Comments on: I’m pregnant and want to give the baby up for adoption? http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/ Thu, 17 May 2012 20:49:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Kiki http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6762 Kiki Tue, 16 Feb 2010 14:50:14 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6762 Well definately adoption as opposed to adoption. But I wonder why you think you can't raise your child? You are 18 after all, an adult, you are not a child anymore. She can have an awesome life with you.<a href="http://www.myislandholiday.com/oak-island-vacation-rental.htm"> Kiki</a> Well definately adoption as opposed to adoption.

But I wonder why you think you can’t raise your child? You are 18 after all, an adult, you are not a child anymore. She can have an awesome life with you. Kiki

]]> By: 7rin http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6761 7rin Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:19:02 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6761 Trust me, you really really don't. Follow the links at and read the sites and pages and books posted before you even *begin* to contemplate this. If you know you don't want it, then ffs do the decent thing and get a bloody abortion.<a href="http://www.resumeminers.com/universities-by-degree-program.htm"> 7rin</a> Trust me, you really really don’t.

Follow the links at and read the sites and pages and books posted before you even *begin* to contemplate this.

If you know you don’t want it, then ffs do the decent thing and get a bloody abortion. 7rin

]]> By: sundragonjess http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6760 sundragonjess Wed, 10 Feb 2010 07:16:07 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6760 I'm confused, are you 26 or 18??? DO you get cramps from implantation bleeding? Feels like a period.... but... there was one day of semi-heavy bleeding. then nothing. And, the jelly-like lining wasn't in the blood. Me and my boyfriend use condoms every time but no other birth control. I am 26 and can support a baby but don't want one yet!!!<a href="http://www.cargearusa.com/srch/srch.php?q=engine"> sundragonjess</a> I’m confused, are you 26 or 18???

DO you get cramps from implantation bleeding?
Feels like a period…. but… there was one day of semi-heavy bleeding. then nothing. And, the jelly-like lining wasn’t in the blood.

Me and my boyfriend use condoms every time but no other birth control. I am 26 and can support a baby but don’t want one yet!!! sundragonjess

]]> By: rebekah http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6759 rebekah Mon, 08 Feb 2010 12:39:13 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6759 wow! i can't believe how many people on here are against adoption, though i can understand their concerns. i guess it's hard for me to think like them b/c i'm on the other side of it. (My husband and i have been trying to concieve for 10yrs and have been told we might not be able to, so adoption is possibly our only choice) Anyway, honey you're old enough to make your own decisions. Only you know what's best for you. Follow your heart, do the best you can, and god will take care of the rest. **best wishes**<a href="http://www.medicalsupplyservices.com/durable-medical-equipment-company.htm"> rebekah</a> wow! i can’t believe how many people on here are against adoption, though i can understand their concerns. i guess it’s hard for me to think like them b/c i’m on the other side of it. (My husband and i have been trying to concieve for 10yrs and have been told we might not be able to, so adoption is possibly our only choice) Anyway, honey you’re old enough to make your own decisions. Only you know what’s best for you. Follow your heart, do the best you can, and god will take care of the rest.
**best wishes** rebekah

]]> By: Jum@me http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6758 Jum@me Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:45:58 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6758 Adoption is not the best answer to your problem. You may be young but think of the damages you might cause to her when she grows up. Every child deserves his or her mother, I don't live with my mum and it really brakes my heart to bits. Do you want your child to grow up with strangers?<a href="http://www.besthomeorganizers.com/853"> Jum@me</a> Adoption is not the best answer to your problem.
You may be young but think of the damages you
might cause to her when she grows up.
Every child deserves his or her mother,
I don’t live with my mum and it really brakes my
heart to bits.
Do you want your child to grow up with strangers? Jum@me

