if you don’t care about the baby why is abortion easier than adoption?
SineadM asked:
if women don’t care about the unborn fetus than why is adoption so hard. this is generally directed to women who don’t mind going through labor but all opinions are welcome.
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if women don’t care about the unborn fetus than why is adoption so hard. this is generally directed to women who don’t mind going through labor but all opinions are welcome.
October 7th, 2009 at 5:31 pm
Abortion is not easy for anyone. Many women like myself do care very much about the fetus but due to circumstances that are none of your business, decide that abortion is the best choice for everyone. Yes, that includes the fetus. You do not have to agree or even begin to understand as I’m sure you never will. Bottom line, women who abort are not heartless and terrible. They make the best decision for them with the information they have.
MumofAnAn-How would you know how women feel after an abortion? Actually most women feel relief after an abortion. And it is not murder. Murder:the crime of unlawfully killing a person especially with malice aforethought (M-W.com) Abortion is legal. amanda b
October 10th, 2009 at 7:29 am
because as you go through pregnacy you will be bonding with this life inside you, your body will adapt to the child and when u deliver your body releses a chemical that is given to all mothers that helps with the bonding process maybe this will help….
The action of a baby suckling changes the way a mum’s brain behaves and releases a rush of oxytocin - a chemical nicknamed the love hormone.
Oxytocin is released during sex, childbirth and breastfeeding.
Scientists knew the release of the hormone was responsible for encouraging a special love between mum and baby. But they didn’t know the science behind it.
A study published today says that normally the brain cells which release oxytocin give out small amounts from their nerve endings.
But tests carried out by researchers from Warwick University show a nursing mum’s brain cells release oxytocin from their dendrites - the part of the cell which normally receives rather than gives out.
This results in massive waves of the love hormone sweeping through the brain at five-minute intervals. The study found the cells communicated with each other to co-ordinate these bursts.
Prof Jianfeng Feng, a biology researcher, told the journal Public Library of Science: Computational Biology: ‘We knew that these pulses arise because, during suckling, oxytocin neurons (cells) fire together in dramatic synchronised bursts.
‘But exactly how these bursts arise has been a major problem that has until now eluded explanation.
This research has allowed us to incorporate all the latest research in a large computational model of the whole population of oxytocin cells.
In this model we have shown that the dendritic interactions are enhanced enough to trigger a massive positive-feedback on activity.’
Oxytocin is produced in the hypothalamus - the part of the brain which regulates body temperature, anger, hunger, thirst and tiredness. The hormone gives off a feeling of trust and confidence and can reduce stress.
The new findings have led to hopes that more discoveries could lead to greater analysis on chemical changes in the brain linked to mood. Jojon
October 10th, 2009 at 7:59 am
i am 1000000% against abortion
adoption is normally hard for many people as, after 9 months of having YOUR baby moving around inside you, you have to give him/her away.
babies didnt ask to be made. abortion is killing a poor unborn baby, where as adoption is giving the baby a life.
people that have had abortions normally regret it afterwards. ♥ MumOfAnAngel ♥TTC#2♥
October 12th, 2009 at 2:25 am
i don’t think that women have abortions because they don’t care i think its because they are not emotionally or finacially stable enough to raise a baby, to adopt the baby would be just as hard on a women to do specially after carrying the child for 9 months and seeing its little face. However i think in adopting the child you feel a little better as you would have chosen a good home and great parents to love it where if you’d have a abortion the life no longer exists.
