Should I put my baby for adoption?
Jodie M asked:
here is my problems:
I am 22 years old and confused well ,knocked up and confused.
I was falling out of love with my baby daddy he knew it an all start screwing around with other people I was mad but can’t let him go then I find out I’m pregnant.
He says whatever I want to do with the baby is cool he’s for it but I say adoption he’s like “no” he’d rather take care of it
I still live with my parents and they would rather take care of the baby to
I feel like my mom has no job my boyfriend has no job my grandma has income but is struggling so I want to give up to a family who is more financial stable I was looking into an open adoption
but me working I’m embarrassed cause I never knew anyone who you know gave their baby up for adoption
I’m thinking about just quitting my job and being a stay at home mom to but seriously thats stupid i’d be even more you know broke .
What should I do?
I would be embrassed to come to work pregnant and then tell everyone I’m giving my baby away
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here is my problems:
I am 22 years old and confused well ,knocked up and confused.
I was falling out of love with my baby daddy he knew it an all start screwing around with other people I was mad but can’t let him go then I find out I’m pregnant.
He says whatever I want to do with the baby is cool he’s for it but I say adoption he’s like “no” he’d rather take care of it
I still live with my parents and they would rather take care of the baby to
I feel like my mom has no job my boyfriend has no job my grandma has income but is struggling so I want to give up to a family who is more financial stable I was looking into an open adoption
but me working I’m embarrassed cause I never knew anyone who you know gave their baby up for adoption
I’m thinking about just quitting my job and being a stay at home mom to but seriously thats stupid i’d be even more you know broke .
What should I do?
I would be embrassed to come to work pregnant and then tell everyone I’m giving my baby away
November 22nd, 2009 at 7:53 am
PARANOiD NiKKi
November 25th, 2009 at 2:42 am
Yes give the baby up for adoption. You say yourself you cant afford it. Give your baby a chance to have a good life, you can chose open adoption so you can still be a part of their life! Happily Married and expecting #2
November 26th, 2009 at 11:04 am
I dont think you shouled give it up for adoption my mom did that with one of my brothers because she couldn’t afford it and at the time she thought it was good but now she regrets it… I am 20 and pregnant and the dad left me but I have my mom and step-dad to help me. If your faqmily is willing to help you then I say keep it. You will regret giving it up later. Jessi C
November 28th, 2009 at 1:55 pm
If you are a true mother you wont be able to. I actually thought about it and looked into it and got paperwork for my second daughter. But I decided to keep it, I was 22 years old too. I kept her and I would be miserable if I didnt. Wondering where she was, what she was doing, if she was okay and so on, I would feel terrible to know my baby was out there and worrying. It is harder to worry about them then to keep them. I love my daughter dearly and thank the LOrd I didnt go through with it. You are capable, if your parents help that is a blessing even if he chooses not to help out, you will change once you have that beautiful baby in your arms and you wont even need him, unless he wants to be there, and if he is then good, if not you will be fine. God bless *
November 28th, 2009 at 5:11 pm
That is a decision only you can make, it shouldnt be whether about you are embarassed or what others tell you. Its about how much you love and care for the baby. Putting the baby up for adoption doesnt mean you dont love him or her, it just means u know that someones else could provide her with a better life. Good luck! =]
November 29th, 2009 at 7:41 pm
I know 22 is young to have a baby,but I had my first one at 22.I would say keep the baby.I think that you have enough family support.You have long enough to decide if you wanna be a stay at home mom.I would continue working your job and when it gets closer to the due date then I would make up my mind if I wanted to be a stay at home mom or not.Babies are Beautiful and once you see him/her you will not want to give him/her up.It’s a part of you.No one is ever ready financially for children.I have three and will never have enough money.It’s your choice if the two of you want to work on your relationship and try to do it for the baby.Just listen to your heart and no one else when it comes to staying with him or not.Just let him know that you will need his support.I would say you can do it and Congrats.I think you will do a great job with all the support.Maybe he will wake up and grow up and take responsibilities and work and be a great boyfriend and father. purpledolphin
November 30th, 2009 at 7:38 am
You sound like you’ve sort of already made your decision. I will give you props for thinking this through and not trying to put the strain on the rest of the family to take care of the baby. As for work, I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Just kind of bring it up maybe now about how you were thinking about it and your reasons and I’m sure they will not judge you like you think they will. Those who do try to look down on you need to shove it anyways, your being a good parent by putting your child in a better situation to have the best life possible. 26wks A Little Sailor Is Coming!
December 1st, 2009 at 12:18 pm
Well, I was adopted when i was about 4. It was because my parents were unfit. i was adopted w/ my 8 siblings. I still remember the house that we lived in the last time i saw my mother and little sister. i could draw the floor plan if i wanted to. i think that you should probably pray about this. if you feel led to put your child in adoption, i would try to get a way to choose where your child be put to live, and have a new family. many families that are with the adoption people really aren’t that fit. i have learned this from experience w/ my siblings. If you think that u won’t be able to take care of the child, or that your child would be better off somewhere else, then i would say yes. but, that may not be ur circumstance. I think that you should just pray a lot about this decision. It is one that will affect you the rest of your life. Though, i think you should probably keep the child. but if so, then i really think that u should make sure that this child has a father. and lots and lots of love. so much that it is just spilling out everywhere. Mea