. She wants to put the baby up for adoption. I dont.How can i stop her?
sterling j asked:
we were together for 4years since high school. not together anymore. I want to take care of the baby but she wants to give the baby to adoption. Can itake custody of the baby?
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we were together for 4years since high school. not together anymore. I want to take care of the baby but she wants to give the baby to adoption. Can itake custody of the baby?
February 1st, 2009 at 2:33 pm
Talk to a lawyer. Such things can vary from state to state.
February 2nd, 2009 at 1:30 pm
You could, but you might have to go through court. Find a lawyer.
February 2nd, 2009 at 7:24 pm
She cannot give up your child without your consent. If she doesn’t want the baby, take her to court and have your rights enforced. If she doesn’t want him/her, you can apply for full custodial rights.
February 2nd, 2009 at 9:47 pm
if u signed the birth cert then she cant do it with out ur permission my best advice is to see a lawyer on wat action u can take to get custody of ur child
February 3rd, 2009 at 10:12 pm
yeah u can custody of ur baby i would talk to a lawyer and find out what all u have to go through….
February 4th, 2009 at 4:01 pm
You need to talk with a lawyer A.S.A.P. tell them you were told you are the father and now she wants to put the child up for adoption however you want custody of the child.
They will contact her of course and when the child is born the will order a paternity test be done. If you are the father you will then go through the chanels to get custody.
February 7th, 2009 at 7:04 pm
Get a lawyer, and get a paternity test set up. If you are biologically the father, then she can’t have the child placed for adoption unless you consent.
You may end up being the full time parent of this child, and maybe needing to fight for child support and other custodial agreements.
I *hate* that this needs to be said, but Kudos to you for stepping up and taking care of the child you created.
February 10th, 2009 at 11:06 am
where i live . if ur name is on the birth certificate then she can hand over her parental rights to you so u have sole custody
but i strongly suggest u get a lawyer
February 12th, 2009 at 11:35 am
For custody, you’ll have to wait for the baby’s birth and order a paternity test (yourself or court ordered). If the paternity test shows you are indeed the father, you have equal rights to your child. This can be a lengthy process, but if your heart is in the right place and can give this child every opportunity available…Go for it!
Btw, I’d call a lawyer and set up a consultation on what your rights as the biological father are…assuming your paternity test is in your favor.
February 13th, 2009 at 7:53 pm
Yes I believe if you don’t consent to the adoption then they can’t do it and yes you can have custody. But you will have to take care of the baby on your own. If that’s really what you want then go for it. Talk to a lawyer, talk to her.
Harriet
February 17th, 2009 at 4:39 am
In Texas (these things vary from state to state), you can put your and her name on a registry that basically stipulates that an adoption cannot take place because you have not relinquished your rights. You need to speak to an attorney for their best advice and also to get the paperwork for the registry. You can register in any state, for instance if she’s originally from a different state, you can register in both her home state and the state she’s living in right now.
If she wants an adoption and you are willing to take Total and Complete care of the child, perhaps sitting down and negotiating with her would be the best course of action. If she knows you are actually serious about this, she may come around and just sign her rights over to you after birth.
Best of luck!
Peace,
Jenn
February 17th, 2009 at 5:32 pm
if you havent signed anything, she cant give the baby away. she needs your consent for that. see a lawyer. you may have to go to court, which is passibly your best option.
good luck!
February 19th, 2009 at 9:33 pm
If you want the child and it is yours you have rights to the child. Tell her if she trys you will fight her.
February 20th, 2009 at 11:32 am
get a lawyer and fight for your baby if thats what you want. if you dont do it now, you may never see him/her again.
February 21st, 2009 at 8:11 am
From my understanding she cannot legally give up the child without you signing over your parental rights. I am pretty sure you will need to speak with a lawyer about this, as far as how to go about gaining custody of the child.
It is possible, because that is your child as well so your feelings/wants matter as much as hers. If you cannot afford a lawyer, get a free consult with a lawyer experienced with adoption procedures.