My Adopted Baby

Kayla asked:


If someone adopts a newborn…is it weird to have a baby shower since the person is not actually pregnant?

ItsMe asked:


My cousins have just adopted an infant, something they have been waiting for for about 8 years. In that time they have acquired all the babies material needs (furniture, clothes etc.), however they accumulated a large amount of debt during the adoption process. Now that we are able to finally have a “baby shower” all they really need is financial help. Is it inappropriate to ask for money on the invitation instead of the usual registering for “stuff”? If it’s not inappropriate, do you have any ideas of how to “word” that on an invitation?
Wow, I didn’t realize I would get such “strong” responses from this.

But I wanted to add a little more detail becasue it seems that my “good intentions” are a little misunderstood.

What I’m tryingn to say, is that people WILL bring gifts, I have no doubt about that, but the idea behind my questions is that instead of the parents getting 22 receiving blankets and 5 bathtubs, etc. that a gift in the form of a donation, maybe to a college fund, would be money better spent by caring family members who want to participate in this joyus occasion.

And, by the way, to those that seem to think the parents are “poor” or that “if they BOUGHT the kid, then they should expect to be in debt” I’m sorry that you think that, it’s quite the opposite, but thanks for your pitiful input.

Tilly123 asked:


If you were in the process of adopting a newborn, would you have your baby shower before or after you adopt your baby and why?

Thank you

In Need Of Help asked:


Hello, I am just wondering if a “Baby Shower” is important enough to decline a friends party that I already told that I was going, now I can’t because of the baby shower? The party is tomorrow and I don’t know how to excuse without hurting her feelings. Thank you.