My Adopted Baby

newenglandjoy asked:


Oh yes now many of you do. Is is not true that you would still have problems? Is this not a convenient way to avoid taking responsibility? I am not trying to offend please believe me. Has not adoption added as much to your life as it has detracted? Is this not true. I am saddened.

amy asked:


I am 17 and made the mistake of becoming pregnant with an 18 year old guy who has a criminal record that consists of everything from felony theft to battery of an officer (please don’t ask me what i was thinking, i’ve already beat myself up plenty over this), and now i have made the decision to place the baby for adoption with a family who will be able to take care of it like him and i never could. I have broken up with him due to his unwillingness to quit smoking pot, cigarettes and drinking throughout the course of my pregnancy (or afterward, for that matter). He has no job, is living in someone’s basement, does not have his license or a car, is on probation and still owes money to the state. The baby is due on February 13th.
He plans to go to court and fight the adoption (which, by the way, would be worked out in such a way that he could see the baby whenever he wanted), and god only knows what he would do with the baby if he won.
The family i want to place the baby with is taking care of me throughout the pregnancy (he did nothing but buy me a shirt once) and will be paying all of the court expenses.

I already know all of the legal ins and outs, but what i want to know is:
If it were YOU on the jury, would you rule in favor of him, or the adoption?
See, actually what i was looking for was a plain and simple answer, not your unwarranted (and incredibly judgmental) opinion.
I am doing this because i want the baby to have a good life with a family that can take care of him or her, not because i don’t want to take responsibility. Actually, this is my way of taking responsibility for my actions in a way that works out best for everyone.
If you think it would be better for me to keep the baby in a bad situation just because “it’s his (like ‘it’ is a pair of shoes or something)”, well then, you’re just being ridiculous.
Let me know next time YOU make a tough decision, so i can be there to criticize you for it when i don’t even know what the hell i’m talking about.