Also I don’t think you should be writing things like this on a website like this as abortion and adoption is such a controversial topic and can very much upset people. Epically those who have experienced it themselves. Heda
October 12th, 2009 at 4:39 am
You’re putting a life out there. You’ll be constantly wondering what your child is like, how he or she is etc……. chickenfarmer
October 13th, 2009 at 5:30 pm
I think its the will power. Can you go through a pregnancy feeling the baby kick and all without falling in love with him/her. I feel in love the day I found out Im pregnant. I don’t agree with abortion but its not my opinion of what your do with your child. Some women think it would be easier to get an abortion but after they do they fell the pain. So I honestly don’t think its “easier” but at the time they think it is the best thing. If they can get to hear the heartbeat, they might rethink aborting because the 1st time I saw my little man heartbeat it was so magically. But not all women think the same. And everyone has a right to thier opinion about what they think would be easier. I personally think neither is “easier” I would be so heart broken and depressed. Even if it would be for the better of the child I would still hurt for putting them up for adoption. And IF I did get an abortion I would hurt because I kill the life of what would have been my child. Im FINALLY PREGNANT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
October 14th, 2009 at 6:30 am
my sister and i believe it is every woman’s choice, but not the one we would make. though we have both had abortions. not by choice, but for medical reasons. uterine ruptures that with our condition are life threatoning on their own. i would never want to have an abortion or give my baby up for adoption but that is because as far as i’m concerned i had sex, got pregnant and this is my baby. fortunately for me, the only abortions i have had to have were because i lost my babies and my body would not miscarry on it’s own so i was not put through a whole abortion as much as just the meds to induce a miscarriage after waiting weeks of carrying around my dead babies. for some women they have no choice, some do. sometimes what the mother would do to the baby during pregnancy is horrible. everyone does what they do for their own personal reasons, and we can’t figure everyone out, but i personally think it’s theirs to figure, not mine. i know it was hell for me even though i had lost my babies lives already, and just had to lose their bodies, but losing them was still incredibly difficult. if i could not care for a baby and was pregnant, i would give my baby up for adoption, but i make absolutely sure that i do whatever i need to do to give my baby the best life he or she can have, with me. surrogacy is also a great option for women who want to be pregnant, but not have kids. it gives people the chance to have a baby if they are not able, for a variety of reasons that don’t make them bad people or parents, to adopt. Dia Dhuit Sinead! aplhafemale313
October 16th, 2009 at 10:58 am
I usually don’t answer abortion questions because I stuggle with the topic. I personally could never make the choice for myself, I could not live with myself after producing a life and then extinquishing it on purpose. To me abortion is too often used as a form of birth control, I know that mistakes happen. But its misuse bothers me more than its use.
However, I have sat with a friend while she was having an abortion. It was her choice to make and I helped her through the ordeal. We cried together afterwards but in the end it was the best decision she could make at the time. I guess I was an enabler since I drove her there.
As for me, I would have had the child and given it up for adoption if I could not raise the child myself. There are too many women who long to get pregnant and just can’t. Some of whom have complications because they had a previous abortion. For some it’s just the emotional baggage they carry with that decision and it’s not even a physical reason they can’t conceive. (I counsel many women with this problem). Others, obviously have fertitily issues. There is just such an imbalance in this world and sense that things just are fair.
I don’t think women are heartless if they decide to have an abortion, they are usually faced without other options and the simple fact of going through the entire pregnancy to give up the baby could be embarrassing for them (too many questions to answer, not wanting folks to know they were pregnant in the first place). Abortion can quickly hide their little secret, while going full term to give the baby up for adoption is just too much to bear. I have never meet anyone in all of my 12 years who felt anything other than sad after having an abortion.
I agree with the emotional attachment made while carrying a child and the difficulty of giving that baby up. There is a service, Adoptions from the Heart, that allow the birth mother and new adopted family to remain in contact with each other so the mother still has some connection. It’s not for everyone, but for some it works out great.
I think the answer to your question is not that women don’t care about the baby they choose to abort, sometimes they just care about themselves and their situation more. How would that baby impact their life going forward? It’s a quick solution to a life altering consequence of unprotected sex. Why drag it out by remaining pregnant to only give up the child later on? questiongirl
October 16th, 2009 at 11:22 pm
Why would you assume that women who have abortions do so because the “don’t care about the unborn fetus”? On that point, empirical evidence suggests that you are completely WRONG. maiathebeegrrl
October 19th, 2009 at 12:35 am
I think many women do care about the fetus even if they have an abortion. Being unable to financially or emotionally provide for a child is chalked up to be convenience. They realize that the life they would give would not be a very good one. Adoption is hard because they go through a full pregnancy, see the baby, and then by giving it away they always know it is out there somewhere. The what if’s are probably painful. Lindsay
October 21st, 2009 at 1:17 pm
I have never heard of a women not minding labor. Contractions hurt like a b*tch. Being heavy all the time, swollen ankles, vomitting for an hour after breakfast every morning. Then going through the most excrutiating pain known to man, plus not everyone has health insurance and that crap is expensive. The biggest reason why people choose abortion is because they don’t wan’t to be pregnant. Simple as that. God, its like people think being pregnant is FUN or something. Ms. Kitty