Im 18 years old and pregnant my boyfriend wants me to put the baby up for adoption?
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I am 18 years old and my bf is 30 years old i am 28 weeks prego but he does not want me to keep this baby he says im to young i dont have anything good coming for me and pretty much puts me down about it , he says if i dont put it up for adoption then hes gonna leave me , i love him so much and would like him to be there for are son i am not gonna put my son up for adoption
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I am 18 years old and my bf is 30 years old i am 28 weeks prego but he does not want me to keep this baby he says im to young i dont have anything good coming for me and pretty much puts me down about it , he says if i dont put it up for adoption then hes gonna leave me , i love him so much and would like him to be there for are son i am not gonna put my son up for adoption
March 21st, 2010 at 1:47 am
listen to your heart darling Tallis
March 21st, 2010 at 10:35 am
dont let it happen love your baby!!! Christine
March 23rd, 2010 at 2:40 am
You’re too young to have a baby at 18 but he had no problem having sex with an 18 year old. What a hypocrite this guy is. Keep the baby, He’d be a crappy father anyway, he insults you and your baby doesn’t need him around and neither do you. Debra D
March 23rd, 2010 at 4:32 pm
So what’s your question?
Hmm, you’ve made your mind up, good for you, you shouldn’t be pressured into such a life changing thing by someone who supposedly loves you. My advice would be to leave him and take care of your child. You’re keeping your son even though it means you’ll be a single mother, and that’s admirable. Bookatchou
March 27th, 2010 at 4:07 am
Leave him and raise your child. Any man who tells you to abandon your son is not ever going to be good husband material, either. He’s a piece of sh*t. celestial
March 29th, 2010 at 6:09 pm
You don’t have to do that.
My Dad (biological) told my Mom that and she picked me.
I am glad she did. Your baby will be also.
Stand up for your baby. Sue him for child support so that your baby will have what it needs (don’t tell him you are going to get him for child support payments). He might run away or hide his income.
When the time is right (right after the baby is born) go to the court and file the paperwork to get child support taken from his paycheck.
Don’t believe him (or accept) that he will provide for the baby after it is born. Or, that he will suddenly change and decide to LOVE the baby and you at the same time.
I don’t think he will.
You say you love him ? How can you since he has dismissed the baby (a baby you made together) so callously ?
Congratulations for standing up for your baby.
Peace.
Peace. TheOne
April 1st, 2010 at 4:04 am
Just tell him your not getting rid of the baby then. if he leaves you then you and baby would be better off without him. you’ll cope fine. just look for support in your family & friends. good luck x BabyBoyDue22ndMay2010
April 4th, 2010 at 6:19 am
Say bye bye and move on with your baby! Mama of Zee
April 6th, 2010 at 8:07 pm
If you want to keep your baby and you feel you can raise him/her then do it. If he leaves then get him for child support. He doesn’t sound like the type of guy you should want around you and your baby even if he is the father. For a 30 year old he is acting like a teenager. You have the potential to be a great mother even though you’re this young but if you stay with someone who hurts you emotionally then you wont be able to reach that full potential. Your baby comes first now nad what your baby needs is to be in a loving environment. Good luck to you Trampess
April 9th, 2010 at 4:52 pm
No loving, supportive man would make you choose between him or your baby. Its time to let him go and move on because you deserve better. There are enough support groups for single mums around to help you. You are not alone! Owner of the house from hell
April 11th, 2010 at 12:56 pm
You need to decide what’s good for you, there’s a lot of help out there, I am crippled and on social security and still make a very comfortable home life for my son, weigh the pros and cons, now that’s a good girl.
Edit: And why does he want you to pick between him and the baby? Nail his *** for child support as he is only thinking of that!:((! khole12
April 13th, 2010 at 9:57 pm
firstly my husband is 29 and I am 18 too, we have a beautiful 10 month old son and another little muffin on the way. You will make a great mother should you choose to keep your baby, however if you do give him up for adoption you will make a family very happy!
have you told him how strongly you feel? he should support you at a time like this.
Also it IS NOT ok for him to put you down, he may “love” you but action dont always speak louder than words and im sorry doesnt fix everything, if he is going to leave you AND his child then maybe you should rethink your relationship any way.
Children are an amazing blessing and an unconditional love, dont throw it away for someone who may not love you as much as you think they do. ☺♥Logan’s mummy♥☺
April 16th, 2010 at 11:18 am
Sweetheart, it looks like you have a difficult choice to make - your son or your bf. It sounds like you know in your heart that you want to keep your baby, so you need to tell your bf to either suppport you or go. You say he’s putting you down - do you really want/need someone like this in your life? In your baby’s life? He may surprise you & come round to your way of thinking when little one arrives, but you need to be prepared to go it alone if he doesn’t. It’ll be tough but you CAN do it. Good luck x Dorothysmum
April 19th, 2010 at 9:16 pm
Was it planned? Or it was an accident? If it’s an accident then he was probably not ready to become a father yet. He is not all to be blamed for but since it was an accident, you should have asked him why he doesn’t love you enough to go through this together.
It is so hard for some people to have kids. And when you have it when it was not planned, it probably meant something from god. It all depends on how much you both will love the baby. The interest is not in both of you but what is best for the baby. If you can’t give time, money, love, there is always someone who will love your baby. brain beauty
April 22nd, 2010 at 1:04 am
keep your baby and get rid of him baby #1 due 25/3/10