Teen Pregnancy-Keep the baby or adoption?
mc☮♫ asked:
HYPOTHETICAL QUESTION:
Say if I were to get pregnant tomorrow (I’m 16), what are the pro’s and con’s of keeping the child or giving it up for adoption? Termination of the pregnancy is not an option. The father is a good friend, not someone who I would, the situation allowing, marry, but he would be there to support me and be there for all appts and such. What would you do? I have heard that putting the baby up for adoption is harder on the mother, what with post partum depression and separation depression and such. Opinoins?
Really, I promise I’m not pregnant haha. This is just an area of study that I’m interested in. But sadly, it IS all too common amongst teens all across the country, so I am just trying to understand it all. Thanks
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HYPOTHETICAL QUESTION:
Say if I were to get pregnant tomorrow (I’m 16), what are the pro’s and con’s of keeping the child or giving it up for adoption? Termination of the pregnancy is not an option. The father is a good friend, not someone who I would, the situation allowing, marry, but he would be there to support me and be there for all appts and such. What would you do? I have heard that putting the baby up for adoption is harder on the mother, what with post partum depression and separation depression and such. Opinoins?
Really, I promise I’m not pregnant haha. This is just an area of study that I’m interested in. But sadly, it IS all too common amongst teens all across the country, so I am just trying to understand it all. Thanks
January 19th, 2010 at 11:20 am
Sweetie, this depends on one other thing… How supportive would your parents be? You’d have to live with them in order to finish school and have any hope of college. Would they help you out with daycare and such until you get on your feet? If so, I’d say keep the baby. Just Call Me Apple
January 21st, 2010 at 9:19 pm
I think if you can not support the baby, love the baby and provide for the baby unconditionally then it should be put up for adoption. Also do not rush into marriage because of a baby, you should marry because you both have equal feelings of love and devotion to each other. Its something you will have nine months to consider “if” you are pregnant. Adoption can be painful for the mother but its best if the baby can not be taken care of. There are support groups out there that can help you decide what to do. Wendy B
January 22nd, 2010 at 12:47 pm
keep it it deserves a mom Let’s just say you may be already preg? Lizzie
January 23rd, 2010 at 2:54 pm
This is just my opinion, but I would look into an open adoption. I’m not sure exactly how everything works, but I know there is a way to have an adoption where you are still involved in the child’s life. That way, you know your child is being raised by a good family because you still see him/her regularly (maybe once a month). I hope this helps! CLB_NY
January 26th, 2010 at 3:27 pm
I was 31 when I had my first baby. My choice by the way. I went for a career first. If at 16 you find yourself pregnant, I would say adoption would be your best route. It would be hard no doubt, but that’s my opinion. There are so many great people, families who are ready and wanting a child in their lives. Happy2B
January 28th, 2010 at 10:58 pm
the better option is to put the baby up for adoption.
why?
what is best for you…
you can finnish high school, and collage and get your life started without any worries.
you wont have time to take care for the baby and set up your life for the future.
whats best for the baby…
put it up for adoption.
the baby can have a good parent and home that is ready for a child. at 16 you are still going to want to spend time with your friends and stuff….are you willing to give that up for the rest of your life…
so pretty much its better for the baby and yourself. kt–bear
February 1st, 2010 at 5:32 am
If you are in the position to keep the baby, I would. Adoption can be very hard on the child. My ex husband was adopted and is so screwed up now. But that is just him. Maybe he was born an A-hole. There is no reason you have to stay with the father. Especially if he is supportive. The baby can have a wonderful life whether you marry him or not. I raised two of my children by myself for years. They were just fine. Just remember at 16 (or any age for that matter) a baby is a huge life long commitment. Make sure you are ready for that if you decide to keep it. I think it is best for the baby to stay with it’s mother, unless there are circumstances that would make it better for the baby to be adopted. Good luck! I hope all works out! tigerlilly23bb
February 3rd, 2010 at 11:37 am
I was 18 when I had my first child, but I honestly think he is the best thing that has happened to me. Personally, there was no way I could carry a child inside of me everyday for 9 months, and then just give him away. You really have to be willing to dedicate all of your time to this baby though. I lost contact with a lot of friends, but to me it was worth it. It is all based on how much you are willing to sacrifice in your life. It is possible to carry on going to scholl, getting a good job, and being a young mom, but you have to be committed. Dont get married right away either because of the baby. I just married my sons father last month, 5 years later, and I am glad we waited. Good Luck. jo85