]]> By: sizesmith http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6757 sizesmith Sat, 06 Feb 2010 15:03:16 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6757 If you do decide to place, there's several ways to go about it. I know women who were bullied by agencies, and lied to, because their entire income is dependent upon getting babies to be adopted by others. They don't have their money until the baby is placed. There are several ways of finding someone to adopt, each carrying it's own risks, and it's important for you to know your rights. We were introduced to our son's first mom by a mutual friend. Even though she didn't know us directly at that point, she knew of our background, she'd met my oldest son before, and she could ask questions before she met us. Next, there are ads and internet, but be extremely careful! Before you give out any information, especially where you live or a home phone, know that there are a few predators out there who give good adoptive parents a bad name. If you do meet someone through anything like this, then make sure you get copies of their police reports, ask for references, get a copy of their home study, and if you decide to meet them, do so in a semi-private place, such as a police station parking lot, where you know you could get to safety and have them taken away from you if you decide they aren't right for your situation. Know that you can make them take a lie detector test to make sure they'll honor open adoption. It'd be at their expenses, and you can have the administrator of the test ask yes/no type questions, such as "Do you plan to honor open adoption?" You have these rights, even if you go through an agency, and you have the right to visit the home of the prospective adoptive parents, see their home study, and you don't need to sign anything until the baby is born, but do your research ahead of time. There are so many good people who want to adopt, but there are also many bad ones out there. Be careful, because it's not just the baby's life, but their entire future, and yours also if you want an open adoption, because it's not legally enforceable except in a few states, and you need to keep that door open, even if you don't feel like visiting now, as you get older you will. Good luck!<a href="http://www.englishoverseas.com/teach-english/teach-english-mexico.htm"> sizesmith</a> If you do decide to place, there’s several ways to go about it. I know women who were bullied by agencies, and lied to, because their entire income is dependent upon getting babies to be adopted by others. They don’t have their money until the baby is placed.

There are several ways of finding someone to adopt, each carrying it’s own risks, and it’s important for you to know your rights. We were introduced to our son’s first mom by a mutual friend. Even though she didn’t know us directly at that point, she knew of our background, she’d met my oldest son before, and she could ask questions before she met us.

Next, there are ads and internet, but be extremely careful! Before you give out any information, especially where you live or a home phone, know that there are a few predators out there who give good adoptive parents a bad name. If you do meet someone through anything like this, then make sure you get copies of their police reports, ask for references, get a copy of their home study, and if you decide to meet them, do so in a semi-private place, such as a police station parking lot, where you know you could get to safety and have them taken away from you if you decide they aren’t right for your situation.

Know that you can make them take a lie detector test to make sure they’ll honor open adoption. It’d be at their expenses, and you can have the administrator of the test ask yes/no type questions, such as “Do you plan to honor open adoption?” You have these rights, even if you go through an agency, and you have the right to visit the home of the prospective adoptive parents, see their home study, and you don’t need to sign anything until the baby is born, but do your research ahead of time.

There are so many good people who want to adopt, but there are also many bad ones out there. Be careful, because it’s not just the baby’s life, but their entire future, and yours also if you want an open adoption, because it’s not legally enforceable except in a few states, and you need to keep that door open, even if you don’t feel like visiting now, as you get older you will. Good luck! sizesmith

]]> By: angie<3 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6756 angie<3 Thu, 04 Feb 2010 16:35:48 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6756 like others said adoption definately does not mean a better life....i can tell you from personal experience. i went through 14 foster homes and was adopted for 10 years....which failed btw and they treated me horrible until i finally ran away. all my foster homes were HORRIBLE and mistreated me. and my adoptive parents went mental...the best thing you can do for your baby is keep her! get state help. get on welfare. get on wic. on food stamps. and keep a job as long as you can throughout your pregnancy....itll be hard but itll be worth it in the end for you and your child.....<a href="http://www.batterybackupguide.com/48-backup-battery-hr.htm"> angie<3</a> like others said adoption definately does not mean a better life….i can tell you from personal experience. i went through 14 foster homes and was adopted for 10 years….which failed btw and they treated me horrible until i finally ran away. all my foster homes were HORRIBLE and mistreated me. and my adoptive parents went mental…the best thing you can do for your baby is keep her! get state help. get on welfare. get on wic. on food stamps. and keep a job as long as you can throughout your pregnancy….itll be hard but itll be worth it in the end for you and your child….. angie<3

