ImissMitt asked: I am in a relationship with a man of a year now and I found out a couple months ago I am pregnant. We are not married, nor living together, and right now he does not make enough to support us. I would not be working. I do not want to have a baby when I am not married, I also want to stay home with m baby. He has not done anything to show me that he is serious about stepping up, even though he told me if this ever happened, he would. So now I am considering adoption. I would like to know from some who has done it before. How did you recover from it? Did you hold the baby after you delivered it or not to avoid bonding with it? How long did it take you to recover from it?
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I would rather give my baby to a married intact mom and dad than abort it. I can’t do that to an innocent being. As far as the baby coming to look for me, that actually does not usually happen. But if it did, I would deal with it accordingly.
Um I really dont need a lecture on how I should have practiced this or that you obviously didnt read my question “beautiful”. I don;t know what “a decent life” is. I just know that I will not raise a child as a single parent living with my mom not able to give it the best life it could have just because ” I would miss him/her”. That is selfish.
QUICK FIX? no it is not a “quick fix”. The hardest thing in the world is to give away your baby to have a better life than you could offer. The “quick fix” would be the selfish thing, keep the baby, deprive it of a daddy, deprive it of a stable home, because you would feel terrible going home from the hospital without a baby. Get real.
Hey muslim wolf, you know nothing about me and what birth control I was using. And I guess by me wanting to give my baby the best life possible, I am being “lazy.” Actually, it’s the other way around. Keeping your baby is the easy thing to do. And you sound like a weak person, that is why you “never would” give up your baby for adoption, but you would keep it even if you couldn’t care for it? I feel sad for your kids…
So….by giving your baby a better life than you can provide and giving them to a family who often have waited years to raise a child, thats abandoning them? But, sucking them into a sink, oh thats a happy ending.
Magic,
I actually have not fully chosen abortion. I have a situation, that is not good. I am not going into detail about it, but it’s not an ideal one for a baby to be raised in-far from it. And I am waiting to see if daddy does what he needs to do, and I hope and I pray that he does. As far as the comments, you say they have some truth in them. Well they really don’t. I WAS on birth control, I wasn’t being lazy. (muslim wolf) . Adoption is not abandoning, I think that would be abortion. And it’s NOT a quick fix, as you seem like you should understand. But thanks for your input.
Excuse me, thats supposed to say, “adoption”.
Mary, I respect your opinion, for what you have been through. However, it seems you have such little faith in me. I know right now if I do this what I will lose. Abortion was not an option, and keeping him/her may still be. But adoption is in the picture. It’s not just money either. Money problems alone would not cause me to consider this. I hope that’s obvious…
Sabrina, obviously I am not considering adoption “just because”. There is a little more to it than that. And I understand there are plenty of selfish people who want to deprive their father of a daddy. I am not one of them.
I never knew there were so many anti adoption judgemental idiots on here giving every intellignet answer a “thumbs down”. Does that make you feel better about yourself? are you in control now? what losers….
ok Joy, now its humane to suck babys into sinks? What is this world coming to…
