Is giving up a baby for adoption a sin?
Shirley asked:
Hi I’m shirley, I was happily married and had two kids. My sister in law moved in with us with her husband. A sin was committed between me and her husband and I ended up pregnant with his baby. When she turned on year old, I confessed to my husband for what I did and he told me to leave the house with my one year old. I did what he told me to do. I left my elder two children with him. But now I am unable to provide my one year old with anything because I dont have a job and since I moved into a new city, I pretty much dont have anything. Would giving her up for adoption make my load of sin more heavier?
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Hi I’m shirley, I was happily married and had two kids. My sister in law moved in with us with her husband. A sin was committed between me and her husband and I ended up pregnant with his baby. When she turned on year old, I confessed to my husband for what I did and he told me to leave the house with my one year old. I did what he told me to do. I left my elder two children with him. But now I am unable to provide my one year old with anything because I dont have a job and since I moved into a new city, I pretty much dont have anything. Would giving her up for adoption make my load of sin more heavier?
December 30th, 2009 at 2:02 am
Yes! Adoption is a sin! It says so in the bible. May God have mercy on your soul! Tina
January 2nd, 2010 at 4:59 am
Ignore Tina’s nasty answer. Whilst it was wrong for you to do what you did it happened and now you’re raising a baby on your own. Adoption isn’t a sin but personally I believe your sister in law’s husband should be shouldering HIS responsible to YOUR child as well as this is his child too. Pip
January 4th, 2010 at 1:22 am
Giving her up for adoption is not a sin. You would be giving a gift to someone who could provide everything for your daughter. tameingraleat
January 4th, 2010 at 10:44 pm
1.) You don’t have a “load of sin.” That isn’t a biblical idea. If you have truly repented of your infidelity, it’s gone from you, and not still piled on your head.
2.) Giving up your child is a lot more complicated than sin/not a sin. But I do think that giving her up without fighting to keep her is something that will be bad for you and her both. Her father should be paying child support– he’s as much responsible for her care as you are, and he can’t just duck his obligation. While you get on your feet, you can apply for welfare, subsidized housing, food stamps, WIC, Medicaid, and legal aid to help you sue for child support. There’s no shame in that– that’s the whole point of why those programs exist. Charity to those who can’t provide for themselves is totally acceptable… for the recipient as well as the giver. You DO have options.
Please do everything you can to keep your baby. Regardless of the sin thing, losing a child and her losing a parent would be traumatic for you both. Try everything you can to keep her with you, first. It hurts for children to lose their parents, and they shouldn’t go through it if they don’t have to. monkeykitty83
January 7th, 2010 at 4:04 am
I second what Pip said plus:
Don’t abandon your other children either. In fact, by law isn’t the child your husband’s because she was born while you were married to him?
In any case, the only sin I see now is choosing your baby over the first two…please find a way to be in all your children’s lives.
ETA: @Leah: You have been reported for violation of TOS terms. It is unethical as well, to use an asker’s dilemna as a way to her child. Please stick around and see to understand why this isn’t appropriate. Ferbs
January 8th, 2010 at 1:17 pm
No, its not a sin. However, I am adopted, and it will forever change your child’s life. They will have numerous social, behavioral, and identity issues their entire life. Every adopted person I know has these. I participated in a study and it proved this. GO look for a job. Get on assistance, if you must give your child up for adoption give it to a family member who will preserve their identity. mammy
January 10th, 2010 at 1:10 pm
Have you asked God’s forgiveness?
You believe in sin, so I assume you believe in God.
God has to told us that when we repent, He throws our sins away from us. If you have confessed before God, YOU HAVE NO “LOAD” OF SIN.
God has thrown your sin as far from you as east is from west.
Keep your baby. Try to reconcile with your husband. If that doesn’t work, go on welfare. Allanas
January 11th, 2010 at 4:13 am
Adoption is NOT a sin. I am adopted, and I was given up by someone who couldn’t take care of me and who wanted the best for me. Giving up your daughter is a very selfless act. If that’s what you feel you need to do, do it with the knowledge that you’re doing it out of love.
