Is it possible for a mother to put her baby up for adoption without the dad to find out ?
Hansel asked:
In this situation the mother and father are not married and are young parents ( she cannot raise the baby for many reasons especially by herself and theres hardly any family for the child. adoption seems the best solution) also the mum has moved to a different country
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In this situation the mother and father are not married and are young parents ( she cannot raise the baby for many reasons especially by herself and theres hardly any family for the child. adoption seems the best solution) also the mum has moved to a different country
November 10th, 2009 at 9:28 pm
The father deserves the right to know. Although I’m sure he’d be agreeable to adoption. naenae0011
November 12th, 2009 at 4:32 pm
I think so. Especially if she doesn’t name the father & she is in another country. Sounds as if adoption is the right way to go. Ask a lawyer to be sure. Da Bomb
November 13th, 2009 at 4:55 pm
It is possible, although ethically questionable. All the girl would need to do is say she doesn’t know who the father is (one night stand, rape, multiple partners - whatever reason works for her).
The father should be told. He has the right to raise the child on his own if he wants, whether or not that is what the mother wants. jo_mama
November 16th, 2009 at 12:35 pm
Its not “her” baby, it’s THEIR baby so no, legally it can’t be done. Does it happen…sure but there is always the risk the adoption will be stopped or challenged if the father finds out and wants custody. Randy B
November 19th, 2009 at 5:44 am
no the child is as much the fathers as the mothers and it would be terrible if she were to do that without telling him. its his baby and the truth will more than likely come out in the future. believe it or not that child may want to know who his/her parents are and search. and he or she will have every right to know who their father is.
adoption is not always the best solution, think about the child here. would u like to be given away by your parents? plenty people bring up their kids young and unmarried and they turn out fine if they are prepared to raise and love the child. the father might actually want this baby. Lish
November 20th, 2009 at 4:44 am
Fast forward 15-20 years and this “child” needs medical information, hmmmm, didn’t think of that huh. Not a good idea. Besides, maybe the fathers family would be willing to raise this child and give them at the very LEAST half their ancestry. There could be as much if not more damage caused by this half baked idea. No offense, but think it ALL the way through before leaving a person with no ancestry, heritage, or medical info. smarmy
November 20th, 2009 at 11:34 pm
If you claim that the father is unknown I think you can. Would you ever regret it? bubblegumh20
November 21st, 2009 at 3:08 am
It is possible but morally I believe he has the right to know. Pip
November 23rd, 2009 at 6:36 am
Maybe the dad would like to raise his child.
If he is on the borth certificate, you can NOT do it without his consent. LillyRain
November 24th, 2009 at 10:39 pm
Two things:
1. Absolutely not. Both parents need to sign relinquishment papers, otherwise it’s entirely possible for the father to dispute and possibly block or overturn the adoption (rare, but it does happen).
2. Abandoning a child to adoption is almost never ever EVER “The Best Option” **for the child**. If she decided to continue with the pregnancy, then she should pull herself together and parent the kid like the kid expects. If she knew she didn’t want it, then she should’ve done the decent thing and had a bloody abortion. 7rin
November 28th, 2009 at 7:33 am
Yes, it is possible for a mother to place a child for adoption without the father finding out.
Is it ethical? No it is not.
In order to have a fully legal adoption you must obtain the father’s consent. Anyone who would adopt the baby without having a father’s consent on record is opening themselves up for the possibility of legal problems. maybebree
November 28th, 2009 at 11:44 am
Is it possible yes.
Is it ethical no.
It takes two to tango and he deserves to have the right to parent if he wishes. It IS his child too, like it or not. Some dads can be awesome single parents.
Guaranteed, the child will find out his father was not informed someday and wonder why? Freckle Face
November 30th, 2009 at 3:31 pm
It is my understanding that, legally, all the birthmother is responsible for is posting a notice in the paper in the city of the father’s last know residence. You should consult an expert. The professionals at Adoption Network Law Center will be happy to answer any questions that you may have and can help guide you through the adoption process. Teresa