Comments on: Is it more difficult to abort your unborn baby or give it up for adoption?

By: Rowan

Rowan — Sat, 18 Apr 2009 09:40:35 +0000

For me, both would be equally painful and traumatizing in their own ways. But i refuse to judge everyone else by my own personal feelings. Some see abortion as the way to go, others do not.

Being adopted, and having a good experience, i couldnt give away my child.

By: Gothic Lotus

Gothic Lotus — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 17:16:17 +0000

Like others have said, I think both decisions are very difficult and have a lasting effect. My mom’s friend aborted twins seven years ago and she never got over it. The day of the abortion she takes off of work and locks herself away at her home. I’m sure the feelings are pretty similar for those who have given their child up for adoption. Either way the pain is enormous and everlasting for both sides of the fence.

By: Daisey Duck

Daisey Duck — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 04:15:54 +0000

I think either decision would be difficult. I know from having a couple of miscarriages I often wondered if my baby’s would have been boy’s or girls, what they would have looked like what they would have become. And I think most of those that have abortions would wonder the same things. Most don’t have one and never think of it again.
If I choose to adopt my baby out, I would at least be comforted with the knowledge that I did give them a chance at life. But would also wonder what they looked like as they grew, and how their life turned out.
Either way it is a difficult decision that only the mother can decide.
I know for me I’m glad I wasn’t aborted, that I was given a chance to have a life, not discarded like a piece of trash.

By: tish_part deux

tish_part deux — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 03:38:00 +0000

since fetuses aren’t adopted, i don’t see the plausibility of your question. in addition, until you’ve done either one, i find it quite condescending that you are judging others.

i’ve had experiences with both: the adoption plan (thank heavens i changed my mind) was the most painful and emotionally damaging. neither is easy; and shouldn’t be used as an alternative to the other.

also, casey anthony is a sociopath, and deserves a needle in her arm. just like many who’ve adopted and have killed their children. please don’t compare women who make the decision to terminate to this wackadoodle!

got a question: if you are so interested in “rescuing” kids, try going down to your local foster care facility. there’s TONS of children who would love to be adopted.

your attempt to be self-righteous is condescending.

By: sunny

sunny — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 03:59:29 +0000

I’ve talked to several women who have done both.

You never get over giving your child away.

By: AdoreHim

AdoreHim — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 04:48:00 +0000

“Can’tStop” said “adoption does not guarantee a better life, just a different one.” I suppose that can be a true statement, however did you realize what she said a “LIFE”. Abortion takes a life. I am sorry for those who did not have a good adoption experience- so I am not negating that- however I can tell you from my experience of having been given life and placed for adoption- I would NEVER abort if I got pregnant, because I realize that life begins at conception. My husband and I adopted 2 children, and we met their birth moms, and I can tell you, it was not easy for either of them to place their babies with us, but as they both said, “they would never take the life of their babies”.

By: Opedial

Opedial — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 13:23:49 +0000

A fetus is not a baby, and cannot be adopted.

By: Xx_K_xX V

Xx_K_xX V — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 11:16:42 +0000

Regardless the issue that am against abortion if done on purpose, loosing a child that u didnt c yet or didnt touch and smell, is easier than giving birth and go into all the pain, and the last 2 months before u give birth, i dont know how old u r? But for me i would never ever be able to do such thing giving him/her for adoption and then worry about how is he/she doing, eating well, going to good school, feeling cold, will i ever be able to c again, maybe know him/her when grow up, lots of things, its really hard.

_K_

By: monkeykitty83

monkeykitty83 — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 10:07:24 +0000

I haven’t done either, but I have several friends who have done both and… no consensus. Which was a worse or more painful experience seems to depend on the person. It also seems to depend somewhat on whether they truly feel alright with abortion, or are just doing it out of fear and actually worry it may be wrong. Neither should be assumed to be a painless way out of pregnancy.

The best way to prevent either scenario is to avoid unwanted pregnancy or parent your child.

By: HappyMomAnna

HappyMomAnna — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 04:29:32 +0000

There is never a reunion with a Dead baby—except in Heaven if murder is forgiven…

For those who must insist it’s just tissue
(I thought the bonding started before birth–does the “fetus” have bonding skills and does the Primal Wound only start with the first breath of life–or hearing the mothers heartbeat? Does the tissue have ears to hear the heartbeat?)