Comments on: Teenagers / Baby & Adoption / Law Rights?

By: snowwillow20

snowwillow20 — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 06:39:15 +0000

If you sign her over to anyone you can’t get her back, adoption is permanent. Make your Mom legal guardian. Your boyfriend needs to sign over his rights if you put your daughter up for adoption. snowwillow20

By: mom of many

mom of many — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 23:06:14 +0000

you cannot sign your baby over to anyone. You sign to terminate your rights and you have no say as to who gets the baby. Don’t sign anything and don’t let anyone of them take the baby unless you want them too. You can go to the state and get medical coverage for her. and yes, for you to put the child up for adoption you do need his permission. mom of many

By: Pip

Pip — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 15:17:26 +0000

I’m actually disgusted that your mother is willing to adopt your baby whereas she should be supporting you in raising YOUR child. Get whatever support you can grab with both hands and raise your child. Good luck and I hope you get the help you need to raise your child. Pip

By: 7rin

7rin — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 15:50:17 +0000

DO NOT SIGN YOUR CHILD OVER TO **ANYONE** - NOT EVEN YOUR OWN MOM!

Seriously, people in the most loving of families have upped sticks and vanished with the child of a sibling or a child or a cousin.

Look into special guardianship/private fostering only (see for more information if you’re in the UK), since these are the only ways you’re left with an option to fight to keep your child, should you be in a more stable position in the future.

You CAN NOT “sign her back” if you decide to go ahead with adoption. At most, you could adopt her back - if she wanted to be adopted back - after she’s become a legal adult.

OPEN ADOPTIONS ARE NOT LEGALLY ENFORCIBLE IN MOST OF THE WORLD.

Parenting your child is the best option of all, and being aided in parenting your child by someone else is icing on the cake. Some of the links at may be of use to you. 7rin

By: Samantha

Samantha — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 23:24:28 +0000

NO!! you do not sign her over to nobody!!!! not even your mom, because then they will have more of a chance to take her. If you are taking care of her like a mom should you have no worries. They can not take her from you. The state wants the child to be with their mother unless the mother is unfit.. Keep her under you DO NOT SIGN her over to nobody… You have a better chance. AND yes the father has to sign his right over as well. Samantha

By: LORI

LORI — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 19:28:25 +0000

If you don’t have insurance for her just sign her up for Medicaid, the insurance for kids is pretty decent actually and its free. If you aren’t eligible for that, most states have other public insurance programs that you/her could qualify for. Chances are you can get her on Medicaid, call your local social services/welfare office and make an appointment and see what type of assistance and insurance you can get for her.

Yes, you would need him to sign away his parental rights in order for your mother to adopt your child, you’d need to sign away all of yours to. It doesn’t even really sound like you want your mother to adopt her? I mean, you sound like you want to be her mother, unless I’m missing something? If you place her for adoption with anyone- your mother, her other grandparents, someone from church, etcetc. you can never ever get those rights back. Once a kid is adopted that is permanent and you are no longer her mother and will have no legal rights to her at any point unless the other person agrees and lets you adopt her from them. I don’t think that adoption is necessary in your situation in order for you to care for her, so unless you just don’t want/can’t deal with being a mom anymore then don’t let go of your parental rights at all. LORI

By: Savy Jo

Savy Jo — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 00:38:23 +0000

If your mother is willing to help you raise your baby so you can stay in school then I wouldn’t give go the adoption route. See if your state has any kind of insurance available for you. Yes if you do give your child up then he would have to sign as well. Savy Jo

By: Dalton's Mommy & Kaiah due 2

Dalton's Mommy & Kaiah due 2 — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 19:52:13 +0000

First off, breathe! Your age alone cannot make you a bad parent. His parents would have to prove you are unfit (and not having health insurance isn’t the best thing but you can get Medicaid to help) Yes, he would need to sign the paper so your mom could adopt. But, if you are living with your mom then I doubt you would need to do that. A Judge should be able to see you have a mom that is willing to help you and let you live with her. So long as she isnt doing anything illegal etc. you should be fine. Dalton’s Mommy & Kaiah due 2

By: BraxOwl

BraxOwl — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 18:24:51 +0000

First, your daughter is eligible for medicaid. Noone needs to adopt her in order for her to get insurance. That is a BAD idea, whether it is your mother or anyone else. You can retain your rights to your child.

If you want to place your child for adoption, then yes- for the adoption to be legal the baby’s father must consent. If he does not, an adoption can not be finalized legally. If you were to be dishonest and say you did not know who the fatehr is, he could contest it in court. If you do not want your child but the father does, he would be given custody.

If noone can agree, a court will intervene and decide who is best to raise the child (your mother or your daughter’s other grandparents). Generally speaking, though, they will not remove her from your care unless you are abusive/neglectful or want to willfully give her up for adoption.

Again, if insurance is what is behind all of this just get Medicaid or another state insurance. Your being a minor will NOT prevent you from doing so and anyone that tells you otherwise is trying to manipulate you. BraxOwl

By: Morgaine

Morgaine — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 18:40:50 +0000

Keep your baby. They cannot force you to place her. Move in with your mom and have her help you out. If she has insurance you will be covered and so should your child. If she doesn’t have insurance you will have to get it through medicaid. I don’t know where you live, but you need to google social services for your area and get all the help you need.

I am including the WIC website for you, it would be a good place to start at least to get help.

Good luck. Please please please keep your baby.

ETA: I am adding more links as I find them. Please look into getting help so you can keep your little girl! Morgaine