Putting my baby up for adoption with no father?
G asked:
In Ohio, if Im underage do I have to have my babies fathers permission to give her up for adoption?
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In Ohio, if Im underage do I have to have my babies fathers permission to give her up for adoption?
March 13th, 2010 at 6:18 pm
Yes. LinnyG
March 16th, 2010 at 10:50 pm
yes. Doesnt matter how old either of you are, he has rights. Lady Rowan
March 19th, 2010 at 1:01 pm
You always have to have the father’s permission.
Think of it this way:
You place your baby with a new family. You sign all the papers, but he dosen’t sign anything. let’s say one year from now, he decides he wants his child. He never signed anything. So he goes to court to fight for custody of the child.
Now, i’m not going to to go into who should or shouldn’t win or anything, but think about it. Win or not, that baby has to go through all that, not to mention destroying the adoptive family’s life. Or if the baby ends up going back to the father, that baby has been raised by people for a year, and now is ripped out of their family to basically go live with a stranger.
You are putting your baby up for adoption because that is best for you and your child.
Do you think putting him through what I just described is the best thing for him? romeochewy
March 22nd, 2010 at 2:49 am
Every child has a father. Tell the father. Sunny
March 22nd, 2010 at 8:02 pm
Yes you do, morally and legally. snowwillow20
March 24th, 2010 at 11:56 am
Depends on the laws in your state. most men have to establish paternity before he has to be notified of an adoption preceding . Your age(or his)has nothing to do with it. LaraSue
March 27th, 2010 at 9:30 am
Yes, you do. In fact, if the father of your child is willing to raise him/her, it is far more responsible of you to encourage him to take your child than it is to abandon him/her to strangers.
Please consider the feelings of your child first. I would encourage you to learn more about the effects of adoption on children by reading
Verrier, N (2003) Coming Home to Self: The adopted child grows up
Verrier, N (1991) The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child grapesgum
March 29th, 2010 at 10:29 am
well, in your opening line…adoption with no father…All babies have fathers and they have as much rights as the mothers. mom of many
March 30th, 2010 at 6:41 pm
Well there are ways around it. For instance, if you give birth to the baby in Utah, you don’t have to have the father’s signature. But it’s awful that you are considering giving the baby away if he possibly wants the child. Unless you are worried that the father would abuse the child, then you should give him the option of caring for the child if he wants to. Spot
April 1st, 2010 at 7:37 pm
You need to think about what it is you are about to do. With no father listed, this child loses half of their medical history, which will one day be useful to the adult adoptee you are creating and any other generations of offspring created by this adoptee. If that means nothing to you, by all means go to Utah, that’s where they all go to dump kids easily with no paper trail. Just a quick drop by you and sell by them. But why stop there, why not keep your name off the birth certificate too, that way they can have ZERO medical history. Utah would be all too happy to help you with that too. smarmy
April 3rd, 2010 at 1:51 am
oh! i’ll adopt ur baby! seriously! tryin to help
April 6th, 2010 at 10:20 am
Having gone through 2 adoptions in the state of Ohio, I can give you my experiences.
I was not underage when I sent my 2 away.
In the case of the first, the father signed the paperwork but did not give a taped deposition to the court as i did. This adoption was handled by the Gentle Care Adotion Services in Columbus. (Wonderfull folks!) and the laws have since changed. This was the days when open adoptions weren’t even legal in the stsate of Ohio. Circa 1989.
The second adoption went a bit different. I gave the Father’s name and adress to the lawyer. He put an ad in the local newspaper notifying the guy of the pending legal procedures. There was no responce from the man and the adoption went forward. Some effort has to be made to contact the father. Circa 2000
I wouldn’t advise it if it is technically illegal to lie to a court, but you can say that you are unsure of the actuall paternity as you had more than 1 partner and any of the men could be the father.(If it isn’t a lie and you may be in that situation) Which puts us back to the name list and adverts in the paper.
Anyway this happens you be sure to get yourself a lawyer. Not one picked/payed for by your parents, But YOUR OWN lawyer who will look out for your needs and rights. Adoptive parents will usually pay for the fees of your lawyer as well as any fees accrued in the courts.
Don’t let any parent, lawyer or anyone else try to talk you into/out of an adoption. What happens to you is always your choice even if you are a minor.
Good Luck and Birth Mother love to you. Tel