My Adopted Baby

sweetcoloradochick asked:


i am so happy that my sister gave her baby up for adoption. the problem is, is that my family is still attached to the child and still call the baby theirs. meanwhile their only grandson, my son is put on the back burner for this baby that isn’t even theirs anymore. i am frustrated and doen right pissed off because my son is put second, even my grandmother will not see my son but made a huge deal about seeing the other baby.
i was not near the family when all of this went down, i have meet the child and do not feel any conection with him because i feel that he has been given to a great wonderful family and that he is now not a part of our family.
my husband is also adopted and i would never consider his birth mother to be an actually part of the family, don’t get me wrong we are very grateful to her, but thats as far as it goes.
how can i convey this to my family in a tactful manner.
it’s an open adoption and it has been 8 months and nothing has gotten better. the adopting family have had to cut contact with my mom and sister who is 19, because they want to go see him all the time, they have seen him about 3-4 times
i am actually my grandmas favorite grandchild because in her eyes i do everything right ( i will let her think that LOL) but i think that she won’;t see him because she doesn’t want to lose another great grandchild
actually, i didn;t adopt and if i did i would tell them of the great and loving sacrifice that their birth mother did for them.
spoochy you are really mature.
my husband is the one that has the harder time eith all of this and he is the one that is adopted. i don;’t think that i would get upset but i see how it is affecting my son and when he asks me why his grandparents always talk about this other child and not him, that tends to hit a nerve.

friend asked:


I was wondering what LDS FS offers a birth mom for placing her baby for adoption.. What it includes money wise for them? Like if they pay for hosptial or whatever other costs that are involved? Does the birth mom get rent money or any assistant that way? How about counseling? How long? If you have any thing about what they have to offer would love to know… Thanks

act_won asked:


what if you dated someone and found out years later she had your baby and put the child up for adoption. You didnt know she was pregnant with your child. would you try to find your baby and raise it on your own?

ladies, would you hide a pregnancy from a man and either abort it or put it up for adoption without him knowing?

what do you think of people who would do that?

[♥] KaDeN’s MoMmY [♥] asked:


when you were young and it was an open adoption and in the future you want them back? a friend of mind had a baby when she was 16 and she gave him up for adoption and now regrets it. can the parents of the child make the adoption closed?..and what all happens with an open adoption i know she was getting pictures of him and still is. but does that mean she could see him too? i didnt agree with the adoption thing but it was what was best for the child . and i dont judge her because of that so please no rude comments. thanks
the baby is 3 years old.

__A_YAHOO_USER__ asked:


I don’t know if this makes sense but I am assuming that while you are still impregnated, you can sign papers to give the child up for adoption? And at how many months is the earliest?
oh god, i’m 15..i’m definitely not pregnant

Shaquana asked:


I know that it cost alot to get a child from adoption so where do all that money go? how much do the momma get ‘cuz I’m pregnant and I am wanting a abortion but maybe adoption might be better.

mommymystic asked:


I am going through this right now,and am looking for help to understand how I make it through this.

Nikki asked:


Its not right! What do you think? Do you have an opinion? Is there exceptions? Should there be new laws?
I am being honest not trying to start anything! I told my story about giving my child up for adoption and I was practicly bashed for it!

Weeme asked:


l just think it’s unfair to give a child up for adoption, let someone else raise it and do the hard yards, then expect to come into this child’s life as an adult and say “l’m your Mom”. l’m not saying the child shouldn’t know who the birthparents are, and if they want to seek them out it’s a different story, but l feel like it’s selfish to give up a child then want them back on your terms. What do others think about this? What about the biological parent ‘having a say’ in the child’s life? Doesn’t this completely negate the point of adoption?

mommymystic asked:


I am going through this right now,and am looking for help to understand how I make it through this.
this is not a choice I have. It has already been decided. I am dealing with Childrens Services. I do not have a way to get them back. It is not that I don’t want or love them. My heart is breaking in a million pieces. I love them and I want them to have a life I can not give them. Please don’t tell me to talk to a goverment agency they are who made this decision for me. I thought I had more time.
Please don’t judge me. I am looking for help not judgement.
I am not looking for sympathy. My kids were taken from me, not due to abuse of them or me. It was due to a problem in my home. It was not just me it was their father as well. My kids are wonderful. I know they are going to be hurt. I feel like they are going to be heartbroken even more than I am. I love them and they know that.