You’re right, we can’t help ya have it both ways. You want to both pick the parents and avoid having details about them? Usually you are not “entitled to that.”

For the most part, the days of adopting kids out and thinking you have some right to never be found, or found out about, by that kid are long over. Society is slowing starting to get this crazy idea that adoptees are fully human and therefore should not have to trade all knowledge of their heritage for a loving home. Laurel J

You do get to chose the parents for adoption. Your mixing up fostering and adoption depts. I would suggest you contact WA social services and find out your rights relating to adoption in your home country.

I am an adoptive parent, We were chosen through profiles by our childrens first parents. We had 18months of assesments to be in the adoption pool. They’d know if a potential adoptive parent lied in a profile or didn’t represent themselves correctly. You need time after your child is born to truly know this is what you want. If its done the right way everyones rights are protected.

I’m just sticking to the facts. Your better off doing the research and deciding from there yourself.

Edit; if you chose not to have an open relationship you don’t have to. I know of situations where the adoptive families send in updates but they don’t have visits. The good thing is its open so you can request it later on if you decide to want to see your child.

To be honest form an adoptive parents POV(mine anyway) I wouldn’t want to do it the pre-birth matching way because your too attached and then to have a girl change her mind a few days or weeks after the baby came home would to painful to put into words. Thats being honest. I’d rather be chosen through a profile after you’ve had counselling, know its what you want to do and then we meet…

All the best! Serenity71

I don’t believe you’ve researched the Australian system very thoroughly, because in Western Australia:-

When a birth parent or parents of a child decide to place their child for adoption, the birth parents will be asked their preference for the upbringing of the child and attributes of the adoptive family. This would include cultural concerns.

The birth parents are given details of appropriate families who have registered to adopt, and the birth parent/s will choose a family. An adoption plan is then negotiated between the birth parents and adoptive family, detailing things such as:

* The ongoing provision of medical information
* Reporting on developmental and important events in the child’s life
* Whether the birth parents will have contact with the child, and, if so, the details of that contact.

I don’t believe you are genuine. Not for one second.

Good luck getting rid of your imaginary baby!

ETA: Yeah, ummm, right

BTW The Convention on the Rights of the Child stipulate that every child has the right to know their parentage, to know who and where they came from.

Good luck stripping your child of those civil and human rights too. Heather B