My Adopted Baby

zappa asked:


This is an unplanned pregnancy. My girlfriend and I are in our early twenties. Both of us are still in school. She wants to get married but I don’t think I want to because I m not ready to commit to any longterm relationship. I know deep down I m just not ready to settle down. I know in 2 to 3 years I should be making good money and would be able to support a child; but don’t know if our relationship will work out…what would be best for the baby? adoption? shes want to keep him/or her.

momof3 asked:


My friend’s daugther is expecting her third child any day now and she just decided that she may not want to keep the baby. This was an unplanned pregnancy for both her and her husband and they already have 2 wonderful children. Both parents are very family oriented but also career minded as well. She already has an established career but intended to go back to school to further her education and feels having to care for another child will put those dreams out of the picture. Also, due to last trimester complications, she has had to stop working earlier than planned and the family has suddenly become financially burdened. I was just wondering if anyone else thought that this decision was being selfish or if it sounds like it is in the best interest of the baby. And, what does one tell the other two children who are anticipating the birth of a new sibling. Any reasonable advice is appreciated.
I don’t think that the reasons are because the family has no time to look after the baby, but rather more because of financial reasons that they feel they may not be able to adequately provide for another child at this point in time.