Most judges do not like to terminate rights so if he wants his rights, I doubt the judge will terminate them. All he has to do is stop smoking pot during the time you are in court and the judge will see him as trying to better his life, etc for his child and grant him custody. Probably at the very least, the judge would put the kid in foster care and give the dad rights and vivistation and move the child over to live with him later if he shows to the court he’s complying with what they tell him.

My friend left her husband and he is SELLING meth, cocain, etc - you name it. He also uses them all. She turned him into DHS and he said he didn’t want to lose his kids so the judge put him in a drug program which he completed and the judge patted him on the back, said good job and let him go (dropping the case). he’s still out there selling drugs and gets access to his kids (and brings them around his whores) whenever he wants. Isn’t that nice.

You will look like you do not want your child and could end up losing the baby to the father and have to pay HIM child support.

Just because you think he’s a loser doesnt’ mean the court will take the child away from him. They will only do so if they think he’s a danger and IMO that may be hard for you to prove.

Consult a lawyer. It’s his child too and he has the right to sue for custody no matter the mistakes he’s made. That may not be PC, but it’s the truth

Meilin….if these clean cut men didn’t abandon their wives or cheat (usual reason for divorce), then they wouldn’t be crying over their lost rights. The children need a stable full time parent as they should NOT pay the price for their parents breaking up. They should NOT be shuffled from house to house. They should have a primary residence and then some time with the other parent on weekends/holidays. Sorry, but you are suggesting the child pay and be moved from place to place so the father can have his “equal time”. Children DO need their mothers. The court recognizes this. They need their fathers as well but they need a stable environment as well. Not to be shuffled on wednesdays to your house so you can get your time. orange sky

There are only 2 ways for him to get custody. Either you do not oppose it, or he finds a million dollar lawyer to represent him for free.

Men almost never get custody. The US is full of hard working, clean cut, dependable father who live in nice neighborhoods, who have lost custody because family court treats men as sperm banks and ATMs.

Men have almost no parental rights.

Family court goes like this. You turn up. They put a tick in the “man” box, make a mental note not to award him custody, then you tell them about the drugs and the unsafe home to add chocolate sauce and sprinkles on top of the case.

Then the court rules in your favor. Meilin

My dad works in the adoption field, he decides who gets custody of the child and he would NEVER put a child in a drug infested home, no matter if it was the mother or the father trying.

SL—-where do you get everything you just said??? It sounds like you have some serious issues yourself. Do you REALLY think that giving a baby up for adoption is soooo easy that someone could do it JUST in spite of someone? I think you need a reality check to know this is a serious situation, anyone putting their baby up for adoption is in a very emotional place and I think you should keep your CRAP to yourself. ♥Riyen’s Mom & Ayah due 4.12

Houses can be fixed. Pot use can be stopped.

Ultimately you sound like a spiteful bitch hell bent on hurting this man any way you can. You made the decision to sleep with him. If you don’t like the results of that decision than it is your problem, not the childs. Babies are not meant for your financial gain and playing with them like you are will screw the child up much worse than a pot using father ever could. S L