Comments on: should i keep my baby or put it up for adoption? http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/ Thu, 17 May 2012 21:27:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Sarah C http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6001 Sarah C Sun, 03 Jan 2010 05:45:47 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-6001 I was 19 when I had my daughter. I kept her without a doubt. Ultimately, it is your decision, not your mother's. You are of legal age. I did, however, give my son up when I was 23 (in 2003). I was still a single mother and could not take on 2 children by myself. We are involved in an open adoption and it has been great. I have done both and struggled either way. I can see that you do want to keep the baby. Do some soul searching. If everyone waited to be "ready" for kids, it would NEVER come. God Bless and feel free to contact me if you want. I am a good listener.<a href="http://www.jewelrymakingidea.com/jewelry-making-book.htm"> Sarah C</a> I was 19 when I had my daughter. I kept her without a doubt. Ultimately, it is your decision, not your mother’s. You are of legal age. I did, however, give my son up when I was 23 (in 2003). I was still a single mother and could not take on 2 children by myself. We are involved in an open adoption and it has been great. I have done both and struggled either way. I can see that you do want to keep the baby. Do some soul searching.

If everyone waited to be “ready” for kids, it would NEVER come.

God Bless and feel free to contact me if you want. I am a good listener. Sarah C

]]> By: Tazz http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-6000 Tazz Sat, 02 Jan 2010 22:56:24 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-6000 Hello, Sorry for your situation. I think best will be for you five up for adoption baby, I now it is very difficult. We are working with an Agency for baby adoption. The process is very long and lots of waiting. We are looking on our own too, if we find birth mother on our own our agency will help with the process. Thank you for your time.Our e-mail is<a href="http://www.greattoolsusa.com/levels-and-squares-4323"> Tazz</a> Hello, Sorry for your situation. I think best will be for you five up for adoption baby, I now it is very difficult.

We are working with an Agency for baby adoption. The process is very long and lots of waiting. We are looking on our own too, if we find birth mother on our own our agency will help with the process. Thank you for your time.Our e-mail is Tazz

]]> By: chiliswoman http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5999 chiliswoman Fri, 01 Jan 2010 00:53:23 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-5999 I'm helping a friend right now who is struggling because he kept his baby. He didn't want her to abort. So he is raising the baby alone. He is a bit older than you and he is having a very tough time. He still wants to have a life with his friends. He still wants to go to school. He still wants a career. But all of that is on hold while he takes care of his baby. I try to tell him all that can come later, but he is young and wants it now. So after 10 months he is thinking he must give her up for adoption. So many hearts will be broken- but the reality is - it is probably the best decision for all. Give your baby the best start you can. Let person/s who are ready in every way to love your child. You are already thinking you might not be able to. All the demands of a baby are twice what you imagine they will be - and it is 24/7 for almost as many years as you are old. Adoption is love.<a href="http://www.safedebthelp.com/credit-card-consolidation-debt-help.htm"> chiliswoman</a> I’m helping a friend right now who is struggling because he kept his baby. He didn’t want her to abort. So he is raising the baby alone. He is a bit older than you and he is having a very tough time. He still wants to have a life with his friends. He still wants to go to school. He still wants a career. But all of that is on hold while he takes care of his baby. I try to tell him all that can come later, but he is young and wants it now. So after 10 months he is thinking he must give her up for adoption. So many hearts will be broken- but the reality is - it is probably the best decision for all.

Give your baby the best start you can. Let person/s who are ready in every way to love your child. You are already thinking you might not be able to. All the demands of a baby are twice what you imagine they will be - and it is 24/7 for almost as many years as you are old.

