Comments on: Is it racist for a couple to stop adoption proceedings if the baby born is black? http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/ Thu, 17 May 2012 21:03:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Diaper Cakewalk http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/comment-page-1/#comment-4119 Diaper Cakewalk Sat, 25 Apr 2009 04:42:35 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/#comment-4119 Wow, that is a shame. Tell them we'd love to take the baby. Wow, that is a shame. Tell them we’d love to take the baby.

]]> By: Dad http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/comment-page-1/#comment-4118 Dad Fri, 24 Apr 2009 04:31:40 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/#comment-4118 It amuses me how readily available that word is. In lieu of the word racist why not use the word wrong. Is it a moral dilemma? Were they more upset that the child was black or that the mother of the child lied to them? It is their very own personal choice to accept or not accept ANY child for whatever reason. I certainly wish the very best for the child. It amuses me how readily available that word is. In lieu of the word racist why not use the word wrong. Is it a moral dilemma? Were they more upset that the child was black or that the mother of the child lied to them? It is their very own personal choice to accept or not accept ANY child for whatever reason. I certainly wish the very best for the child.

]]> By: King Of Kings 信 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/comment-page-1/#comment-4117 King Of Kings 信 Mon, 20 Apr 2009 22:56:37 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/#comment-4117 No. Considering they are taking in a child and will raise it until adulthood, I think that they have every right to choose the characteristics of the baby. I'm assuming that these two people are white. Having a white child will make it more like the baby is really theirs and there won't be a constant visual reminder that this child is adopted (skin colour). And the constant reminder that this child is clearly not of their blood-line might be a sore subject since the two people in question were unable to concieve. No. Considering they are taking in a child and will raise it until adulthood, I think that they have every right to choose the characteristics of the baby.

I’m assuming that these two people are white. Having a white child will make it more like the baby is really theirs and there won’t be a constant visual reminder that this child is adopted (skin colour). And the constant reminder that this child is clearly not of their blood-line might be a sore subject since the two people in question were unable to concieve.

]]> By: Charisma http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/comment-page-1/#comment-4116 Charisma Mon, 20 Apr 2009 09:19:14 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/#comment-4116 They are not racist. They made it specifically clear on what they wanted and were looking for. No where in the clause did it say " doesn't matter, we will take whatever". This was not a racist act at all. There are things that you have to prepare yourself for when a baby is bi-racial ( regardless of what biracial people say) If the baby was Asian, it would apply the same. You have to be prepared to teach that child its heritage and culture. I would not want to have that job if I was not prepared to deal with it. People are not always prepared to deal with a million questions on a child not looking like you. They are not racist. They made it specifically clear on what they wanted and were looking for. No where in the clause did it say ” doesn’t matter, we will take whatever”. This was not a racist act at all. There are things that you have to prepare yourself for when a baby is bi-racial ( regardless of what biracial people say) If the baby was Asian, it would apply the same. You have to be prepared to teach that child its heritage and culture. I would not want to have that job if I was not prepared to deal with it. People are not always prepared to deal with a million questions on a child not looking like you.

]]> By: cuteness http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/comment-page-1/#comment-4115 cuteness Sat, 18 Apr 2009 08:35:18 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/#comment-4115 Sounds kinda racist, and kinda sad. But it's better that they didn't adopt the child if they don't think they would have been able to care for it and love it properly, for whatever reason. I'm not sure why they would give up on adoption because of that, though. Having an interracial child could probably be difficult for some people to handle and maybe they just didn't want to deal with all the questions and they didn't want it to be so obvious that they adopted. I really hope that child found a good home. Sounds kinda racist, and kinda sad. But it’s better that they didn’t adopt the child if they don’t think they would have been able to care for it and love it properly, for whatever reason. I’m not sure why they would give up on adoption because of that, though. Having an interracial child could probably be difficult for some people to handle and maybe they just didn’t want to deal with all the questions and they didn’t want it to be so obvious that they adopted. I really hope that child found a good home.

]]> By: Tina http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/comment-page-1/#comment-4114 Tina Thu, 16 Apr 2009 23:45:50 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/is-it-racist-for-a-couple-to-stop-adoption-proceedings-if-the-baby-born-is-black/#comment-4114 No, because I think that a black child (especially) since we encounter the most racism shouldn't be raised by a race of people we encounter it from. That white person may not be racist it is just hard for whites to teach a black person about their identity (relate to their troubles) unless they themselves are black. I think it is in the best interest of the child. No, because I think that a black child (especially) since we encounter the most racism shouldn’t be raised by a race of people we encounter it from. That white person may not be racist it is just hard for whites to teach a black person about their identity (relate to their troubles) unless they themselves are black. I think it is in the best interest of the child.

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