”
For the most part, the days of adopting kids out and thinking you have some right to never be found, or found out about, by that kid are long over. Society is slowing starting to get this crazy idea that adoptees are fully human and therefore should not have to trade all knowledge of their heritage for a loving home. Laurel J
November 28th, 2009 at 3:30 am
Ok so I am not able to provide any more insight into the adoption process in western australia, but reading through your question and some answers I felt I had to say something supportive. I find it very disappointing to see people treat you badly for saying you want to adopt out your child, no offense to those people but I wouldn’t mind betting they would also attack you if you wanted an abortion so which is it? If you feel that you are unable to give your child the right upbringing for whatever reason and yet are still willing to physically and emotionally put yourself through hell to give someone else the chance to have a child then I think it’s a wonderful thing. I sincerely hope that you are able to find a method of adopting out your child that you are comfortable and please make sure you are certain before you go breaking anybody’s heart. Good luck with your research. lee
November 29th, 2009 at 8:13 pm
lol you and i r in different situations and states (im in QLD)lol.. i want sperm so i can have a baby coz im in a lesbian relation ship and cant find any donors who will stay out of my life and you have a baby and want to have a closed adoption.. almost perfect.. cept for the laws and stuff.. shame you cant just give it away like the old days. how far along are you? monniemonster1
December 2nd, 2009 at 1:55 pm
ugh. im sorry to hear this… but wow, i wouldnt care what situation i am in if i am able to spread my legs and get pregnant then i would be able to take care of them… i dont know how mothers do it i am pregnant now and i have such a strong maternal love…i would NOT be able to let my baby gooooooo…. good luch and hopefully you do find great parents for the baby;s since you suck. ♥