Adoption is love. chiliswoman

]]> By: snowwillow20 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5998 snowwillow20 Mon, 28 Dec 2009 14:30:57 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-5998 It's very traumatic to give your child up for adoption, it can really screw you up. Women should be counseled on how to keep your child not counseled on how to give him up. Do not let others tell you what you should do. You might have to make some sacrifices, but it will be best in the long run. I gave up my daughter 35 years ago, I was never the same after that, I felt worthless and buried my secret. only a few people knew. So I carried that secret around for 29 years. Then I found her and found out even though she has a wonderful mom, things had happened in her life and she always had feelings of abandonment, even now after 6 years, she still has feeling of abandonment, I am trying to be her friend and even she doesn't know what she wants from me. I am willing to give her the moon. When she got pregnant (not married) her family said to give him up, but she knew how it felt and didn't do it. I'm so proud of her. I love my b daughter and her children and I've missed out on so much all because I was weak and no one knew how this would affect everyone. I hope you will keep your baby, I wish i had.<a href="http://www.safedebthelp.com/debt-help-settlement.htm"> snowwillow20</a> It’s very traumatic to give your child up for adoption, it can really screw you up. Women should be counseled on how to keep your child not counseled on how to give him up. Do not let others tell you what you should do. You might have to make some sacrifices, but it will be best in the long run. I gave up my daughter 35 years ago, I was never the same after that, I felt worthless and buried my secret. only a few people knew. So I carried that secret around for 29 years. Then I found her and found out even though she has a wonderful mom, things had happened in her life and she always had feelings of abandonment, even now after 6 years, she still has feeling of abandonment, I am trying to be her friend and even she doesn’t know what she wants from me. I am willing to give her the moon. When she got pregnant (not married) her family said to give him up, but she knew how it felt and didn’t do it. I’m so proud of her. I love my b daughter and her children and I’ve missed out on so much all because I was weak and no one knew how this would affect everyone.
I hope you will keep your baby, I wish i had. snowwillow20

]]> By: wife2denizmoi http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5997 wife2denizmoi Fri, 25 Dec 2009 23:03:31 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-5997 You have to go with your heart. If you think that you can do it and will not resent your child for the things that you will miss or not be able to afford, then by all means keep him with you. Good luck.<a href="http://www.bigjobtools.com/srch/srch.php?q=Delta"> wife2denizmoi</a> You have to go with your heart. If you think that you can do it and will not resent your child for the things that you will miss or not be able to afford, then by all means keep him with you. Good luck. wife2denizmoi

]]> By: shareeka http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5996 shareeka Fri, 25 Dec 2009 14:54:31 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-5996 please keep your baby, as long as you always hold him, he will know that you wanted to keep him, and he wont take it for granted<a href="http://www.myislandholiday.com/fiji-island-vacation.htm"> shareeka</a> please keep your baby, as long as you always hold him, he will know that you wanted to keep him, and he wont take it for granted shareeka

]]> By: Tsunami http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5995 Tsunami Thu, 24 Dec 2009 16:42:41 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-5995 there are two sides to this. first of all one is that if you let him go there would be good loving parents for him. he would have a good home. he would wonder most of his life whether he was wanted you could write a letter to him and let them keep it or have open adoption. but to me its better to have it closed and when the time comes he can come find you leave a letter addressed to him. its hard to raise someone by yourself. i am not sure how ready you are to do this and that is why your mom tells you to give him away. its very hard and money will be tight. it would be very hard on all of you and the baby sitting and the sickness and all by yourself is hard. it would be better when you are ready to marry and have kids and you can later look for him when hes 18. i dont' know what really to say just look and search yourself and see its not a crime to give them up. i know its seems horrible but sometimes its best and find them later and they are find and happy adjusted people i sure am. take care.<a href="http://www.resumeminers.com/home-business.htm"> Tsunami</a> there are two sides to this. first of all one is that if you let him go there would be good loving parents for him. he would have a good home. he would wonder most of his life whether he was wanted you could write a letter to him and let them keep it or have open adoption. but to me its better to have it closed and when the time comes he can come find you leave a letter addressed to him. its hard to raise someone by yourself. i am not sure how ready you are to do this and that is why your mom tells you to give him away. its very hard and money will be tight. it would be very hard on all of you and the baby sitting and the sickness and all by yourself is hard. it would be better when you are ready to marry and have kids and you can later look for him when hes 18. i dont’ know what really to say just look and search yourself and see its not a crime to give them up. i know its seems horrible but sometimes its best and find them later and they are find and happy adjusted people i sure am. take care. Tsunami

]]> By: Heather H http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5994 Heather H Wed, 23 Dec 2009 10:42:41 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-5994 Keep your child, as nature intended Shame on people who say keeping your own child is selfish! They are the same kind of people who confuse the heck out of a child by saying stuff like 'Your mommy loved you so much, she gave you away to us' How can that ever make sense to a child? I mean, really? Baby needs Mommy. Do some reading honey. The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier and the Secret Life of the Unborn Child A word of caution. Open adoptions are not enforceable and whilst there are some honorable people out there who will stick to the agreement, there are many many heartbreaking stories of mothers who have been cut off the moment the adoption is finalized<a href="http://www.greatjewelrydesign.com/diamond-343"> Heather H</a> Keep your child, as nature intended

Shame on people who say keeping your own child is selfish!

They are the same kind of people who confuse the heck out of a child by saying stuff like ‘Your mommy loved you so much, she gave you away to us’ How can that ever make sense to a child? I mean, really?

