I am the birthmother of a baby I gave up for adoption 22 years ago. Where do the parents come in on this?


Posted October 27th, 2009 by admin 18 Comments »
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Noodles asked:


I have just been contacted by a cousin of the baby I gave up for adoption 22 yrs. ago. My thoughts are this: How do I ask politely if his parents support his decision searching out his birth parents? I realize he is an adult but I want to consider their feelings in this matter also. Any thoughts?

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why do women place a baby for adoption, the seek the child out as an adult?


Posted March 18th, 2009 by admin 16 Comments »
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Weeme asked:


l just think it’s unfair to give a child up for adoption, let someone else raise it and do the hard yards, then expect to come into this child’s life as an adult and say “l’m your Mom”. l’m not saying the child shouldn’t know who the birthparents are, and if they want to seek them out it’s a different story, but l feel like it’s selfish to give up a child then want them back on your terms. What do others think about this? What about the biological parent ‘having a say’ in the child’s life? Doesn’t this completely negate the point of adoption?

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