My Adopted Baby

Erica asked:


my best friend is 21 and pregnant. Her babies father might go to prison and is in jail now. She feels like giving her baby to her aunt and uncle who cant have kids. She could support the baby but it wont be easy…i know she can do it. Anyone put their baby up for adoption and regret it? How does it feel giving up your child?
I just dont think she should do it. Why be selfish so she can have a normal 21 year old life. Why doesnt she get a full time job and support her child. honestly .

Randy B asked:


We’ve recently welcomed a baby into our home as a foster baby. She came to us as a 4 day old and she is now 2 months. The program in our area is such that babies like her go into foster care, for various reasons, and CAS goes to court for permanent guardianship. Once that is granted the baby goes for adoption and in this case we will be the adoptive parents. That way there is no movement from home to time prior to adoption and she gets a chance to bond from the start with her new family.

This little one was given the name Brooke-Lynn by her bio mother. Both my wife and I love Brooke because it has a connection to my family but the whole Brooke-Lynn, Brooklyn, Brooke Lynn combo is a non starter for us.

We are going to keep the Brooke part of her current name but as part of the adoption process we are going to give her the middle name of Kendell.

How does Brooke Kendell sound as a name?

Dana asked:


I am of the opinion that there are three kinds of people:
1. Those who would only raise their child themselves
2. Those who would either have an abortion or raise their own child
3. Those who would give their child up for adoption or raise it themselves.

I really don’t think there are many people out there who would consider all three options, therefore outlawing abortion wouldn’t make any significant impact on adoption rates. All it would do is increase the number of single mothers, teen mothers, and illegal abortions.

Are there more people out there who would give their baby up for adoption in the absence of safe, legal abortions than I think?

ItsMe asked:


My cousins have just adopted an infant, something they have been waiting for for about 8 years. In that time they have acquired all the babies material needs (furniture, clothes etc.), however they accumulated a large amount of debt during the adoption process. Now that we are able to finally have a “baby shower” all they really need is financial help. Is it inappropriate to ask for money on the invitation instead of the usual registering for “stuff”? If it’s not inappropriate, do you have any ideas of how to “word” that on an invitation?
Wow, I didn’t realize I would get such “strong” responses from this.

But I wanted to add a little more detail becasue it seems that my “good intentions” are a little misunderstood.

What I’m tryingn to say, is that people WILL bring gifts, I have no doubt about that, but the idea behind my questions is that instead of the parents getting 22 receiving blankets and 5 bathtubs, etc. that a gift in the form of a donation, maybe to a college fund, would be money better spent by caring family members who want to participate in this joyus occasion.

And, by the way, to those that seem to think the parents are “poor” or that “if they BOUGHT the kid, then they should expect to be in debt” I’m sorry that you think that, it’s quite the opposite, but thanks for your pitiful input.

maybe asked:


Everyone talks about adoption as a “win” for everyone involved. What does a mother “win” when she loses her baby to adoption?
ETA: Based on many respones, it appears that many people think women are eager to get rid of their babies. Why do you believe this?

poindextera asked:


When I was going through my divorce I had 3 boys under 4 the youngest was 6months old. I then got raped and that resulted in a pregnancy. I was talking to a friend and mentioned I had four babies in 5 years. She said what and I told her. She said I was the worst mother in the world,

♥BABY♥ asked:


okay i know some mothers just cant deal with their babys but i dont know i dont think i could ever deal with giving my baby for adoption…how do some mothers give them up like that why cant they fight for their babies?
ps:im not pregnant im just wondering no im not putting these mothers down im saying i dont think i can deal with this.
when the hell did i say abortion was ok????

jo asked:


I am helping a friend find her mother, but I am worried that it will back fire. Just wondered how some of you out there feel.
This mum gave up the baby because she was 15 and her mum was expecting around the same time. No room for 2 babies.
And my friend’s adoptive family split, with her ending up back in care, so she really needs a family.

Gershom asked:


I see this an an argument in favor of adoption often. That babies need to be well taken care of and its a hard job, by choosing adoption, you’ll know your child is taken well care of….

How can someone say this? Can anybody prove this?

nicolee52 asked:


Our rabbit had five babies together, all in the nest box. Four of the babies are staying together in the next box, in the hollow dug out by their mom, but one baby keeps crawling out and across the nest box, away from the other babies. How to I keep them together?