Comments on: Is it wrong to give my 3 month old baby up for adoption?

By: Fuaite le fuil, gaolta go deo

Fuaite le fuil, gaolta go deo — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 02:37:57 +0000

With a strong and profound voice YES!!!!!! Think of all the people telling you it isn’t wrong, they’re APs or PAPs; now look at those of us who are telling you it is wrong…we’ve been adopted. She’s three months old, you’re all she knows. Do you really want to put her through the trauma of losing everything all at once? Imagine her in the arms of screaming until her throat hurts because she doesn’t know where you are or why you won’t come back. If you love her, truly love her; you’ll keep it together and raise her like you should. You can apply for WIC, Medicaid, section 8 (housing) and there’s even a government program to pay daycare expenses; not to mention the child support you should be receiving from her father. I don’t understand why you would think of giving her away. Be a good mom and keep your baby. You should give her a big hug and kiss for even thinking of it.

By: Lori A

Lori A — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 23:07:47 +0000

What exactly is the best life possible. Can you answer that question? does it have to do with money, or security? Money is nice but does not make for the best life possible. My kids have the best life “I” can possibly give them, it is enough for them. they would like more things but what kid doesn’t. They wouldn’t be willing to trade “me” for those things they want. My daughter had a great life with her adoptive parents. she was one of the lucky ones. Not all children get the best life possible, that is so affectionate talked about. some get much much less than they deserve. good life and all, my daughter still has issues from being adopted, and so do I.

By: uncle stevie

uncle stevie — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 14:06:29 +0000

HI I would think your life must be in a spin right now and with a three month old baby in arms you wont know if your coming our going, but you have done so well to get list far great, so your baby is only three months old you could put your child in to foster care for 6 to 9 months, which would give you time to get your life back together an a home sorted for your self and your baby and at the same time still be mum to your child, and l would like to think that in say 9 months time you your baby will be in your home never having to look back again and just keep looking forward. But if you think adoption is the right move FOR YOU THEN IT HAS TO BE YOUR CHOICE–yours—-PS l am adopted 53 years ago AND I HAVE NOT GOT A PROBLEM WITH IT GREAT–

HI—gypsywin–I like your way of thinking great.

HI bY-H****** I gave you a thumbes down sorry should of been up.

By: jay

jay — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 10:23:01 +0000

Most people here will say that it is. I wouldn`t call it wrong, I would call it irresponsible, yet you seem to have had quite some trouble growing up with your mother loosing rights of you when you were just 7 yrs old, and then running away…
Truth is, you were irresponsible to get pregnant but like I said, you don`t seem to have had the necessariyl and healthy guidance of a normal teen.
Many mothers kill their own babies or leave them unprotected in the porches of other people`s homes. You`d be doing something under the law and many couples out there are dying to have a baby and can`t. Here you are with the blessing of a baby in your arms, the blessing others lack to have. So yes, give her up for adoption if you can`t take care of her and let other mothers have the joy to love her the way she deserves, and take care of her.
However, you do have to realize that in a couple of years, when you get yourself together and grow up and mature, and learn to be more responsible, you will think of the baby you gave up and it will haunt you forever. I`m not trying to make you feel bad, but this does happen to women who give up their babies, they tend to think “could I have really kept her?” “Did I give up too easily?” and so this will happen, expect that, yet like I said…babies deserve the best and so does your little baby girl, and other mothers are dying to be parents.
Good luck and god bless your baby.

By: bobby

bobby — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 10:46:22 +0000

3 months doesn’t seem very old probably lots of people would want your baby. But to try and raise it your self will it have the opportunities it would have with two adult parents who have jobs and lives.
If you wait to long it will spend its life in foster care.
Which sounds like that is where it is headed.

By: magnolia745

magnolia745 — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 05:45:45 +0000

No you absolutely did the right thing and I commend you for giving your child the gift of life rather than aborting her If you aren’t ready to be a mother then maybe it is best for her to be with someone who can provide better for her. However, Im not going to say that it won’t be hard for both of you. It sounds to me that your current situation is not one for a child to be in though. You can always try to keep some line of communication open with her. Try to set something up with her adoptive parents, etc. People change and situations change, you never know what things will be like a little further down the road.

By: Gaia Raain

Gaia Raain — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 04:06:36 +0000

Here’s some information that might be helpful in making your decision. You don’t have to go it alone. It is stressful…but the BEST thing for your baby is to be with YOU.

By: dontknow86

dontknow86 — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 23:04:35 +0000

You do whats best for you and your baby. What YOU feel is best.

By: AdoreHim

AdoreHim — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 02:05:27 +0000

This is a decision that only you can make. It is wonderful that you are looking out for what you feel is in the best interest for your daughter. If you place her at 3 months it will easier to place her, then if she was in foster care when she older. If you honestly feel, even with all the resources that are out there to help a single mom, would not be best for your child, adoption is a great option. Even though I am adopted and have 2 adopted kids this is not saying that adoption is right for everyone.

By: gypsywinter

gypsywinter — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 10:54:49 +0000

GOOD GOD!! Is every PAP and agency worker here answering this young mom’s question?? I have never seen so many ‘answers’ saying…’GIVE THE BABY UP’!

And please, O! please OP…do not respond to any emails you might receive from those seeking babies born of it’s own mother.

You have received some good advice from a few people here..Please check out the resources available to you and your baby in the state you live. Please educate yourself on adoption..all facets of. Visit forums where adult adoptees talk…and you will get a glimmer of what your child may feel about you and your ‘choice’ to surrender your precious baby. And simply having another baby down the line…will never, never replace the baby you ‘gave away’.

I send you only very positive thoughts and hope upon hope that you will be brave and fearless and be the mother you were meant to be, to your own child.

Adoption does not…never has…guarantee a child a ‘better’ life…only a different one…as one very knowledgable adult person who was adopted as an infant..said sometime ago. It certainly bears repeating..
“Adoption does not guarantee a child a ‘better’ life…only a different one”.

Good Luck and Hang Tough…and steer clear of the Vultures that will be flying around you and your baby.