Comments on: I thinking aobut giving my baby up for adoption?

By: collegechick

collegechick — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 04:58:11 +0000

I am currently in the same situation and I will be praying for you to make the right decision for you and the baby. What I found to be really useful is getting in contact with a nonprofit adoption agency. I’m in the Dallas Texas area and am currently getting counseling with Buckner Adoption. Because they are nonprofit, Christian, and an open-adoption agency, they really want to help you with your decision (and aren’t getting money to make them bias). I have a caseworker named Erica, shes awesome and she really makes me feel less alone during this awkward pregnancy. So far we’ve talked about both options and consolers with these organizations will defiantly help you realize and put priorities together with you.
Just by you wanting to go through with the pregnancy and even considering the baby before yourself makes me think that you are not be selfish at all.
Children will benefit with you as a parent or with another loving family, just don’t let a negative image or yourself lead your choice.

Good Luck and God Bless!

By: BILLYSxCUPCAKE

BILLYSxCUPCAKE — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 14:54:22 +0000

I was adopted the day I was born, my father left my mother and my mother didn’t have a job and was too young, but, every day that passes I can’t help but cry myself to sleep thinking about her. If you decided to give you baby up, please stay in contact with the adopting parents. Thinking that every day that your parents didn’t want you is difficult and I always wonder if I look like her. Leave your baby with something to remember you with. If you can’t take care of your baby and don’t think you can give it the love it will want, don’t keep it, but make sure they know you are there. Just let them know you didn’t hate them.

By: BaileyLou

BaileyLou — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 00:06:23 +0000

Adoption is such a huge gift to give someone, but a lot of times it’s hard for the birth mother unless they have some kind of contact with the adopting parents and their biological child. If that’s what you’re looking for then you should definitely do an open adoption.

I have a 4 year old daughter, Kinsley. I gave her up for adoption when she was born to a couple who knew my boss at the time (they’d been trying to have a baby for 4 years). We have a completely open adoption and I see her several times a year. My relationship to the adopting parents is sort of like just having an extended family.

It takes a truly strong person to give their baby up, but it also takes someone who has guts and character. I applaud you for weighing all your options and considering adoption.

Good luck and blessings to you!

By: Nicci R

Nicci R — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 14:43:05 +0000

Check out the book “Adoption Without Fear” by Jim Gritter or it may be under James Gritter. (You’ll probably be able to find it at your library) It is about open adoption. Also, I would check into an agency that will give you support in whatever decision you make.

Best of luck
Nicci

By: Lottie W

Lottie W — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 03:11:32 +0000

This has got to be one of the hardest decisions anyone can make. Keeping a child is hard, giving one up is hard.
A real test of love is what is BEST-in the long run- for your child.
YOU pass with flying colors, in my opinion.
It is always a good idea to love and support your children, and you are doing that the best way you can!
You will have plenty of time to have children when you are in a better position in life. take care of yourself. Good luck!

By: marcyp06

marcyp06 — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 19:30:32 +0000

Once there were two women who never knew each other.
One you do not remember, the other you call Mother.

Two different lives shaped to make you one.
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun.

The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it.
The first gave you a need for love. The second was there to give it.

One gave you a nationality. The other gave you a name.
One gave you a talent. The other gave you aim.

One gave you emotions. The other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile. The other dried your tears.

One sought for you a home that she could not provide.
The other prayed for a child and her hope was not denied.

And now you ask me, through your tears,
the age-old question unanswered through the years.
Heredity or environment, which are you a product of?
Neither, my darling. Neither. Just two different kinds of Love.

By: Dana D

Dana D — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 18:40:40 +0000

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. She is lucky to have a mom like you. Consider what you could offer her instead of what you can’t. My parents were broke raising me and my 2 sisters, but we made it with love and hard work. As far as the selfish parents you mentioned, it must be the father to be. It’s definitely not you. You already love her enough to consider this option of adoption, (you should also consider leaving him if that is what the problem is.) Good luck to you and your beautiful baby girl. It’s going to be a tough decision, but I truly believe that god has a plan for you. You will know what to do when she comes.

By: Ravenfeather

Ravenfeather — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 08:49:39 +0000

It sounds like the best situation for your baby is to do an open adoption.

That is what I did. I don’t think I could have done it, otherwise.

There are great agencies that set it up. Couples apply to adopt and YOU get to pick the couple that will adopt her.

The idea is that you get to be in her life and she gets to be in yours. You get to determine how much. I know of a few situations in which the adoptive parents bonded with the birth mother before the birth and even attended the birth.

My son thinks of me as a very special aunt and my husband a very special uncle. He knows his origins, but he was raised by his adopted parents.

He knows his birth siblings and other relatives. He has two families!

I wish you well. It was both the most difficult and the most incredible thing I have ever done.

It is the most precious and most generous act you could ever perform, in my opinion and experience.

By: Nic

Nic — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 13:53:04 +0000

You’re a very brave girl and I’m so glad you didn’t have an abortion.

I understand pro-choice blah blah….but too many women are using abortion as a form of birth control.

Stay strong and do what your heart tells you is right.

By: mzmh411

mzmh411 — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 00:36:45 +0000

think really hard it to see of that is really want u want to do…. its asmart thing hat i dont want to put a negative influence on the baby life and want the child to have whats best…. or this could be the breakthough for u to turn things around and realize that u can change and make a change and be there for ya child.but dont toy with the childs life… one u have made ya decision, that will be the end….. but i think it wil be good to do open adoption that will u can still be in the baby’s life
i know u will make the right decision!!!!