Comments on: If I give my baby up for adoption and decide that I don’t like it, can I regain custody? http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/ Thu, 17 May 2012 20:35:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: sizesmith http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5104 sizesmith Wed, 30 Sep 2009 13:48:08 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/#comment-5104 The only way is to instead of placing the baby for adoption, is to place the baby with a temporary guardianship, with adoption as a future thought, but at the same time, not signing the papers yet. It would have to be an emotionally strong prospective adoptive parents, because knowing that a child might be taken away is a strong emotion for them (and I definately don't mean to minimize the fact that you and every placing mother don't go through this!). If you do proceed with adoption, in your case, I'd only place the baby with someone who's home I'd visited, to know where they live, that they have family ties to the area, and that they are stable. I'd also want a lie detector test done to make sure that they're planning on honoring open adoption. If they say no, then they aren't the right PAP's. Good luck The only way is to instead of placing the baby for adoption, is to place the baby with a temporary guardianship, with adoption as a future thought, but at the same time, not signing the papers yet.

It would have to be an emotionally strong prospective adoptive parents, because knowing that a child might be taken away is a strong emotion for them (and I definately don’t mean to minimize the fact that you and every placing mother don’t go through this!).

If you do proceed with adoption, in your case, I’d only place the baby with someone who’s home I’d visited, to know where they live, that they have family ties to the area, and that they are stable. I’d also want a lie detector test done to make sure that they’re planning on honoring open adoption. If they say no, then they aren’t the right PAP’s. Good luck

]]> By: mamaac43 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5103 mamaac43 Mon, 28 Sep 2009 13:13:07 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/#comment-5103 Once you have relinquished your rights there is no going back in most states. However there are some states that don't work that way, you may want to get an attorney and fast because there may be a time limit on regaining your rights. Once you have relinquished your rights there is no going back in most states. However there are some states that don’t work that way, you may want to get an attorney and fast because there may be a time limit on regaining your rights.

]]> By: ashlea http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5102 ashlea Sun, 27 Sep 2009 06:42:59 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/#comment-5102 This is called "adoption dissolution" and must be approved by a judge in court. Judges almost always deny the request. but it matter's in some states but yes some states give you a time period to get your child back like 3 months but you need to realize that you will be giving a family false hope tho if you think you might want your child back then maybe adoption is not right for you This is called “adoption dissolution” and must be approved by a judge in court. Judges almost always deny the request.

but it matter’s in some states but yes some states give you a time period to get your child back like 3 months but you need to realize that you will be giving a family false hope tho if you think you might want your child back then maybe adoption is not right for you

]]> By: cricketlady http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5101 cricketlady Sat, 26 Sep 2009 04:29:32 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/#comment-5101 If the child is placed for adoption---then NO. It's not something to go into lightly---be sure you get counseling first. If the child is placed for adoption—then NO. It’s not something to go into lightly—be sure you get counseling first.

]]> By: Momof2 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5100 Momof2 Wed, 23 Sep 2009 09:25:14 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/#comment-5100 I am glad you are not considering abortion. You have 5 months to make plans, can you get help from family or friends or a church? You will have a huge load to carry but you can do it if your heart is in it, just don't be afraid to ask for help. Good luck and take care. I am glad you are not considering abortion. You have 5 months to make plans, can you get help from family or friends or a church? You will have a huge load to carry but you can do it if your heart is in it, just don’t be afraid to ask for help. Good luck and take care.

]]> By: dawnebeker http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5099 dawnebeker Sun, 20 Sep 2009 11:27:28 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/#comment-5099 It depends on what state you live in as to how long you have to "change your mind". Some states you have 3 days until you sign the papers that make is official, other place you have no "grace period". It depends on what state you live in as to how long you have to “change your mind”. Some states you have 3 days until you sign the papers that make is official, other place you have no “grace period”.

]]> By: Due September 22, 2009 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5098 Due September 22, 2009 Sun, 20 Sep 2009 06:23:30 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/#comment-5098 Once you give your baby for adoption; there is nothing you can do. You have 48 hours to reconsider what you are doing. After that; the baby is no longer considered yours.... Once you give your baby for adoption; there is nothing you can do. You have 48 hours to reconsider what you are doing. After that; the baby is no longer considered yours….

]]> By: Believe me!! http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5097 Believe me!! Thu, 17 Sep 2009 15:53:58 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/#comment-5097 you said you "feel" you haven't tried yet to take care of the baby so wait till the time comes and then make a decision later on if its to much for you to handle you said you “feel” you haven’t tried yet to take care of the baby so wait till the time comes and then make a decision later on if its to much for you to handle

]]> By: Saggyrl http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5096 Saggyrl Thu, 17 Sep 2009 05:00:20 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/#comment-5096 Don't do it. Don’t do it.

]]> By: Sio http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/comment-page-1/#comment-5095 Sio Mon, 14 Sep 2009 22:43:54 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/if-i-give-my-baby-up-for-adoption-and-decide-that-i-dont-like-it-can-i-regain-custody/#comment-5095 okay so i have heard that in some states you have 10 days after the adoption takes place to change your mind...but i don't know where that is and if that is 100% true..i heard it on an episode of adoption stories... okay so i have heard that in some states you have 10 days after the adoption takes place to change your mind…but i don’t know where that is and if that is 100% true..i heard it on an episode of adoption stories…

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