Baby needs Mommy. Do some reading honey. The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier and the Secret Life of the Unborn Child

A word of caution. Open adoptions are not enforceable and whilst there are some honorable people out there who will stick to the agreement, there are many many heartbreaking stories of mothers who have been cut off the moment the adoption is finalized Heather H

]]> By: Amy B http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5993 Amy B Mon, 21 Dec 2009 09:26:26 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-5993 First of all, I want to let you know how much I respect you for carrying this child and giving him life rather than choosing abortion. I can't begin to imagine how you feel, but let me tell you about my experience with adoption. My husband and I just adopted a beautiful baby girl in June after trying for 7 years to get pregnant or adopt. The birthmother who placed her with us is 18 and loves her little girl very much. She realized that she couldn't provide everything for her daughter that she wanted her to have and loved her enough to give her to us so that she can have the kind of life that she really wants for her. We keep in touch with her regulary and share pictures and emails. We even talk on the phone a lot. It has been such an amazing experience and we love our daughter's birthmother so much. Adoption isn't about giving your baby up, it's about giving them more than you could provide if you were to keep them. This amazing young woman gave us the miracle we have been hoping for for such a long time. This is a decision YOU ultimately have to make. The most important thing to think about is what is best for the baby. You have to look at all of the options and really try to figure out what that is. I can't imagine what my life would be like without my dad. You can give this baby a mom, but what about a dad?? True, there are many single parents these days, but what are the effects on their children? This is something you shouldn't have to face alone. There is a website for our agency -- . You can look on the site and get information and resources for free. There is also an 800 number you can call toll free to speak with a caseworker who can help you explore all of your options (marriage, adoption, single parenting, etc.) at no charge. Their birth parent services are completely free of charge. They won't pressure you into anything, just help you have the facts you need in order to make a decision you feel confident about for your precious child. Good luck with your difficult decision. Thank you for even considering adoption for your child. There are so many infertile couples out there who want children more than anything and it's young women like you that have the ability to fulfill that dream for them. Amy<a href="http://www.safedebthelp.com/debt-reduction-service-help.htm"> Amy B</a> First of all, I want to let you know how much I respect you for carrying this child and giving him life rather than choosing abortion. I can’t begin to imagine how you feel, but let me tell you about my experience with adoption. My husband and I just adopted a beautiful baby girl in June after trying for 7 years to get pregnant or adopt. The birthmother who placed her with us is 18 and loves her little girl very much. She realized that she couldn’t provide everything for her daughter that she wanted her to have and loved her enough to give her to us so that she can have the kind of life that she really wants for her. We keep in touch with her regulary and share pictures and emails. We even talk on the phone a lot. It has been such an amazing experience and we love our daughter’s birthmother so much. Adoption isn’t about giving your baby up, it’s about giving them more than you could provide if you were to keep them. This amazing young woman gave us the miracle we have been hoping for for such a long time.

This is a decision YOU ultimately have to make. The most important thing to think about is what is best for the baby. You have to look at all of the options and really try to figure out what that is. I can’t imagine what my life would be like without my dad. You can give this baby a mom, but what about a dad?? True, there are many single parents these days, but what are the effects on their children?

This is something you shouldn’t have to face alone. There is a website for our agency — . You can look on the site and get information and resources for free. There is also an 800 number you can call toll free to speak with a caseworker who can help you explore all of your options (marriage, adoption, single parenting, etc.) at no charge. Their birth parent services are completely free of charge. They won’t pressure you into anything, just help you have the facts you need in order to make a decision you feel confident about for your precious child.

Good luck with your difficult decision. Thank you for even considering adoption for your child. There are so many infertile couples out there who want children more than anything and it’s young women like you that have the ability to fulfill that dream for them.

Amy Amy B

]]> By: *GIGGLES* http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/comment-page-1/#comment-5992 *GIGGLES* Mon, 21 Dec 2009 00:32:06 +0000 http://www.myadoptedbaby.com/blog/should-i-keep-my-baby-or-put-it-up-for-adoption/#comment-5992 I believe you should keep him. Only money you need is a roof over your head, and diapers and food for him. you dont need a hell of a lot just the basic's. remember all he really needs is your love.<a href="http://www.pdabuyingguide.com/pda-stylus-9141"> *GIGGLES*</a> I believe you should keep him. Only money you need is a roof over your head, and diapers and food for him. you dont need a hell of a lot just the basic’s. remember all he really needs is your love. *GIGGLES*

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