Should i give my baby up for adoption if me and the father are willing to take care of baby?
expecting baby #1 asked:
Im 15 about to be 16 and he’s 18 and should i see if he could move in with me and my family?
This entry was posted
on Monday, February 15th, 2010 at 12:00 am and is filed under Adoption.
You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed.
You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.
Im 15 about to be 16 and he’s 18 and should i see if he could move in with me and my family?
February 17th, 2010 at 6:39 pm
why would you give up your baby if you and the father are willing to take care of it?? kroos20
February 19th, 2010 at 8:46 am
No. Adoption should be an absolute last resort; your baby belongs with his/her Momma
All the best to you and the daddy-to-be
Here’s something to give you strength, written by a young lady who was once in your shoes and managed to resist pressure from others: H******
February 20th, 2010 at 8:34 am
Being very young and expecting, you will be on an emotional roller coaster. You need to consider everything before deciding whether you should raise the baby or put the baby up for adoption.
Think about things like this…will your parent(s) be there to help you..who will watch the baby while you finish school…how will you be able to afford baby..are you willing to give up your dances/parties/get togethers because you need to have baby home to bed…is it you asking your bf to move in, or him bringing it up..is he helping you in the decision or just has his mind set on one thing…will he be around in a few years? (50% chance he will not, so plan carefully for the future). Think of these things and more. Answer them realistically, not as you want them to be. Talk to adults for opinions and then decide when you are ready to decide. I would not have the bf move in. Personally I would not allow it in my house (I have three daughters). Talk to the family. This affects every single one of them in the house too. pissy_old_lady
February 22nd, 2010 at 5:06 am
That doesn’t any sense.
if you can and want to take care of the baby then keep him/her. If you feel that someone else could give the child a better life THEN pick adoption.
follow your heart. and choose the right decision for your child.
don’t do adoption becasue others want you to .
i had my baby at 15 (didn’t have the fathers help) my son is almost 2 and the joy in my life.
you can raise this child at a young age.
best advice i have is follow your heart. you don’t want to regret things later down the road. aam1206
February 24th, 2010 at 5:02 pm
thats a really tuff desision, im 14 , and all i want when im older is to have a child. but the thing is your young and it will put alot of stress on you the next 20 or more years, and if the guy leaves you then your stuck with the kid , and youll have to work twice as hard to surport yourself and to give the child the nessesitys. and everything she/he might want, like just think how much you might of costed your parents.
but also rasing a family is an amazing experince that i wish i could skip too lol , you will have so many great moments with rasing him/her. from scrapbooking baby pics and pics of family vacations, to seeing how proud the fathers face would be when she/he gets good grades or wins a game in sports or whatever they do. then redoing there room with them, and helping them with homework , having a person you know you can always trust in this world and that will always be there for you and will listen.
they say the first childs always more like the father and a daddys girl but thats all matterd on how there rasied.
so if i was in the situation your in right now i would keep the baby. theres nothing better then having someone to love in this messed up world.
a few girl names i like are…
Persilla, Prudence, Emily , Lillian , Evana , Michelle , Elocin , Fay , Scarrlet, April, and Nicole
some cute guy names are….
Mikel, Kevin ,Maxwell , Mark , Shlomo , Eliser , Jason, Joel , Phillip …. Nikki
February 26th, 2010 at 6:44 pm
If you are willing to take care of your baby and you think that you can then you should do what your heart and head are telling you to do. You need to just weigh out your options and discuss them with your boyfriend and someone you trust so you can make the best possible choice for you and your baby. Lil’ Dog
February 27th, 2010 at 5:29 am
No, you both are willing to raise your child so be parents and treasure your baby, good luck! Pip
February 27th, 2010 at 6:45 am
First of all babies are a lot of work at any age. I had my first baby at 18. If your considering adoption you should probably go with adoption. Why I say that is because in your question you say you are both willing to take care of your baby! You should be excited and no question about it. Now about your boyfriend moving in(if you decided to keep your baby), you two need to have your own place. Take responsibilites!! *OneLove*
March 2nd, 2010 at 12:41 am
dont give it up for adoption i was adopted my foster parients touched me and she use to stick a broom stick in my ass it hurt really bad no lie Large A
March 2nd, 2010 at 6:14 am
How would you feel if you were raised by guardians who aren’t even your blood when they could be raised by your biological parents? And think about grandkids, too. I’m sure they would rather like to know their blood g-parents, don’t cha think? Don’t put your baby up for adoption…because your first born is always the most important. Blondie
May 20th, 2010 at 1:05 pm
If you are considering adoption, then I suggest you do it. It will be to the benefit of the child to be in a home that is best for the child. Just because you had a baby does not meen that you have to raise the child. I am on the list of becoming an adoptive parent, if you decide to give your baby up for adoption I would take your child and pay for all expenses relating to the adoption.
Good luck in your decision.