I;m putting my baby up for adoption. father has a drug problem. What are the chances of him winning in court?
Tina asked:
He has a past criminal recorded. He also lives in a delapatated house. He wont quit smoking pot. I got an adoption agencey. What is my legal rights? He wants to fight for rights. Should I be worried about him getting custity?
he has a past crimanal recourd. He wont quit smoking pot, He wants to fight for rights. We are no longer together. He has 4 other children from 4 other wemen. He dosent care about or want to c. I’ve decided to give her up for open adoption because he has an abusive past with me and the other wemen. I don’t want to subject the baby to. In my heart I feel im doing the wright thing. I dont feel the baby would be safe with him.
I was never maried to this man.
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He has a past criminal recorded. He also lives in a delapatated house. He wont quit smoking pot. I got an adoption agencey. What is my legal rights? He wants to fight for rights. Should I be worried about him getting custity?
he has a past crimanal recourd. He wont quit smoking pot, He wants to fight for rights. We are no longer together. He has 4 other children from 4 other wemen. He dosent care about or want to c. I’ve decided to give her up for open adoption because he has an abusive past with me and the other wemen. I don’t want to subject the baby to. In my heart I feel im doing the wright thing. I dont feel the baby would be safe with him.
I was never maried to this man.
July 17th, 2010 at 1:17 pm
No, absolutely not. If you do not feel like you can raise the baby yourself or you are bringing a child into a bad environment you are ABSOLUTELY doing the right thing for your baby. That is a very self-less act! I think the court will be able to see that and rule in your favor. I would not worry about him winning at all. The judge and jury im sure will have all of his records and be able to see he is not fit for a father.
Good Luck to you. And just know you are doing the right thing. VaL
July 20th, 2010 at 7:03 am
there’s no way in hell a judge in his right mind would grant custody to him. Alie
July 20th, 2010 at 11:29 pm
Sorry I can’t offer any advice as I would never put my child up for adoption!!! Renee
July 21st, 2010 at 11:18 pm
if the courts decide that he is unfit, then he would not be able to get full custody. I’m not sure what the rules are for adoption are though. tmstp6207
July 23rd, 2010 at 7:37 am
Yes you should. If you are putting your child up for adoption and the biological father wants the child. He will get it. Proving that his dilapidated house and his pot use is a problem that will significantly put the child at risk is tough. Proving that it would be better to put the child up for adoption rather than giving him to a parent that wants them is even harder.
Houses can be fixed. Pot use can be stopped.
Ultimately you sound like a spiteful bitch hell bent on hurting this man any way you can. You made the decision to sleep with him. If you don’t like the results of that decision than it is your problem, not the childs. Babies are not meant for your financial gain and playing with them like you are will screw the child up much worse than a pot using father ever could. S L
July 24th, 2010 at 10:44 pm
He won’t win. He probably won’t even show up if he really has a drug problem. If he really cared about his child he will know what is best for it, and that’s not living with a dad who has a drug problem. Either he won’t care enough to show up or he’ll care enough to let his child have a better life.
My dad works in the adoption field, he decides who gets custody of the child and he would NEVER put a child in a drug infested home, no matter if it was the mother or the father trying.
SL—-where do you get everything you just said??? It sounds like you have some serious issues yourself. Do you REALLY think that giving a baby up for adoption is soooo easy that someone could do it JUST in spite of someone? I think you need a reality check to know this is a serious situation, anyone putting their baby up for adoption is in a very emotional place and I think you should keep your CRAP to yourself. ♥Riyen’s Mom & Ayah due 4.12
July 28th, 2010 at 3:23 am
He’s a man.
There are only 2 ways for him to get custody. Either you do not oppose it, or he finds a million dollar lawyer to represent him for free.
Men almost never get custody. The US is full of hard working, clean cut, dependable father who live in nice neighborhoods, who have lost custody because family court treats men as sperm banks and ATMs.
Men have almost no parental rights.
Family court goes like this. You turn up. They put a tick in the “man” box, make a mental note not to award him custody, then you tell them about the drugs and the unsafe home to add chocolate sauce and sprinkles on top of the case.
Then the court rules in your favor. Meilin
July 30th, 2010 at 10:51 pm
no i don’t believe that he would get full custody, also are you with the father and why do you want to put your baby up for adoption mummy 2 elizabeth born 29/3/2010
July 31st, 2010 at 12:04 am
To not worry about him getting custody would be stupid. If he is the father, proven with DNA testing, then he has rights to the child too. If he can prove to the courts that he can keep a safe house and provide for the baby then he has a chance. He might not go ahead with it once he knows what he has to do, but to assume he wont have a chance at all is not a good idea. Motherhood Unhinged Forums
July 31st, 2010 at 2:49 pm
its sad you dont allow emails form us to talk to you so its best you do give up that chid and ask questions and follow the leader Adrian77Llive
August 1st, 2010 at 9:37 am
all these people telling you that he won’t win are mistaken. They are not lawyers and you should be talking to them.
Most judges do not like to terminate rights so if he wants his rights, I doubt the judge will terminate them. All he has to do is stop smoking pot during the time you are in court and the judge will see him as trying to better his life, etc for his child and grant him custody. Probably at the very least, the judge would put the kid in foster care and give the dad rights and vivistation and move the child over to live with him later if he shows to the court he’s complying with what they tell him.
My friend left her husband and he is SELLING meth, cocain, etc - you name it. He also uses them all. She turned him into DHS and he said he didn’t want to lose his kids so the judge put him in a drug program which he completed and the judge patted him on the back, said good job and let him go (dropping the case). he’s still out there selling drugs and gets access to his kids (and brings them around his whores) whenever he wants. Isn’t that nice.
You will look like you do not want your child and could end up losing the baby to the father and have to pay HIM child support.
Just because you think he’s a loser doesnt’ mean the court will take the child away from him. They will only do so if they think he’s a danger and IMO that may be hard for you to prove.
Consult a lawyer. It’s his child too and he has the right to sue for custody no matter the mistakes he’s made. That may not be PC, but it’s the truth
Meilin….if these clean cut men didn’t abandon their wives or cheat (usual reason for divorce), then they wouldn’t be crying over their lost rights. The children need a stable full time parent as they should NOT pay the price for their parents breaking up. They should NOT be shuffled from house to house. They should have a primary residence and then some time with the other parent on weekends/holidays. Sorry, but you are suggesting the child pay and be moved from place to place so the father can have his “equal time”. Children DO need their mothers. The court recognizes this. They need their fathers as well but they need a stable environment as well. Not to be shuffled on wednesdays to your house so you can get your time. orange sky