Don’t let bitter replies influence you. Do what your heart tells you to do. clarity
January 12th, 2010 at 7:43 pm
I don’t think it would be a sin, but I do think it may be a mistake. I know it is hard for you. Being a single parent is never easy. But your little girl needs YOU and if it is possible to hang in there and try to get help from programs in your area do it. Where is her father in all this? Maybe you can get financial help from him at least from child support and work toward getting a job. A lot of places offer free or low cost child care as you search for a job and will continue to provide affordable child care as you work. Just look into getting help before you do something drastic like that. Once you get on your feet, you can look back and be proud that you made it through such a trying time…with your baby. And you wont have regrets. I wish you all the best! God bless you both!!! vanessa09
January 13th, 2010 at 11:22 am
No adoption is just taking responsibility Sometimes you just realize someone else could care for her better and give her more things almost all adopted children who know they are adopted would or have thanked their parents for giving them a life they wouldve never had before WestHighCheerleader
January 16th, 2010 at 2:53 am
i have never read in the bible that adoption is a sin. Adoption is a beautiful thing, it’s giving someone who can’t have a child a baby of their own.
Whether you can’t provide for your baby, or your not ready, i think giving your child up for adoption is an act of responsibility. Not a sin. =]
January 17th, 2010 at 10:52 am
No it is not a sin and nowhere in the Bible have I read that adoption is a sin. You do what’s right in your heart—you are the one shouldering all the load. cricketlady
January 19th, 2010 at 5:41 pm
Well you’ve already abandoned two kids, what harm’s abandoning one more gonna do. 7rin
January 22nd, 2010 at 11:25 am
I’m sorry you are in such a difficult situation. It must be hard, especially because you obviously feel guilty about what happened. However, your child exists now, and whether or not it was a sin conceiving her does not matter at this point.
She had nothing to do with your affair and should not have to pay for your mistake and be separated from her mother, who she has bonded with and relied on for a whole year. Neither should you have to pay for your mistake by losing your child. God forgives all sins, and you need to forgive yourself and give you daughter all the love she deserves.
You are her mother. She needs you. She doesn’t need to be given away to people who are strangers to her. So, to answer your question, Yes, I believe that would be a sin to give away your daughter for adoption. A mother should not abandon her child if at all possible. Problem Child
January 23rd, 2010 at 8:36 am
Demand child support from her father.
Also if he ordered you out, your husband should have to pay alimony no matter the other circumstances. Truth
January 23rd, 2010 at 9:48 am
Hi Shirley,
Or if you just want to talk. Stay Strong you can get through this. *Starfire*
It is not a sin to give a child up for adoption and it will not make your load of sins heavier. It will however be a heavy burden for you and your daughter to carry in your hearts for the rest of your lives. We are all going through tough times right now. It hard to see the future when we’re stuck in the present. Reach out to groups who can help you. There are a lot more organizations out there that are willing to help single moms in your situation get back on their feet. Don’t be ashamed to need help. We all need support sometimes. Where do you live? E-mail me and I’ll try to help you find some of those organizations
January 25th, 2010 at 4:36 pm
wow, people are just so rude on here. I gave a baby up for adoption and I do not believe it is a sin. I see him a lot and he is so much better off. I have never regretted my decision and sleep better at night knowing he is fed and clothed with two loving parents. The real sin is not allowing a child to live a life of fulfillment. I believe how the child got here is a sin, yes. But it’s no ones business but yours. I wish you the best of luck. Cami
January 27th, 2010 at 3:58 pm
I do not know but I know that abandoning your own child is sad and If I was adopted I would be really down…I know adoption can be a good thing my cousin is adopted and his parents are great. If you are able to take care of the baby why not do it but if the child is abused and neglected its better off with a adoptive family who will truly love em. Due March 18th with a baby boy=]