I want to put my baby up for adoption?
✿♡☆♥ Yummy Mummy ♥✿♡☆ asked:
I am 6 weeks pregnant. I had a scan & saw a heartbeat, so far all is good. I am already a mother of 3 & have separated from my long term relationship. I am booked for an abortion as i can’t care or support another child. I would like to consider adoption. I live in the U.K how would i go about this?
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I am 6 weeks pregnant. I had a scan & saw a heartbeat, so far all is good. I am already a mother of 3 & have separated from my long term relationship. I am booked for an abortion as i can’t care or support another child. I would like to consider adoption. I live in the U.K how would i go about this?
Thanks
January 20th, 2010 at 12:31 am
not sure if it works the same way in the UK as here in the states but most adoption agencies will hook you up w/ a couple to adopt. Most of the time after a contracted agreement is made the couple pays for most to all of the expenses for prenatal care and delivery. speedracer4u2c
January 23rd, 2010 at 8:35 am
I think you have to go to your local County Council and talk to them. They should be able to help you. Ruby
January 24th, 2010 at 2:11 pm
I’m not sure but I have to say MAJOR KUDOS for sneaking out adoption! Your baby has a heatbeat you saw it you have 3 kids already you know what a special thing a baby is. Don’t kill it off. Six
January 24th, 2010 at 4:46 pm
Altho its only 6 weeks old your little one is a person! Adoption would be a much better option. In 10 years you will be thinking I wonder which school he/she is going to but if you have an abortion you will be like I wonder how many pieces my baby was broken into or how hot the incinerator was when they burned it. It’s not your babys fault you got pregnant if you didnt want a baby you shouldn’t of opened your legs.
Sorry but it’s true megan c
January 25th, 2010 at 12:19 am
Contact your local authority, children and family division.
Adoption in the UK is a social service for children. Private adoption and the paying of ‘expenses’ is also illegal for obvious reasons (babies become commodities this way)
You will have 6 weeks after the baby is born before you make a decision. During this time the baby can be with you or your baby will be cared for with you visiting as often as you wish.
No adopters are allowed to influence your decision during this time.
I’m sorry to hear you’re considering separating siblings. That’s just so sad. There are loads of support systems in place for mothers here in the UK. Homestart is an excellent organization and to be honest, with three children already, one more isn’t really going to make that much of a difference! You can do it if you really wanted to. The first year may be hard but once you’re over that hurdle it will be fine, honestly.
Consider contacting Homestart, or speak with the Community midwife to get you in touch with the numerous resources available to you that will support you in keeping your family intact.
If you’re local to me, I’d be more than happy to be a free home help. Honestly. I hate to see families separated and I’ll help with childcare in any way you need
Heather B
January 27th, 2010 at 1:56 pm
How pretty my dear! Catrisha
January 29th, 2010 at 6:49 am
When you go for your next scan, tell the doctor that you are interested in placing the baby up for adoption. He/she may have a client that may not be able to have kids and would like to adopt or he/she can at least point you in the right direction. Please cancel your appointment to get the abortion and let your baby live. sundragonjess
January 31st, 2010 at 12:48 pm
Keep your abortion appointment. Its much less painful to you and the embryo. cantstopLinnyG
February 1st, 2010 at 10:58 am
Giving up your own flesh and blood is worse then aborting it. Adoption doesn’t guarantee a better life. For the rest of your life and the child’s life, you both will grieve. The child will ask why his own mommy didn’t want him, etc. Adoption companies don’t care about you or your child. It’s all about the money. Also, people will say they will let you see the child and such but don’t fall for greedy hands. Kay
February 3rd, 2010 at 9:44 am
A note to Americans - adoption is different in the UK as it has to be dealt with either the local authority or adoption agency. Private adoptions are illegal and as far as I’m away pre birth matches don’t generally happen.
Think carefully before choosing adoption as I have had to live with my son being adopted and not knowing whether he was alive or dead for 23 years. Fortunately we have been reunited for over 4 years but it doesn’t make up for the lost years. Although there is the option of open adoption which means letterbox contact and if you’re extremely lucky you may get more than that but if unlucky it will be closed.
My situation was different to you as I was coerced but had I known what would happened I would have had an abortion despite the fact I do have a good reunion with my son. Philippa
February 6th, 2010 at 4:59 pm
It would be better on everyone if you aborted.
This child will never understand why his/her mother gave him/her away for adoption - while 3 others were kept.
Your kept children will never understand why you sent their sibling away.
Being given away by your mother never gets any easier.
To live adoption - as an adoptee - hurts. Possum
February 9th, 2010 at 6:24 pm
For all those who are saying that adoption is worse than abortion, they could not be more wrong. Letting your child live is the greatest gift you can give them. I know from experience that your child would be grateful for the life you gave them, knowing that you loved him or her so much that you did something very hard for you by giving him to another family who desperately wants a child. Putting you child up for adoption is the greatest gift you can give your baby. The gift of life.
Some others might be saying now that your child will wonder why you didn’t want him or her. But from experience i can tell you most adoptees know that their parents could not care for them.
If you abort your child, then it will wonder forever in heaven why you did not want him or her to have a chance at life.
Getting an abortion does not make you “un” pregnant. It just makes you the mother of a dead baby. twinsister1111
February 10th, 2010 at 8:47 pm
Adoption in the UK is different than here in the US, as others have explained. It might help to post your answer on the UK version of Y!A. Good luck. BPD Wife