]]> By: Summy#1 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6755 Summy#1 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:39:56 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6755 no do not do it. give her to someone who cares and knows you. It's not very good to be in a orphanage, They run away or get picked on. So do that. And hear me out, anyone that isn't sure about having kids adopt. Please there are over 1,000 kids out there, so do whats best. And plus, have a kid of your own! but, have only 2/3, it is easier. Trust me, my mom had me and my brother. Enough for her, she was 30 something when she had me. Then My brother, 20 something. Yea.<a href="http://www.prohomeschool.com/homeschool-review.htm"> Summy#1</a> no do not do it. give her to someone who cares and knows you. It’s not very good to be in a orphanage, They run away or get picked on. So do that. And hear me out, anyone that isn’t sure about having kids adopt. Please there are over 1,000 kids out there, so do whats best. And plus, have a kid of your own! but, have only 2/3, it is easier. Trust me, my mom had me and my brother. Enough for her, she was 30 something when she had me. Then My brother, 20 something. Yea. Summy#1

]]> By: Walter Ford II http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6754 Walter Ford II Sat, 30 Jan 2010 18:01:47 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6754 For every person that hits you up for a baby claiming they want to help you, ask them to donate money so you can raise your child. You won't be 18 and broke forever but losing custody of & contact with your child will be.<a href="http://www.qualitylawnmower.com/lawn-mower-battery.htm"> Walter Ford II</a> For every person that hits you up for a baby claiming they want to help you, ask them to donate money so you can raise your child.

You won’t be 18 and broke forever but losing custody of & contact with your child will be. Walter Ford II

]]> By: Aislin http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6753 Aislin Sat, 30 Jan 2010 13:07:47 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/im-pregnant-and-want-to-give-the-baby-up-for-adoption/#comment-6753 Please stay away from IAC. I was a victim of the very same branch in Raleigh NC. Almost everything they said to me was a lie. When I said I was unsure in the hospital they waited until the nurse gave me iv pain medication and then brought in papers for m to sign. To this day I have no clue if that is my signature. I revoked my consent with in the legal time frame but they "lost" it until the day after my time ran out. I have never been able to get any of the post adoption services they promise all over their website. The open adoption they go on a dn on about is not legally enforceable and has been slammed shut. If I am lucky I will see my baby in another 14 years when she is a legal adult. I can not even begin to tell you the amount of pain I live with everyday knowing my child is being raised by people who think it is ok to lie to get what you want. I can not protect her from anything. I can not even tell her how much I love her and wish she was here with our family. Please talk to mothers that have lived this and considering parenting. If you are determined to make an adoption plan you should also have a parenting plan in place. If you would like to talk you can email me. At 18 you are capable of parenting. I have plenty of baby items if you need a hand<a href="http://www.cargearusa.com/srch/srch.php?q=%22BMW+528i%22"> Aislin</a> Please stay away from IAC. I was a victim of the very same branch in Raleigh NC. Almost everything they said to me was a lie. When I said I was unsure in the hospital they waited until the nurse gave me iv pain medication and then brought in papers for m to sign. To this day I have no clue if that is my signature. I revoked my consent with in the legal time frame but they “lost” it until the day after my time ran out. I have never been able to get any of the post adoption services they promise all over their website. The open adoption they go on a dn on about is not legally enforceable and has been slammed shut. If I am lucky I will see my baby in another 14 years when she is a legal adult. I can not even begin to tell you the amount of pain I live with everyday knowing my child is being raised by people who think it is ok to lie to get what you want. I can not protect her from anything. I can not even tell her how much I love her and wish she was here with our family.

Please talk to mothers that have lived this and considering parenting. If you are determined to make an adoption plan you should also have a parenting plan in place. If you would like to talk you can email me. At 18 you are capable of parenting. I have plenty of baby items if you need a hand Aislin

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