Consider Adoption with Abusive Mans Baby?
Posted January 11th, 2010 by admin 10 Comments »
Angel asked:
I was dating an abusive man for almost 2 years now & earlier this year I found out I was pregnant. In the course of the last almost 2 years of being & knowing of him, I have been traumatized with too much that I can’t handle to where I can’t get my own life back because of this man. He has done such awful things not only to me but to himself as he is very obsessed with me & has gone so far as to try & hurt himself, making me watch him hurt him self, in MANY types of ways. From being emotionally, mentally, verbally & physically abused with this extremely jealous man to seeing him hurting himself has inflicted alot of trauma within me.
I was dating an abusive man for almost 2 years now & earlier this year I found out I was pregnant. In the course of the last almost 2 years of being & knowing of him, I have been traumatized with too much that I can’t handle to where I can’t get my own life back because of this man. He has done such awful things not only to me but to himself as he is very obsessed with me & has gone so far as to try & hurt himself, making me watch him hurt him self, in MANY types of ways. From being emotionally, mentally, verbally & physically abused with this extremely jealous man to seeing him hurting himself has inflicted alot of trauma within me.
I’m due soon with our baby & I do NOT feel I can do this alone & also his threats of all kinds scares the CRAP out of me. I’m scared of this man period I have severe PTSD. I shouldn’t have to live in fear but how can I care fro a newborn if I’m too scared to for myself?
I have thought of giving up the baby for adoption for HER safety because I do NOT trust what the father will do……I want the best for her.
Is adoption a good idea? I want opinions on this, please. I’m also 36.
Thank you.